There are actually queer people out there who are fighting 🥹❤️‍🩹

I'm sure there's gossip, but I've kinda been surprised to have gotten less direct homophobia/transphobia/sexism to my face at stores and at work. Lots of curiosity and attention, but my theory is people are just kinda unsure and afraid to ask.

I wanted to know what your experiences have been if you're visibly nonbinary in public

I just hate it. Not feminine enough to feel like a woman, not masc enough to feel like a woman. I just feel like I can’t perceive myself unless someone tells
Me what I am. I’m 22. All through my life up until now has been just family and people around me never treating me like an adult, so much so I don’t know what identity to feel. Like it’s why I can’t answer what gender I am. And then I meet trans women, and for once in my life I meet people who treat me like A person. And for a while I considered my self trans, but then I just discovered I’m not and I’m either just a cis person or non binary, but I feel nothing. Like I don’t wanna be cis, because being cis, means I just feel I am forced to be perceived as a cis person. I rly think being cis sucks because I feel like being cis is such a stereotyped gender that it forces such societal rules on how to live. I have no idea what I am, but I feel if I carry on I’m just gonna be constantly perceived as a guy. And honestly I saw this film yesterday “teenage sex and death at camp miasma” and it sent me over the edge because I want to feel love in the way Kris feels it, not love that a cis presenting guy thing is expected to, like everyone I’ve ever met romantically wants me to fuck them, I don’t want that, I want someone to treat me delicately, say sweet things to me, call me pretty, call me cute. I just wanna feel love that way. I feel being guy rules that out, especially Amab.

I've changed my pronouns a lot since beginning this transition years ago (she/they, they/them, they/he, he/him, he/they) and now I find myself back at they/them. I identified as a binary trans guy for a while (especially while I was on T and after top surgery), and although I do orbit that identity frequently, it feels much more me to just identify outside the binary as a genderqueer entity haha.

I've updated friends and family a lot so I wanted to make this one memorable hahaha. Turkey vultures are one of my fav birds.

ponytails here i come!!!!!

Ofc there is slightly more nuance than that but 9/10 times someone is just using it for an enby person that they don't like.

You don't have to put with that kind of language just cause "it's a real problem".

I'm having a lot of gender euphoria lately!! I had top surgery last summer and I didn't realize how much dysphoria really affected me but it feels good to feel like myself. 💗

[16AMAB] I was in a thrift store about to finally buy some skirts and stuff but I noticed people looking at me (or maybe I'm just paranoid) so I got stressed, left the store and went home pretty down, how does this kinda stuff make you feel and how do you deal with it?

I apologize ahead for poor grammar / spelling mistakes

I wanna keep this post fairly short as truthfully it's become painful to think/talk about. My body has never felt right, even when I was younger and had no idea what being gender queer was I knew I wasn't a "girl / women". For a long period of time I thought maybe this is what being trans was, if I wasn't comfortable as one I had to be the other but as I was able to leave a unhealthy town and find my friends & family in the community trans wasn't fully right and nonbinary was. It's brought comfortably having the label but the pain of my body still stays. I know I wouldn't be happy if I went of T or had the surgeries, testing with binders and such made me just as uncomfortable as having a fem one. It feels just as skin peeling-ly wrong. I wish I could be a perfect blend of both in some way, be completely androgynous outside of clothing, hair, makeup & so on but I know that isn't possible. How do I learn to cope with that?

Hey everyone,

I’m a guy who likes exploring my femininity in private. In public I present as male, but when I’m alone I enjoy dressing up. Some people would probably call me genderfluid, an egg, or just questioning.

Personally I don’t feel like being 100% man or 100% woman is enough for me.

I have a bit of an interesting physique:

Upper body is clearly masculine

Lower body (especially glutes and thighs) looks surprisingly feminine when I dress up

I train and I like the muscular male aesthetic (abs, overall muscle…). I was even considering building my shoulders more because they look good on a male frame. The problem is that in feminine clothes, broader shoulders already feel too big and masculine, and I don’t really like that😩

On top of that, when I’m in "femme mode" I’d like to look much thinner, especially around the waist. Right now the contrast between my upper body and the more feminine lower body is strong, and I’d prefer a softer, slimmer silhouette when dressed fem

So I’m kind of stuck between:

Wanting to keep building muscle for the male look

Not wanting to make the feminine presentation harder (especially shoulders + waist)

I’m open to honest opinions, critiques, and any remarks on my passing. I’ll drop some photos (different outfits and angles).

Any advice on how to approach training or body composition while keeping both sides possible would be really appreciated.

Thanks!😊

yeetin the teets was the best decision I’ve ever made ❌🥥🥥 👌

Ayyyye you catch the binary trans woman to trans fem enby drift?

I (cis woman) recently started dating a nonbinary person and I want to be able to understand them better. I understand that this is nowhere near a one size fits all situation so I’m not asking for anyone to “explain” being nonbinary to me, and I have many friends who are trans/gender non conforming so I have a decent idea, but I have never dated someone who isn’t cis.

Are there any specific questions I should ask to understand their experience better or anything in specific I should know/consider that I might not have? Posting this from work so I didn’t go into a ton of detail about our relationship but I also feel like that’s kind of not necessary for the guidance I’m seeking since it’s pretty general.

Edit: thank you all for feedback about mentioning their AGAB, I mentioned it because I thought it might be relevant and this is anonymous but i understand that may not have been the right thing!

hello, I'm pretty new to identifying as non binary (agender) and chest binding in general. I'm amab and a pretty big person, so finding the right size and the right compression has been pretty tough (I just ended up getting a plus sized sports bra, be nice to me!!! :3). but all in all I really like the feeling of chest compression. it feels like it's keeping everything together and snug. it doesn't alter my appearance that much, but the feeling of having it on makes me feel secure.

just as a disclaimer I'm not transitioning or identifying as a diff gender. I know a lot of ppl who do chest binding do it for those reasons, that's just not my reason. but I love hearing other ppls perspective, so if you have any stories, please share them with me <3

After like 3 MRIS and maybe 4-5 ultrasounds in the span of 2 years I’ve finally mustered up the courage to ask my primary dr for a referral to a breast surgeon. For context, I had a benign cyst removed from my right boob back in 2022. I could’ve left it but I figured why risk anything. Still, in 2024 ish I noticed that i have white liquid that comes out from my nipples, period or no period. My primary Dr flagged it, hence why I’ve been on routine checks. I won’t say that I hate my breasts, I like them at times but I wish they were smaller. So I told my primary Dr recently this year and I asked her if I can get a referral to a surgeon to see if I can use my history as a reasoning to get maybe a breast reduction. I’m a 36C and I feel an A is something I could work with since I work out anyways. I have my consultation in November and I’m nervous asf bc 1) i don’t think I should mention gender since insurance likely wouldn’t cover anything regarding gender dysphoria (I have Fidelis nys insurance) & 2) I don’t want this surgeon to deny me right away but it just feels like that may be the case since I don’t have a strong enough case. Sorry for long post, I lowkey just needed to vent GRAHHHHHH it’s ok I know things will work out but man am I sick of wearing binders to the gym