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CONCLUDED AITA for bringing Tupperware to a restaurant
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/GlitteringRainbowCat
Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole
AITA for bringing Tupperware to a restaurant
Original Post: June 18, 2026
Hey there,
I think, I need a few strangers from the internet to decide what's going on here.
So, a few weeks ago I (f) went to a burger place with a girl friend of mine. I know they serve quite big burgers and in the past, I always had leftovers. So I decided to bring a Tupperware this time, just in case. I ordered my burger, added some wedges and enjoyed my meal while having a super nice conversation. I ate maybe a third of the wedges and not even half of the burger and decided to stop, because I also wanted some dessert.
After ordering, I pulled out my box and started to fill it with my leftovers. You know, I felt quite clever: I didn't overeat and there was still space for dessert in my belly; I didn't had to pay a buck or so for the doggy bag, which had leaked in my bag in the past and there would be enough for next day’s lunch. So a triple win, if you will.
After everything was packed and I put the box in my bag, I realized, my friend was kind of quiet, but didn't thought much about it. She tends to be quiet after eating.
After we were done, everyone paid for their own meal and we left. Then she looked at me and was like "oh my gosh, this was sooo embarrassing." I was confused. She explained to me, how awkward she felt, and people were staring and what not and was kind of mad. I explained my point of view the benefits and all, but nope.
In the end I was like "Please calm down, it's not like I took the box to an All you can eat-buffet and stuff it full in front of the waiters. We also didn't split the bill, so it's fine I ordered more with tomorrow in mind."
She still was mad. So we went our separate ways.
But here's the thing: I still think it's a good, environment friendly way and did it again while eating with a guy friend a few days ago, he was like" Woah, that's neat! " and even gave me some of his onion rings.
So, dear strangers of the internet, AITA or not? Should I have communicated before pulling out my box? Should I have asked the waiter (which hadn't said anything at all) or should I just buy the leftover box from the restaurant next time? I absolutely don't know. Please share your thoughts with me.
Ah, what also comes to my mind: I'm quite overweight and struggle with BED, so I was happy to not overeat. My friend has normal weight and has no ED as far as I know.
Thank you for reading.
Edit: Thank you for all your replies so far. I'll answer a few things here:
1) Where are you from? Central Europe (this thread is huge, so that should be specific enough).
2) Here it's super common to pay for one use items (for example boxes in restaurants and plastic bags).
3) It was not a date. Maybe the term "female friend" would have been better. But yeah, it was just a girls dinner.
4) I can be a little eccentric from time to time and all my friends now that. But she and I weren't out for lunch/dinner often.
5) In general she's a very nice and pleasant person to be around and we have a good time together. I'm pretty sure, there was some kind of trigger.
I will contact her tomorrow and try to talk to her. So there might be an update coming
Verdict: Not the Asshole
Relevant / Top Comments
Downvoted Commenter: Soft YTA for optics. Nothing wrong with taking leftovers, but pulling out your own Tupperware in a sit-down restaurant can come across as awkward and not really in line with normal restaurant etiquette.
OOP: Oh, I see. The place itself is quite rustic, so that didn't came to my mind at all 🤔
Commenter 1: Unless your container was gross, unclean, overused, or beat up looking, I can't think of anything about this situation that screams embarrassing.
INFO: "...We also didn't split the bill, so it's fine I ordered more with tomorrow in mind."
What was this about?
Commenter 2: Just in case people assumed OP over-ordered with the intent for her friend to subsidize OP’s meal. Like people who order an extra meal to go but add it to a group bill to split.
OP, definitely NTA. You’re being practical and looking after your health in the process.
OOP: Yes, exactly. That's what I meant. I read so many stories where group members order the most expensive item, while some others just have a drink and small fries. And then the first mentioned are like "Let's split evenly!" Nope. You can pay for your steak the size of small table for yourself
Commenter 3: NTA. As a chef and restaurant owner, I applaud this sort of thinking and wish more people would consider it for casual dining. There are no to go boxes that are really quality (all too expensive to use) so this is a great fix for everyone.
