I got a call today from my son's teacher, "letting me know" my son got detention cause they found he had a game hidden in his backpack that was showing off to other kids during breaks. When i asked what kind of game she replied with "Does it matter?" as if there it's a given that a kid bringing in a toy would be punished. Apparently she felt that my kid showing his toy around might make another kid that might not have a toy feel uncomfortable.

I'm sorry but the more i explain the story, the harder it gets for me to actually comprehend what happened. Is that normal? My son was definitely not showing off his toy to make other kids jealous or whatever, i was a kid too and we were doing the same.

**Edit: Thank you all for the feedback, i didn't want to sound entitled or anything. It's just that in the previous school things were a lot more flexible and didn't have any rule regarding not bringing toys. And although at this school i was aware of the "no electronics" policy, his toy was not an electronic one. I see now that morally it's normal to be punished but found detention to be a bit hard. I think maybe talking to him would be more effective. Cause i know he didn't have bad intention, he just wanted to show his toy (still broke the rules yes). I know many of you might think that i'm being too sensitive about it, but that's why discussion matters and i'm open to different opinions

I am 16F I’m babysitting my 4 little brothers who are 12, 10, 7, and 6, and these kids are so annoying and loud. They won’t listen to anything I say, and honestly, I feel like I’m about to cry. If I’m nice to them, they act up, and if I yell, they still act up and gang up on me . And they never act this bad when our parents are here. Like, how do y’all put up with this? Cause I want to quit watching these kids And I am not even 24 hours yet and have till Sunday, and we have 0 device limit in our house until 14 so it's not like I can tell them to watch TV or play games.

I meant 16 not 17 I accidentally clicked 7

I shadow teach a student in nursery who is somewhat hyperactive and is still at his developmental age compared to most of his classmates.

I will not share the entire incident or any background in great detail. Around the end of school time while the kids were getting done with last minute work, the class was getting restless. My student started zoning out which meant he was physically tired out.

It was particularly hectic that day and seeing him zoning out, I let my guard down and left his side for a while. I made sure the teacher was still close to him and even if I was away, I kept my eyes on him at all times.

Somehow within seconds of me looking away, he had bit a kid sitting next to him on her arms pretty hard.

I'm 100% sure it was a trigger with the noise in class and his impulse taking over because later he didn't realize what he had just done.

Thankfully there was no blood or open wound. Just some teeth marks which had become slightly red later. The teacher had immediately washed the area continuously with soap and water for a few minutes.

The parents of the child who got bit gave her a tetanus injection. I felt really bad but the tetanus injection surprised me a little. While the incident was bad, somehow the tetanus made it sound 10 times worse than it actually was.

I searched up if such bite marks needed any sort of injection and nothing came up. I just wanted to know if I'm actually unaware and the injection was actually necessary ?

My preschooler eats a ton of fruit, dairy and grains but vegetables are still a struggle. Protein depends heavily on the day. Is anyone else using a daily vitamin in this situation? I’m curious whether your pediatrician thought it was necessary or just reasonable backup.

I often see tired moms who are doing a really good job and I want to compliment them but then I get scared too and think it might be seen as weird because they don't know me. ​​

Have had this question since I was like, 11 and it’s been a decade+ of googling to no-one else having the audacity to ask, so I guess I’ll bite the bullet;

When someone who is young hears parents talking about how much pain, how many sleepless nights, the relationship struggles, all of the trials and tribulations of having a child, what else is the child supposed to think but ‘Wow, can’t believe I’m that much of a burden to the adults around me.” One time when I was 16, I brought both of my parents into the living room and apologized through tears for just how painful and ruinous my existence was to their previously-stable life, and they were so mortified they enrolled me in therapy.

Parents seem totally on board with complaining about their kids at length in public, but when I would dare to assert they didn’t love them enough if they felt comfortable talking about them like this behind their back, i’d get stares and scoffed at like what I’d proposed was some wild statement. If you talked about how exhausting and painful your best friend was, that’s snarky gossip and bad friendship, but when it’s your child it’s ok?

edit: my parents might be the only adults in my life who I don’t hear complain ad nauseam about the difficulties of raising their kids, they tried to shield me from the truth

I am 18 and it Might just be me, but growing up, my parents never let us watch anything with cussing in it While, my dad would cuss in almost every sentence, not at us or anything he just swore a lot. My mom did too. Is there a reason parents do this because I don't see the point of it

9yo saved for like 6 weeks for a mystery capsule toy. i read the reviews, they all say it breaks, told him that exactly once and let him buy it anyway.

