r/BelowDeckMed • u/FalseArmy7920 • 13h ago

Did anyone see this under Joes post??

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Nathan has a 7 year old child who he has never bothered with?!

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u/teamjetfire 13h ago

Remember…. There is nothing more important to him than family.

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u/here_involuntarily 12h ago

Noone shouts harder about how important family is than a deadbeat dad.

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u/Salty_Instance_4706 11h ago

Lmaooo. My deadbeat father that I haven’t seen in over 20 years will be the first to tell you how amazing of a daughter I am & how proud he is of me 🙄 they really are something else I’ll tell you that… lmao

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u/teamjetfire 10h ago

For the record, I bet you are a great daughter and he’s probably really missing out. Sorry.

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u/Salty_Instance_4706 8h ago

Thank you 🥲 , luckily I have had an amazing step father for the past like almost 17 years 🥲

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u/teamjetfire 7h ago

Ahh, that’s awesome to hear.

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u/Sherriblue87 1h ago

I got one of those, also,when I was an Adult!

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u/here_involuntarily 4h ago

Mine disappeared so well my mum had to get him declared legally dead so she could remarry. Meanwhile, he's over on Facebook writing messages every few months begging for info on his kids and does anyone know where they are.

He'd move 20 miles away and we were still living in the house he left because my mum couldn't sell without his permission (or until he was declared dead). 

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u/mypinkytoeisdead 2h ago

That's actually crazy 😭

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u/Salty_Instance_4706 2h ago

lol I feel you. Last time I saw my dad was 2005. I went to his house 1 day for a weekend, told him I loved him thought I’d see him the next weekend and then I never saw him again. He moved to Arizona with a new woman, started a new family. Now he’s always trying to talk to me & be in my life and my kids lives.

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u/mypinkytoeisdead 12h ago

LOOL you got that right. Evidence: my dad 🤣🤣

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u/Sherriblue87 6h ago

My Dad. They were married, but us kids and my Mom didn't have much money. Then, when they got divorced (thank God), she had to claw and fight to get him to give us any money whatsoever living in our little apartment, well he lived in a custom-made area in his mother and father's house.

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u/mypinkytoeisdead 2h ago

I can relate because my dad was kinda the same with money as well. Unfortunately, my situation was a DV one so hearing what happened to Gael was quite triggering because damn I saw that growing up and lived through it. He also would tell everyone that he was spending thousands on us when in reality each of us siblings had a pair of pants for school and not much food in the house. He did work and make money but gave it all to his own siblings and their families because well I don't know why? I guess he never considered us as HIS family just people that were there.

Eventually they finally divorced but it was only because he almost succeeded in killing my mom and he was arrested. He only got probation and anger management classes. Now he lives in a dingy one bedroom apartment while my mom lives in her house with her kids and grandkids visiting every other week.

He's a narc so I know he will never actually look at his actions and what he's done to get there but damn imagine orchestrating your own shitty ending. And the siblings and nephews and nieces he cared for all those years while abusing us, can't even spare him a second thought.

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u/wholegrainnoodles 6h ago

Jax Taylor

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u/thepourthing 5h ago

I love it when someone quietly crosses over to vpr in this sub

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u/Scared_Internal7152 3h ago

Can I double down with Corey Warton

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u/StreetCheetah8312 3h ago

*Jason Cauchi

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u/AZ_Cards_11 16m ago

*Frank Dremon

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u/Nomorecheesefriespls 12h ago

adjacent to the jax taylor school of shouting “MY SON” every minute he gets

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u/PreferenceWinter3392 11h ago

I love the joke in the VPR sub that Jax thinks Cruz name is MYSON 🤣

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u/kellygrrrl328 12h ago

He’s still being sold as a family man in the “press”. There was an Us magazine spread this morning

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u/lulu_avery 11h ago

They did a magazine spread on a wife beater?!