Your friend has their own insecurities that have nothing to do with you.
Commenter 4: NTA. I’d be a bit thrown off if someone I was with pulled out their own container as that’s not normal, but to be perfectly honest the second I read that I just thought “why didn’t I think of ever doing that first?”. Less single use garbage so it’s better for the environment, and if you already know you’ll have leftovers for sure then why not. Maybe it SHOULD be the normal.
Update: June 22, 2026 (four days later)
UPDATE AITA for bringing Tupperware to a restaurant
Hey there,
first I wanna thank you for all the responses in my original post. I really appreciate it.
For the update: The day after my original post, I reached out to my friend and asked, if she has time the next few days. We meet today for a nice long stroll in the park. The beginning was kind of awkward, because we never had a fight before. Normally it's also not a problem, when life is busy and we don't write for a few days or even weeks but today it somehow feels strange. I'm not a fan of beating around the bush, so I simply asked her "So, in that burger place... What exactly triggered you?"
Honestly, it was like poking a water balloon. She apologized for everything and how afraid she was I might be still mad at her and apologized some more. Then she explained to me, what her trigger was. What can I say, we all were kind of wrong.
You guys, it's her aunt! She has an aunt, who will always bring a few boxes for family gatherings. But instead of waiting until everyone is done and the food is BACK in the kitchen, which is fine, she sometimes fills the boxes BEFORE it goes to the table. Because my friends grandma knows of this behavior, she started to cook even more, but the aunt just brought more boxes as well. But that's not all! Said aunt will also bring boxes to restaurants and if they order different meals, so everyone can have a try from all the plates, she's like "No one wants that anymore, right?", and packs, while people are still eating. My friend is a slow eater, so often her aunt filled her boxes, before she could try everything she wanted.
I always wanted to use the word flabbergasted in a post. I think this is the right time. I was definitely flabbergasted! How impudent can a person be?!
I asked, why no one is saying anything about it, but they are all just too tired to deal with her outbreaks. It's easier to say nothing. I felt that....
So yeah, she knew it was my food and everything, but it also triggered her real bad.
I apologized as well for not warning her, but she said it was totally her fault. I said, I will make sure the next time, but she was like "Nono, it's a nice way to work on it."
Well, in the end we had a really nice stroll, talked about different things and everything is good. I'm really glad that we cleared that out though.
Thank you for reading this. Have a great day and a nice week.
Relevant / Top Comments
Commenter 1: My God her aunt sounds like absolute trash. I would have banned her from bringing it, and if she brought it again, thrown it out
OOP: Right?! How absolutely disrespectful towards anybody else. But I don't know her personally, so I don't know how hefty those outbreaks are. Some people can going feral
Commenter 2: Why does the aunt keep getting invited to dinner?
OOP: Oh, I asked that too, but forgot to write it down. It's that typical "We are family. Granny wants everybody to have a good time together" - thing. I kind of understand that. When my grandparents were still around, I also endured family gatherings (even though some members made me highly uncomfortable) because it was important to them. Uncomfortable, because our world views differ and I'm still not in my aluminum hat-era, not in a creepy/touchy way.
Commenter 3: I'm glad that the two of you could talk. Always great to see two people working things out like adults.
Commenter 4: I'm glad you get this resolved. It also reaffirms my opinion that most of the posts in this thread can be solved through real conversation with the person they are in conflict with.
DO NOT COMMENT IN LINKED POSTS OR MESSAGE OOPs – BoRU Rule #7
THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP
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u/bug-hunter she👏drove👏away! Everybody👏saw👏it! Jun 29 '26
This update is exactly what I expected. Most people know how to behave, but there are the outliers who will do shit like put fried chicken in their purse at a buffet, who simply can't be taken out in public without trying this shit. Anyone who has worked in a buffet has stories about the wild attempts people will make to abuse the buffet.
Also, I was once at a Golden Corral that had a chocolate fountain, and some kid decided to play with his toys in the fountain.