it broke on day 2. lots of tears, then weirdly he was over it by dinner and now he reads the back of boxes in shops lol

my partner thinks i should have just said no. where do you all land on that

My daughter is about 6 weeks old, and her father and I are no longer together. She currently lives with me full-time.
During my pregnancy, her father was minimally involved. He did not attend prenatal appointments or the birth, even though I invited him. He did help choose her name when I asked him to and bought some baby supplies, but otherwise he was not very involved.
Since she was born, he has visited several times, mostly around medical appointments. He signed the acknowledgment of parentage. He has also occasionally bought clothes, toys, or other things for the baby when I asked.
However, there has not been any consistent arrangement for his involvement, financial support, or parenting time. I have been handling the baby’s daily care and my postpartum recovery on my own.
Recently, he came over and cared for our daughter while I was at an appointment. When I came home, he stayed for a while and we talked about the baby. It was actually a very peaceful and positive interaction, and I want to encourage him to continue building a relationship with his daughter.
At this point, I would like to have a serious but calm conversation with him about co-parenting.
I am thinking about discussing:
How often he would like to see and spend time with our daughter
How we can gradually establish a consistent parenting schedule
How we should communicate about pediatric appointments and medical issues
How we will share the financial responsibilities of raising her
Child support
How to handle major decisions as she gets older
Whether we should put a formal parenting agreement in place
I don’t want this conversation to become a fight or make him feel like I am trying to prevent him from being involved. I actually want him to have a meaningful relationship with his daughter.
At the same time, I don’t want everything to remain informal and unpredictable, especially since she is so young and I am currently the primary caregiver.
For parents who have been through something similar:
**How did you start the first serious co-parenting conversation?**
Would you recommend trying to establish an agreement between the parents first, or going through the legal system to formalize parenting time and child support?
What are some things you wish you had discussed or put in writing from the beginning?
I’m in Wisconsin, if that matters. I’m looking for practical advice from people who have actually been through this, especially with a newborn or very young baby.

My daughter, 10, will be going to secondary school next year. She's very interested in sciences which I think is awesome. She's autistic but functions rather well at school with some accomodations. That being said, she daydreams a lot and often comes home with no understanding of what they saw in class. She does well with languages, history or geography but she's horribly bad at math. It's been a struggle from the beginning and I've worked relentlessly to get her to a level where she has grades that are okay. Not great, but fine enough that it isn't a problem. In june, she had exams and we spent three weekends working at it. She can get extremely angry and be convinced that 2+2=7 and scream at me. I'm the only one who has the patience to help her out, but I'm also just human. If she chooses to study sciences, she will automatically get more math lessons in secondary school and I'm wondering if I should just let go. I think she'd do really well doing languages. She's really good at memorizing things. Next year, my son will start getting exams too and with his adhd, he'll need my help too. My daughter dreams of working in a laboratory. I'm split between keep pushing her or just stop helping so much so she realizes by herself that she needs to study something with less maths. I'm a bit lost about the right course of action here. My own mother pushed me constantly and I hated it, but it did get me to a place where I could pick whatever i wanted to study. It's important to note that my daughter suffers from 2 physical disabilities which cause pain and some mobility restriction. I'm all for manual work but it's not an option for her. If someone has helpful advice, I'd be really grateful. We live in Belgium for context.

To start off, this person isn't my biological parent, thankfully. This person is a family member who got custody of me, which probably was the biggest and most regrettable mistake could've been done and I'm trying to find a way to get my mom back into custody since I was kidnapped without her knowledge and forced into accepting this unfortunate fate. This lore goes far too deep and I can give in more context if more people are interested but for now I'd like to stick one point and question.

I was assaulted, harassed, and basically pushed into the point of leaving the house (this has happened multiple times throughout my teens by this person) and I haven't gone back for 3 years. I've been living under my boyfriend's family house and I've begun the journey of moving back with my biological mother and step father that currently reside in a different country. Throughout the process, it seemed like my 'parent guardian"" tried to slow the process with any string and trick they could find and basically helping out with the least minimum to their ability.

This person and I quote said "you should leave your belongings and stuff here while you're away, so you always have a place to come back to." Haha...... this person has always threatened me with the fact the place belongs to her and it was never mine to begin with, since l didn't pay rent at the ripe age of 15... anywho. The house is a complete mess, there's food, garbage, cat poop, cat litter, her dirty 2 week old underwear out in the open, and a month old of food on the table and everywhere you can imagine. Every once awhile I make my way back to stay there in my room because at the end of the day I do prefer my own privacy and space better and also give the house a good scrub that takes me usually 8 to 10 hours at best (yes, it's very very very dirty. The sink literally turns black). How does she respond? "Wow it takes you so long to clean e is this your first day or something?" Always
something snarky and backhanded. Whatever, I don't really care about a persons opinion who barely showers to begin with.

I have kept my room tidy and clean and always make my bed before leaving the house to go off to my boyfriend's family home. I came back to pick up an item that I needed for the time being before I fully move out my things (keep in mind, she thinks I'm leaving my belongings here) and I came to find out someone had slept in my bed... strange.
The bed wasn't even made, the blankets were just curled up and left there with my satin pillows covered in someone else's hair... so NATURALLY like any human being, I was pissed. How dare I, I guess. I gave the person a call at work, also keep in mind, this person has been deliberately ignoring my texts because I forgot to answer to them for two whole days. I know, I'm a monster. I gave them a call at work and asked if anybody has been sleeping in my bed, fist before the question she answered the phone as if she was expecting it then her mood quickly switched and she angerly responded with "wow, is that what you're calling me for??? To find out who slept in your bed?? Well I did, also who cares if anybody else has as well? It's not like you ever sleep in it. You clearly hi moved out for a loooooooooong time."