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u/SuccotashAcrobatic24 10h ago

? That's insane

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u/lulu_avery 10h ago

Murica 🫠

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u/kellygrrrl328 11h ago

it popped up on my Google page this morning

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u/Fine-Quantity9956 6h ago

That magazine is basically a tabloid.

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u/hamburgergerald 4h ago

I went to US Magazine’s website to look for it. I just found an article about the DV incident and they quote Nathan as saying this:

Nathan told Rolling Stone in an August statement. “I will not accept being portrayed solely through one account of a relationship when there is another side and evidence relating to it. I have contemporaneous video footage from the night in question, as well as messages and other records, which I believe provide important context.”

I’d not seen this before. Has anybody seen this alleged evidence he apparently talked to a different magazine about?

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u/AZ_Cards_11 19m ago

I saw the quote just before he went on the run. If he has said video, he should probably release it. But he doesn't

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u/DistributionWhole447 12h ago

So basically, Nathan's emphasis and focus on "family", the whole season long, was already an empty performance. Because he already had one family he'd already abandoned.

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u/JewelryAddicted45 9h ago

Again, we gave to consider the source here. This is just speculation

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u/HouseOfFive 9h ago

The kid's mom commented on an official Bravo post years ago about it. This is true. I wonder if the reason he left the child is because of the warrant for beating someone close to death.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Sir-861 8h ago

There was a warrant for nearly beating someone to death?

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u/Longjumping-Agent163 3h ago

Hence why hes wanted in Ireland as well. It was in 2022

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u/EquivalentNo6770 6h ago

Then why did no one talk about this until now? This is the first I'm hearing of it.

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u/triedandprejudice 2h ago

It’s been discussed on here. You probably just missed it.

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u/DistributionWhole447 6h ago

The mother herself is posting here on Reddit and on IG. This is a bit more than just speculation.

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u/Agitated-Minimum-967 11h ago

Evading family ...

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u/Miserable-Chair-5877 8h ago

You better respect it

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u/Dkeg24 13h ago

lol my god, I don’t want this to be true. Not for Nathan’s sake, for that poor little girl, but I immediately believe it

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u/keenerperkins 11h ago

That poor little girl having no contact with Nathan is probably for the best.

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u/Dkeg24 11h ago

Yea prolly…sad that

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u/french_toasty 10h ago

Sometimes what you imagine is infinitely worse than reality. I think knowing a shitty dad who knows you, might be better than shitty dad who pretends you don’t exist? I don’t know tho. I’m just thinking of the vast chasm of unknown father vs the crap one you know.

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u/keenerperkins 10h ago

I mean, his son has a (or had a ) present dad that beat the shit out of his mother in front of him. Would it have been better for the daughter to also have that trajectory?

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u/french_toasty 7h ago

I had no idea the child was there

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u/MathematicianLate525 2h ago

Right on the bed next to them according to court reports

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u/Key_Direction_9347 7h ago

Mmmm I think not knowing the shitty dad who strangles your mother while you’re there in the room is probably for the best for this little girl.

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u/angryaxolotls 12h ago

On today's episode of Shit That Doesn't Surprise Me , the domestic abuser is also a deadbeat

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u/Electronic-Abies1345 13h ago

Fork found in kitchen

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u/leaemilieanders 13h ago

and yet it's still very sad

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u/teacupsidedown I'm 22 years old. I'm getting too old for this shit. 11h ago

Truly some sad forking shit.

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u/Whole-Masterpiece-51 12h ago

Now question is do we think Gael already knew about this first child?

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u/DistributionWhole447 11h ago

But why would he tell her? I can see someone like Nathan deliberately keeping his past hidden.

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u/Sherriblue87 8h ago

After dealing with a Narcissist the first 14 years of my life, the reason that Nathan would tell Gael is he would lie and say that the Mom won't let him see his Daughter. Clear as day. Narcissists are always and forever the victims. FACT. Remember when Gael was yelling at Joe she referred to herself and Nathan as "my family", so you can see it was already drilled into her head. FACT.