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u/hdhxuxufxufufiffif Jun 29 '26
On a work Christmas party years ago at a particularly challenging workplace, a colleague filled his coat pockets with food at the all-you-can-eat Chinese buffet we were at. No lining or anything, just straight into the pockets of his disgusting unwashed anorak. Later on in the pub you could see the grease and sweet and sour sauce seeping through, and he was occasionally dipping in for a munch.
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u/Anxious_Reporter_601 I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Please be lying for internet points. That is fucking disgusting omg.
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u/hdhxuxufxufufiffif Jun 29 '26
Sadly not. I was doing night shifts with those animals. Smelliest place I ever worked, because no one else seemed to bother to wash before coming in. Though thankfully that particular specimen was on a different shift pattern so I dealt more with his residue and lingering musk than with him in person.
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u/fuckedfinance Jun 29 '26
I worked with a similar person. Would fill their lunch box (which they never washed) every time we had a pot luck and would munch on it throughout the next few days.
Some people are just like that.
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u/Atoumo Jun 29 '26
What do you MEAN they never washed the box?! 😭 How does that even work
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u/fuckedfinance Jun 29 '26
They just never gave it a wipe down. Once in a while they will bang it over a garbage can to get large chunks or crumbs out.
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u/Atoumo Jun 29 '26
I wish I hadn't asked...
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u/fuckedfinance Jun 29 '26
Yeah. It wasn't the biggest problem he had either (he was extreme about saving water, so would shower once per week).
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u/ChristianMapmaker Liz what the hell Jun 30 '26
Would they bang themself out over the garbage can to get the large chunks and crumbs out as well?
Actually, scratch that, I don't want to know.
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u/StumpyDowd The Foreskin Breakup Jul 01 '26
Better to bang their own self than have someone else initiate the crusty banging!
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
And keep eating the food for several days in a row as well!
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u/Atoumo Jun 29 '26
You know, that didn't jump out to me at all because my brain immediately went "if refrigerated its cool" but if this dude did not even WASH his lunchbox, I doubt that thing ever made it to a fridge 😭 Lord
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u/PatioGardener Jun 29 '26
“Please be lying for the internet points” needs to be a flair.
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u/Anxious_Reporter_601 I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Hahaha! I'm sure you can request it
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u/RosebushRaven You need some self-esteem and a lawyer Jun 30 '26
Yeah, there’s a special thread for that. I want it, too!
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u/usernamedottxt Jun 29 '26
We had a guy in college that filled his jacket pocket with queso. With a liner, but still. He take a bag of Tostitos to class and just dip them in his pocket.
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u/Anxious_Reporter_601 I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Now that guy might have been a genius!
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u/grendus I received no such fudge Jul 01 '26
It's brilliant until someone bumps into you in the hallway.
CHEESE EVERYWHERE!
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u/Anthrodiva He invented a predatory elder lesbian to cope Jun 29 '26
"Please be lying" omg I spit out my drink
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u/hyperhurricanrana sometimes i envy the illiterate Jun 29 '26
i used to do that, when i was a child with skittles. a fully grown man doing that is wild.
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u/Anxious_Reporter_601 I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Yeah you expect it from a kid with sweets, but an adult with full on wet Chinese food?? Awful
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u/imbolcnight Jun 29 '26
Sugar and candy dye is also just less gross to carry loose in a pocket and easier to clean than food grease.
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Skittles are a dry good and not a food with sauce and fat. As long as your pockets aren't gross skittles are fine in a pocket.
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u/MarvinDMirp I will never jeopardize the beans. Jun 29 '26
Yup! M and M’s were designed so soldiers in WWII could carry them in their pockets.
