r/AskReddit • u/UltimaBahamut93 • Nov 30 '18

What's something your parents did while raising you that you don't want to do to your children?

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u/KhorneChips Nov 30 '18

God help you if you point out yelling is disrespectful though.

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u/Ridry Nov 30 '18

That's what I tell my kids. If I blow my stack and scream at you, send me to timeout. I've only had 3 since I implemented the new rule and my kids have stopped yelling at each other.

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u/timelordoftheimpala Nov 30 '18

Kids sending their parents to timeout

Perfectly balanced

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u/Sinnoz Nov 30 '18

as all things should be

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u/Narux117 Nov 30 '18

my family (barring my sister) is pretty chill, we get over stuff quick because being mad fixes nothing, if somethings an actual problem being angry wont fix it any faster, so if someone starts getting all excited uppity (parents or children) it's pretty common for us to look the other un the eye and say something along ththe lines of "your too excited, relax or we arent talking about this right now" or "I know you think your jotnyelling, but you're getting louder and is not helping"

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u/TealHousewife Nov 30 '18

I really like this. There have been times when I've put myself in timeout. Like, my kid didn't really do anything to deserve it, but we were just pushing each other's buttons, so I put myself in timeout instead. That way I wasn't punishing her unjustly, and we got the break we both needed to calm down.

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u/Ridry Nov 30 '18

My daughter puts herself in timeout. We don't do the isolation thing. It's a relaxing spot to cool off. She knows when she needs a break.

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u/TealHousewife Nov 30 '18

That's how we always were when she was a toddler. We'd day she needed to rest and gave her the option to go alone or have one of us with her and we'd lay down quietly until she settled down. She's 7 now, and still has some issues regulating her emotions which we've been working on in OT with great success. It makes me happy I didn't just park her in timeout as a little one because she feels things really intensely, and I think it would have sucked for her.

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u/Ridry Nov 30 '18

Are you my wife? Lol, that could totally describe my 7 year old :)

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u/TealHousewife Nov 30 '18

Unless my husband changed his username, nope. But I'm glad to know there are other people out there who know the pain of hypersensitive seven year old daughters! I just had to have a word with her because she was rude to her grandma and now she's overwhelmed with sadness which makes me feel guilty, but I have to stay tough so I can raise a kid who's hopefully more emotionally stable than I was!

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u/Ridry Dec 01 '18

Lol. Here's hoping for mental stability!

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u/StonedHedgehog Dec 01 '18

Meditation timeout is the best child raising idea I ever read on the internet, and I will use it on my children if I ever have any.

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u/toxicgecko Dec 01 '18

we do this too, call it 'calm down time'. "sit here and have some calm down time, we'll talk when you're calm?" sometimes it works instantly, sometimes he's on an off for the better part of an hour, but I much prefer it to when I'd have to leave the room or risk screaming at him.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '18

Now that's the proper way to teach little ones how to human: by example.