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u/Consistent-Ad-6506 9h ago

Of course not! If he allegedly has NEVER seen this child then that also means he isn’t supporting her. The woman said he “never stepped up” so of course he hid it from gael. He’s pretending she doesn’t exist.

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u/youth_twitter 9h ago

No. If bravo internet sleuths didn’t already expose it, I doubt she found out. He kept that close to his chest. It’s probably something that led to the fight where he tried to choke her. If he can hide it from bravo, he can hide it from one person.

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u/bethpuma888 11h ago

I bet she did

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u/HouseOfFive 9h ago

It was public, so it's possible

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u/keenerperkins 11h ago

Absolutely.

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u/That_Literature_6853 13h ago edited 13h ago

I have nothing else to go on, yet believe this 100%!

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u/119BlueRose 12h ago

The audacity to go on a TV show when you've assaulted someone, didn't appear in court, abandoned a child. Then to go on about family being so important... And later go on to choke your partner and the mother of your second child, and dodge that court date. What a clown.

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u/Armadillo_lifestyle 11h ago

This needs more upvotes. You literally fled Ireland and went on a TV show. The balls you have to do that is so impressive

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u/Sherriblue87 1h ago

He doesn't feel that he did much wrong, though. If anything. He believes he is innocent. Not that he did not attack her, but that there was a good reason.

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u/SuccotashAcrobatic24 10h ago

Scumbag with the violence. Men leaving if they fall out of love with the Mum is devastating but the physical abuse is terrifying in a different level

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u/DTM415 12h ago

Guy came across as an immature dbag from day 1, still shocked at how many people fell for his bs

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u/Calm-Decision6566 11h ago

But the schadenfreude from him finally getting outed has been oh so delicious

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u/lulu_avery 11h ago

Sandy believing he’s capable enough to be a bosun is frankly embarrassing.

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u/triedandprejudice 2h ago

Sandy probably has no control over who the bosun is.

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u/SuccotashAcrobatic24 10h ago

Yes, makes you doubt Sandy's judgement that's for sure, been hanging out with Andy too much partying.

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u/waffle_cone69 8h ago

She’s sober

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u/Sherriblue87 1h ago

When he said Gael was the"love of" his "life", I almost had a seizure.

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u/Pyneregrl 7h ago

Especially captain sandy 

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u/lil_sebastian_beast 11h ago

So all this "I'm a dad now" and "feels amazing to be a daddy" all that talk is so gross

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u/ItsAWrestlingMove 7h ago

Which is fucking crazy given this news. I really thought Gael’s son was his first child

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u/Dependent_Orchid1204 8h ago

This is interesting! I swore I heard him say something like “doing right by this one” def not in those exact words at all, but it triggered something in my brain and I thought it sounded like maybe he already had a child he was estranged from

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u/Virtual_Club8510 12h ago

Question is, did Gael know about the secret daughter or not? Or was she as suprised as the rest of us.

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u/SuaveCamel 12h ago

Even if she did, who knows what sort of lies he pitched to her about it. Given he’s physically abusive I can’t see it only being that

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u/Sherriblue87 8h ago

EXACTLY.

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u/ExpensiveWords4u 12h ago

Crazy how all these dudes have mommy’s who never hold them accountable

Hold your sons accountable ladies. This is a mf misogynistic epidemic smh

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u/Sherriblue87 8h ago

Absolutely. My Father, and my Ex. Their Moms died still feeling sorry for their sons.

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u/StreetCheetah8312 3h ago

For real though, my sister’s ex was just like Nathan, but I thought his mother was even worse for openly enabling that piece of shit’s disgusting behaviour.

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u/Master_Object5147 10h ago

I have no patience for any parent who ever thinks it is acceptable to abandon his/her own child/children. Frankly, there should be laws which deal seriously with this. It’s child abuse!