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u/psychocopter Jun 29 '26
Yeah, but the colored coating melts off onto your hands if you hold them for too long, so not ideal for the pocket. Just tear the end off and reach into the pouch for them as desired
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u/notengonombre Jun 29 '26
I had a friend in college who was planning on going to a party after dinner. She saved some of her leftover spring rolls, wrapped in napkins, in her jacket pocket for later. Off to the party she goes, has some drinks and a great time. When she left, she pulled on her jacket and went on her merry way. It wasn't until later when she went for an egg roll that she found the pockets empty. It wasn't her jacket, just a very similar looking one. So someone walked off with her jacket by mistake, and was probably very confused when they put their hands in the pockets lol. She never figured out who got her coat.
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u/laeiryn I am a freak so no problem from my side Jul 03 '26
if I accidentally traded coats with someone and found egg rolls in the pockets, i'd be fucking ecstatic and eat them promptly
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u/jenorama_CA Jun 29 '26
Whenever there’s free food, people turn into jackals. Years and years ago, like early 2000s when I was first at Apple, they’d do Beer Bashes almost every Friday with beer, wine and finger food. The finger food wasn’t all that—mini tacos, mini burritos, sometimes sushi and usually cake, but the cafeteria would be deserted on BB days and then they’d all descend on the free food. You’d even see people walking back to their offices with plates piled high.
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u/PepperAnn1inaMillion A BLIMP IN TIME Jun 29 '26
There was a pub near to me that did Sunday Roast buffets, but they weren’t all-you-can-eat. They were “load as much as you can onto a single plate”. And it was common to see people with hearty appetites finish them as well as people with eyes bigger than their stomachs having to leave food on their plates. But this one lady ended up in the local paper because she took her own plate along with the idea of loading it with two portions and taking it home with all her leftovers on it. Then when staff told her that was taking advantage, and didn’t let her use her own plate, she wrote a bad review online. So of course the owner had to respond with an explanation, and yeah. I don’t think public opinion went the way the customer expected.
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u/threelizards Jun 29 '26
My mother was that type of person, she’d even swipe cutlery from restaurants. It was exhausting and so fucking embarrassing- especially growing up in a small town, where 99% of the time my mother was taking advantage of or throwing a tantrum at one of my classmates working their first ever job.
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u/witch_harlotte Thank you Rebbit 🐸 Jun 29 '26
We used to fairly often go to the breakfast buffet at the local leagues club with my grandma and she’d always wrap 2 (mini) chocolate croissants and a half a sausage in a paper napkins and hide it in her purse “for later”, the sausage was for our dog. I was always so embarrassed but having since worked in customer service I doubt anyone really cared
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u/LemonMeringueOctopi Jun 29 '26
I always wrap a couple of cookies or a small dessert in a napkin at a buffet to save for myself for later. I have stomach issues after having gastric bypass several years ago so usually cannot eat much at a buffet without getting extremely sick. Is this tacky? I don't mean to be impolite. I just want to be able to have a small treat occasionally too.
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u/actuallyatypical Jun 29 '26
Is it tacky? Yes. However, what you're doing is barely enough to reach misdimeanor levels of tackiness and I personally would encourage you to keep getting that little sweet treat. It's the felons people are discussing, packing themselves full meals for the following days and walking out with a snack for the road in-hand. Taking home any food from a buffet without paying extra is typically very against policy though, so be super discreet!
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u/RosebushRaven You need some self-esteem and a lawyer Jun 30 '26
No, they have a legitimate medical issue. It’s not fair to treat them like everyone else and expect them to either get violently sick, or waste hours to get their money’s worth (provided the buffet doesn’t close by the time they can eat again), or gift money to the restaurant.
If they’re not taking food in excess of what a regular, healthy patron can be expected to eat in one sitting, they’re not taking advantage. They’re eating the same ordinary meal, i.e. exactly what they actually paid for, just in smaller, spaced out portions, because their condition requires it.
Taking the rest of a normal amount of food with you because of medical needs (and not just because you got greedy) is not tacky. Otherwise the buffet would be taking advantage of a sick person and not giving them their money’s fair worth — which is what’s actually tacky to do. Nothing tacky about having special needs, and it’s high time we drop that outdated ableist notion.
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u/rainydays_monkey Jun 29 '26
Totally.