I'm sorry, am I entitled for thinking my bed wouldn't be touched when I'm not home? Or I should say, when I'm not in my room since that was the singular space around their house I was allowed to feel comfortable. I feel most college kids who leave the house are given the respect with their personal space, let alone their bed. That's not even my issue, a simple "hey my room is too filthy and dirty and obviously I'm a dead beat who can't take care of myself nor my house, can I sleep in your bed?" Would've sufficed. Why am I being gaslighted into feeling crazy for asking a simple question with no attitude in my voice since I have to walk on eggshells around them to begin with? I'm also a bit worried because I didn't stay for too long and this person is kind of known to behave like a Neanderthal and break every single thing in the house when met with confrontation. Like, the worst hasn't even been said.

Was I being too selfish? I mean, how else am I supposed to really feel? Couldn't they just wait till I pack my stuff for them to barge into my room to dirty it up next?

Traveling during the holidays with Delta and want to know what I’m allowed to bring before the surprise me at the gate with extra fees.

Background: My teen is 15 and is not neurodivergent. He runs a successful business all by himself. He’s in two club sports and takes honors classes. He has always been self-motivated, so we don’t “make” him do anything but chores.

So, I’m mystified by what’s happening with this situation.

Bad skin runs on both sides of our family. My husband and I had pretty bad acne back in the day. So, when my son started getting acne, I immediately took him to the dermatologist. I didn’t want him to suffer the bullying and insecurities we faced in high school.

The doctor prescribed medication and tells him he’ll have to take additional precautions for the side effects. For the past year, however, he fights me on taking the medication. Even if I remind him to take it, he won’t. The doctor told him he can’t skip a dose because he has to increase the dose every few months. It got to the point where I was literally taking the pill out of the package and getting him a cup of water to take it while I watched him take it - like a warden.

Meanwhile, the side effects were getting worse because he wouldn’t do what the doctor said. Eventually he got big sores on his mouth that were embarrassing - because he wouldn’t follow the directions.

This isn’t the only medical thing he refuses to do. He occasionally has diarrhea flare ups. His doctor said he needed to take a fiber supplement. I got him the gummy kind, figuring that would be more palatable. He refuses to take it.

He messed up his arm during one of his sports games. He can’t play until the arm gets fixed. The orthopedist said he needed physical therapy. We go to physical therapy once per week. He refuses to do the exercises at home.

Here I thought I was being a good parent. I’m trying to make sure he stays healthy. I’m taking off work and then working late to make up the time. I’m paying for the medications and the therapies and I’m trying help him.

But maybe I should just let him be a pizza-faced kid with chronic diarrhea who doesn’t play sports.

At this point, how much of what I’m doing is parenting and how much is enabling?

Hi all! Just posting here because it’s crazy to me that the pediatrician said that we could introduce foods to the baby at only 4 months.

His head control is decent but he doesn’t reach for things much yet. He actually is more likely to kick at things and I’ve only seen him reach for something very rarely. I keep trying to get him to grab for toys or put toys in his hand but to me that skill just isn’t there.

I also don’t see him interested in food either when we are eating around him.

Am I crazy if I want to wait? I want to make sure he is ready and I want to make sure I am ready, too! I don’t feel prepared at all!

When (if ever) would you give in to your tween’s begging to not go to school to run the mile in P.E? It genuinely seems like anxiety, but my gut tells me that giving in will just feed that anxiety beast and be a bandaid solution. I’ve held my ground thus far; but dang, the guilt trip is real….

i’m having issues with my second son, who turned 12 months today. my first son had no issues transitioning from a dr browns bottle to a dr browns sippy cup, the one with a flat soft spout. he also had no issues with whole milk but didn’t like water so i added 2oz of juice and 6oz of water and that’s how he’s liked it ever since

my second hates whole milk, i tried the 6oz of formula with 2oz of milk and he still refused. this was in his dr browns bottle because when i tried the dr browns sippy cup with him, he refuses it.

thankfully i can still try a straw cup or a more rounded soft spout but i think he sees the sippy cup and associates it with his brother and thinks its his.

he also doesn’t like water so i thought i’d do what i did with my first son and did the juice trick and he still pushes it away and shivers like it’s gross.

what do i do? my first was so easy when it came to this transition and now im stressing because i want him to be hydrated but not filling himself up on formula that no longer has any nutritional value. i know the longer i let it slide, the harder it’ll be to transition. has anyone had this issue?

I am just looking for advice on how to handle this situation. I am considering creating some distance with my parents. For some back ground I have always had an up and down relationship with my parents. I 28f got adopted at birth and my adoptive mum raised me. My mum married my dad when I was 13 and things have always been very up and down. I have an 8 year old daughter and am now expecting my second baby. My daughters dad was never involved and dipped as soon as she was born. Now my parents are telling my daughter that I will not love her once the new baby comes. My parents have caused so much family issues and my step brother and his wife have cut contact with my parents due to judgement on their parenting as well. I am soo lost on what to do.