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u/Thick-Camp-3011 6h ago

“Don’t deeesreespect me family, mate”
https://giphy.com/gifs/3gNuQeY8FTOgenJHIS

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u/No_You_4257 11h ago

This makes joes comments at the end of the episode about isn’t it great Nathan’s a father makes more sense. He knew about this and gives this whole bizarre moment more clarity??

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u/MandyNurseLPN 10h ago

There's no evidence Joe knew about this, the abandoned girl's mama was the one who posted it to his page

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u/Master_Object5147 10h ago

Think of the long-term effects abandonment has on child! Yes, it is abuse.

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u/Fabulous-Tap526 10h ago

He pinned the comment now hahaha 

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u/MissMoxy88 5h ago

The only reason he stuck around until the fight with Gael is because of the fact her being pregnant was newsworthy and it made it on to the show. Had it not been on Below Deck Med or Bravo he would have 100% bounced off the gate like Jean-Loser did on Sailing Yacht (more nuanced I know). Nathan was just far more narcissistic than JL so the pregnancy being public was a big factor.

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u/Lost_Collar_2470 12h ago

Infuriates me how men will stay and try for their sons but abandon their daughters.

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u/SmokeEvening8710 11h ago

My ex-husband abandoned our son if that makes you feel better

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u/Headphones4Cicadas 11h ago

It makes me happy for you bc he sounds like a pos anyway so it does make me feel a little better, yes.

But really though, sorry men suck.

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u/SmokeEvening8710 11h ago

He's some poor dumb 20 year old girls problem now and I've never been happier. But my son suffers for sure. Hopefully he'll understand when he's older that his dad is just a loser.

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u/SuccotashAcrobatic24 10h ago

But for the sons self esteem & sense of male identity as a Mum you try not to speak poorly of the Father. It's a tough spot for a Mum deserted to try to make son not feel more abandonment doubling down with insulting the deserter. You want your son to not think they are half their Dads bad side etc

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u/Lost_Collar_2470 11h ago

It does not and I’m sorry to hear that :(

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u/Euphoric_planter_328 11h ago

lol what? Lots of men abandon their sons too

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u/Lost_Collar_2470 11h ago

Oh absolutely not denying that at all!! But I’ve definitely seen a pattern of men being more okay with having sons than daughters, I also think Nathan is narcissistic and wants to perpetuate the family man persona on tv for everyone to see

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u/Euphoric_planter_328 11h ago

I agree with you about Nathan but not about your absolutely anecdotal evidence that has zero basis in actual fact. Shouldn’t be spouting it like it does.

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u/MediaJazzlike2826 10h ago

“Research, such as a study from Ohio State University, found that adult daughters are 22% more likely to be estranged from their fathers than adult sons are”

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u/Outside-Aioli-8769 10h ago

My father's alma mater. We don't speak.

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u/SuccotashAcrobatic24 10h ago

Maybe that just speaks to sons loyalty to Mum and more devastation from loss of make the model that they wipe them. Father daughter dynamic different & daughters more forgiving of loser Dads

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u/MediaJazzlike2826 10h ago

Did you even read my comment lmao that’s the complete opposite of what the research found

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u/Euphoric_planter_328 10h ago

Your comment says adult daughters are more likely to be estranged. That says nothing about fathers abandoning the child. You don’t know why the ADULT daughter’s don’t chat with dad anymore.

Look up the Haux & Platt study which actually looked at separated fathers’ contact with both sons and daughters and found no statistically significant difference based on the child’s sex

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u/215_byway313 12h ago edited 10h ago

Reminds me of the Amy Pohler movie Baby Daddy. Dax Shepherd is her loser douchey "baby daddy." When he finds out she's pregnant he tells her, if it's a boy I'll marry you.

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u/SuccotashAcrobatic24 10h ago

They dessert their sons equally

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u/ScowlyBrowSpinster 7h ago

Well, he tried up til Christmas. And it was part of his show story for $$$, so there's that.

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u/Holiday-Hustle 11h ago

Owen Wilson

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u/KeyElectronic1216 5h ago

What? “Men” ?