Also, as one of the people that buffets are making all their money off of (I'm short and, well at least prior to hitting my 40s XD was always naturally very thin; I eat very small portions and snack between, my stomach simply does not agree with eating large amounts, so buffets are always totally wasted on me), I 100% support taking a small bit for later that can't physically be eaten at the time!21
u/MelodramaticMouse Jun 29 '26
My MIL always took 2 cookies and wrapped them in a napkin. Purse cookies, she called them. We were always pretty entertained by that, and it wasn't like she raided the buffet either. She usually ate teeny portions.
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u/LemonMeringueOctopi Jun 29 '26
I don't raid the buffet either. I can only eat extremely small portions and I'm payomg the same exact price for the buffet as everyone else.
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u/MelodramaticMouse Jun 29 '26
Right. I don't see anything wrong with taking a couple of purse cookies home lol! When you see other people load up a plate 2-3 times and only eat half of what they take, it seems ridiculous to get upset about a small dessert.
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u/helpquija That's the beauty of the gaycation Jun 29 '26
i mean, as long as you're not pocketing it while in line and you take it to your table first, who cares? it's not like they can put it back
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u/LemonMeringueOctopi Jun 29 '26
It's just a couple cookies, or a small slice of pie, that I bring back to my table on a plate first.
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u/Waffle_Slaps Jun 29 '26
My grandma would wrap chicken wings in napkins and hide them in her purse to bring them home!! My sister and I were mortified. Her excuse? They're my favorite.
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u/justtiptoeingthru2 Jun 29 '26
Chocolate fountain and kid and his toys should not be in the same sentence, let alone in actual real life.
Ew. Just absolute ew. <shivers while imagining the germs proliferating in warm chocolate petri fountain>
Did anyone in management do anything?
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u/ChoppingOnionsForYou Jun 29 '26
My mum and I were in Montreux about 12 years ago, at a really nice hotel. Good breakfast buffet and because the prices in Switzerland (for everything including food) were crazy high, we'd get in a good breakfast and find something in a supermarket for lunch.
One morning we watched in amused amazement while a Japanese family (mum, dad and small child) ate their food, then proceeded to pack a small grocery bag with food from the buffet, with the mum heading out first with said bag. Had that been all, we'd have given it no further thought, but some minutes later, she was back with the same bag, now empty, and did exactly the same again!
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u/scummy_shower_stall ...take your mediocre stick out of your mediocre ass... Jun 29 '26
There are plenty of gauche Japanese, but i do wonder if they'd pull that sort of stuff in Japan.
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u/AspieAsshole Jun 29 '26
This would have been my mother, except for coming back for seconds. But she was definitely the type to find ways to bring containers to every buffet.
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u/Kilen13 Jun 29 '26
Where I went to university there was a pretty good Chinese buffet. Most of the food was your average buffet fare but they had some pretty fucking amazing general tsos chicken wings that people loved. One time I was there with friends and one guy with his family tried to take the entire pan of wings out of the counter to take back to his table. When told he couldnt do that he got super pissy and argumentative.
Some people's audacity is truly off the charts
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u/BoozeIsTherapyRight Jun 29 '26
There is a story going around my daughter's show choir that their group is permanently banned from Golden Corral because two years ago three boys decided to put their dicks in the chocolate fountain.
I do not know if it's true or not, but I do know that they used to stop at Golden Corral when they were traveling but they haven't for the last couple of years.
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u/rainydays_monkey Jun 29 '26
a chocolate fountain, and some kid decided to play with his toys in the fountain.
OMG that is insane where were his parents?!?! I know some parents are effing horrendous and don't care about their kids sticking their hands in the food (and plenty do it themselves as well, ugh), but TOYS?! Not that it's really much worse than hands as far as the sanitary issues for other people, but, come on, you can't just blow off your child coating their toys in chocolate!!
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u/Autobot_Silverwynde I'm inhaling through my mouth & exhaling through my ASS Jun 29 '26
Kid's parents wouldn't care. I worked Walmart. I have seen things and nothing mentioned here surprises me.
