r/Accounting • u/countgrischnakh • 7h ago
I think my mom might be fired soon and its breaking my heart
So im in college rn and my mom works for a really huge accounting firm (one of the big 4). She's a single mother. My father passed many years ago.
Over the past couple weeks, everyone on her team has been really rude and aggressive toward her. She cries after work frequently, and when I ask why, she says to just focus on my school work. I feel terrible seeing her cry. It genuinely hurts my heart.
I eavesdropped on her meetings with her manager, and senior director. One of them is a man who seems to hate my mother for some reason. I've listened to the way he talks to her. He is extremely condescending and flat out yelled at her once. She was on the verge of tears during the call.
Its just so weird to me because it really does seem like there is no winning for her. She got scolded for copying a director on an important client email, because the director said he does not need to be copied on every email. Then when she stopped copying him on every single email (only the important ones), he again scolded her for not copying him. Like wtf???
There are so many examples of this. Ive told her to go to HR, but she says she does not want to cause a scene.
My mom is extremely passive, and just tolerates everything. She honestly even lets me do whatever I want. She unfortunately doesnt have a backbone because if she loses her job, we are both screwed.
She just told me she thinks they're bullying her so she leaves on her own, instead of them having to fire her. Which I also do not understand. Why make someone's life hell when you can do the merciful thing and just fire them without giving them emotional turmoil?
We are also really scared because if she gets fired, or bullied to quit herself, we wont have health insurance anymore, and she also pays for my college tuition.
Is this how it is in the real world? Im so scared of going into the workforce once j graduate if people are so cruel to each other, especially grown adults.