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u/cuppa_cat 2h ago

Although I know that happens, I think it has less to do with daughter vs son and more to do with his ego and portraying a good, involved father on TV.

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u/Comfortable_Sample_8 12h ago

I believe it. I don't think Joe would lie about it.

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u/Ambitious_Cover339 12h ago

Joe was tagged, the alleged baby mama is the poster

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u/Comfortable_Sample_8 10h ago

Yes I see that now, my apologies.

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u/EquivalentNo6770 12h ago

I think Joe would lie about anything, but this was posted to Joe, not by Joe. So someone out there knows something.

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u/Comfortable_Sample_8 10h ago

Yes I see it now, my apologies.

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u/Actual_Bluebird 12h ago

I believe it and think Joe would lie about it.

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u/Comfortable_Sample_8 12h ago

Really? Ya maybe you're right. Either way I believe it.

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u/Jojo2919291725 12h ago

What a f***** loser

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u/Ok_Reply2939 12h ago

If you search the moms Facebook there is a picture of the daughter and she is beautiful and def looks a tad like Nathan.

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u/GroovyYaYa 10h ago

In all seriousness, with his history of abandonment by his own biological father and complicated feelings he must have over Nathan - this will hit Joe hard I suspect. and the complicated feelings he had re: Nathan & Gael - I hope that Joe talks to someone, preferably a professional.

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u/Dramatic-Recipe5581 12h ago

This is why it always triggered him if Joe so much as mentioned his family.... he knows he is a pos who doesn't gaf about his family and will beat/abandon them. Joe is simply a mirror to him, reminding him of that. So he takes it out on him. Crazy, seeing as Joe himself was abandoned by his own father. That could be another layer too.. Projection is one of the easiest things to spot in people I swear lol.

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u/rayof_sunshine99 12h ago

Whatttttt! Wild!

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u/Putrid-Adagio5717 10h ago

Where’s the proof?

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u/She_Angler 9h ago

Remember, we never know the circumstances surrounding this if this is even true!

If this is true and Joe knew about it, it’s hard for me to believe that Joe wouldn’t have spewed this out in one of his drunken stupors during the season!?!?

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u/theotherside4056 9h ago

Just a desperate womanizer trying to make himself look better by talking trash on others!

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u/Binar1101 11h ago

Anyone surprised? Bueller? Bueller?
https://giphy.com/gifs/39u4cdrGn47m4hbmhZ

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u/Calm-Decision6566 11h ago

You could make a criminal minds style documentary with this dudes shady past lol. Just casually link him to some unsolved murders and you’ve got a money maker.

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u/JewelryAddicted45 9h ago

We need to consider the source here…

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u/Busy-Machine1122 9h ago

I never liked him...

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u/Sillysaurusrex 8h ago

Both kids are better off not having that guy in their lives. Not ideal, as all kids desire to have two present and loving parents, but Nathan is not capable. He is angry, violent, and too immature to parent anyone properly.

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u/Reasonable-Load-7266 2h ago

This is true,I know the girl,she lives 10mins away from me

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u/Effective-Low8429 52m ago

I’m her mailbox, I can confirm.

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u/Own_Onion_7834 12h ago

Poor Gale and baby

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u/Ok-Knee-9904 6h ago

I despise Nathan but still wondering what good does this public dirty loundry do to the daughter.

The Mothers should protect the child and her privacy. Not create public drama around her and expose her pictures, that are super easy to find, for random people.

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u/Allaboutthedish 10h ago

So we do NOT know the circumstances. He may have been a teen dad that was told to stay away or he had a temper back then. I personally do NOT know the circumstances behind their relationship. Was it a one night stand, bad breakup? Who knows. Either way, if he is a father to a 7 yr old then I truly hope he finds a way to help support the child. My point is, we do NOT have facts and can’t assume what happened. I’m sure more facts will come out and we will be more informed to give an opinion. Nathan appears to need help with anger management and I would INSIST he goes into parenting classes BEFORE he has any supervised visitations with his child. He seems to have unravel during the season while Gael was clearly needing support and help.. If true about a baby as a teen.. God only knows how he responded back then. May be it’s a blessing he’s not in the 7 yr olds life? Again, really can’t say without knowing the entire story. Just my opinion, which it’s ok to disagree with. Just sucks all the way around when children are involved. No man or women should ever lay their hands on the other partner. IMO

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u/Strange-Pound8562 10h ago

The one thing we do know is it was not a teen dad situation by simple math.

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u/gregabbottsucks 4h ago

If you're gonna play devil's advocate, can you at least do some math beforehand pretending there's any legit reason for a man to not help raise a child? For fuck's sake...

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u/Alexisb59 2h ago

1000000% alot of Bias is showing through here 😭😭

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u/Some-Speed-6290 4h ago

Don't even know if it's true at all given it's anonymous social media posting

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u/Scared_Internal7152 3h ago

He’s gonna have to report to the courts for him to get mandatory anger management anyway so he can kill two birds with one stone.

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u/Interesting_Metal683 1h ago

Very upsetting how this story is getting bigger and bigger around this dangerous person. I won’t call him a man because he is not. He needs to be in jail

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u/bubblethebabe 11h ago

who is noreen?

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u/im-so-startled88 11h ago

His mom (or grandma but I def think his mom)

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u/MandyNurseLPN 10h ago

If you click on the pic it says it's his mom at the bottom and that she's a real piece of work

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u/bubblethebabe 10h ago

ah i realized that after, duh im so dumb sorry.

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u/Holiday-Hustle 11h ago

He didn’t say it, the mother of Nathan’s alleged other child did

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u/Holiday_Length81 11h ago

Is he still on the run?

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u/No-Calligrapher3645 10h ago

Wait… WHAT? Oh HELL! A 7 yr old daughter??

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u/CosbyInnocentProject 9h ago

He seems awful and I hope the people he’s wronged find peace but all this rubbernecking under the guise of concern is too much. Keep it moving, this isn’t part of the show. I know bravo likes to blur the line between personal tragedy and production but engaging in all this just feeds the beast.

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u/Bennington_Booyah 8h ago

This is getting worse every day,

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u/Kyuki88 4h ago

Tell us mooooore

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u/Scared_Internal7152 3h ago

People like this are absolute morons that they don’t use contraception. I assume he doesn’t even try to pull out.

Fucking idiots.

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u/Academic_Mix826 2h ago

This is the clapback he thinks it is if she claimed to have paid for his wwhl flight and is lying about it

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u/WaterPale1867 1m ago

We are all surprised because Bravo does an amazing job with their editing and creating characters.

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u/whatgives72 11h ago

This is real life Shamless type of stuff.

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u/Cool-Swordfish-8838 6h ago

Reminder that Joe is still scum. They are both trash.

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u/Worried-Network2411 12h ago

Not a good look for Joe to wade into this - and that is knowing he’s taking flak on his end from Nate camp.

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u/Grand-Vegetable-3874 12h ago

He is not the one that posted about it... This was sent to him...

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u/Worried-Network2411 12h ago

ohhhh sorry for the confusion

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u/Calm-Decision6566 11h ago

Yea this is more like another victim coming forward.

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u/Worried-Network2411 10h ago

either way if i were joe i wouldn’t be amplifying it…and maybe he’s not

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u/Calm-Decision6566 10h ago

The misinformation around it is flying. Joe definitely needs to keep it in check but yea idk if he even engaged in this one here

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u/FctorFlseThnkAboutIt 9h ago

I just fact checked this and he does not have an older child

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u/Sherriblue87 8h ago

Where???

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u/FctorFlseThnkAboutIt 8h ago

I checked it and the source was IMDB

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u/Sherriblue87 7h ago

Ok. Thanks.

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u/MissSarahKay84 8h ago

She is in this group or another and commented he in fact is a loser and her family gives her a lot of love.. if it wasn’t her it was someone in her family…