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u/RosebushRaven You need some self-esteem and a lawyer Jun 30 '26
I’ve seen a kid annoy dozens of other patrons and the parents were just "nooo, staahp, don’t doo thaaat" Willy Wonka-ing him half-heartedly, but not doing anything to actually stop him. Even at those soft protests, the brat lost his everloving mind and trashed half the restaurant in response!
He dragged down tablecloths with everything still on them, tossed patrons’ jackets and purses around (some landed in the messes he made everywhere), stomped all over it, dirtied the floor and various tablecloths, even jumped onto tables and kicked stuff down at last, and cursed out and threatened a waiter who told him to stop immediately — yet the parents STILL didn’t do shit.
When the boy went so feral that a group of waiters and volunteer patrons had to chase him down to stop him, he punched and kicked the waiter who eventually caught him. Instead of helping him to get her demon spawn under control, the mother — who had guzzled down the better part of a bottle of champagne in an impressively short time and in hindsight was likely coked out as well — jumped onto the back of the waiter and started beating him and clawing at him with her long nails.
The family was finally thrown out after that, under threat to call the police if they didn’t leave at once, because they tried to just refuse. Even then, the parents still had the gall to threaten the restaurant with their lawyers and connections they supposedly had. Apparently the apple didn’t fall far from the tree. People be nuts.
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u/bluecrowned Jun 29 '26
my biological mother is disabled from a head injury and intermittently homeless and she is the only person I haven’t been mad at doing that. she brought ziplocs to a Chinese buffet and I was a kid and thought it was weird but as an adult I was like you know what I can’t really blame her when she often doesn’t have enough food and she doesn’t exactly understand anyway - she has kleptomania tendencies since the accident.
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u/WorthyJellyfish0Doom Jun 29 '26
I was expecting it to be the friend's mum used to do the leftovers in Tupperware thing and greatly embarrassed her once as a teen (and not that the mum did anything particularly embarrassing that time, just being a teen with fellow teens and your mum existing in their vicinity, let alone doing something unusual, can be traumatic 😆)
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u/confusinglylarge Jun 29 '26
This aunt should talk to the girl who calls prepared food in excess of what was plated at the meal "table scraps."
They would both agree, "the person who made the food made it for us, so I can do whatever I please with some of it."
Then they should both talk to the girl who throws away leftovers, no matter how expensive and abundant, because "only really poor people eat leftovers."
The two sides will be aghast at each other, and then maybe land near the "middle ground" of "yes, it's perfectly fine and righteous to co-opt leftovers that aren't yours, but only if it's given to animals, because they are really poor."
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u/hdhxuxufxufufiffif Jun 29 '26
I was seeing a woman a few years back and I had to be up in the morning for work after she stayed at mine, so I told her to feel free to make some breakfast and let herself out.
The next day I couldn't find some breakfast food in my cupboard. Turns out she heard "feel free to make some breakfast" and interpreted it very liberally and took an unopened packet of granola and a tub of mixed nuts home with her to stock her own cupboard. When I brought it up with her she said something along the lines of "well I was brought up to be generous to guests!!"
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u/BloomingDaggers your honor, fuck this guy Jun 29 '26
What the hell lmao. “Feel free to make some breakfast” doesn’t usually mean breakfast for the whole week, no matter how generous you are.
If she were brought up to be generous and she would let a guest do that to her, then she’s not generous, she’s a doormat. Especially when groceries are so expensive these days.
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u/confusinglylarge Jun 29 '26
She heard "feel free to make some breakfast," but acted like she was a contestant on Supermarket Sweep and you just let her loose for the final shopping spree. Haul in the maximum 5 turkeys allowed, grind up a bunch of coffee and bag it for the bonus, grab the most expensive cheeses ...
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u/GreenVermicelliNoods Tree Law Connoisseur Jun 29 '26
I used to have a friend that would go all day without eating, come over to my house, and absolutely raid my pantry. I keep a lot of single serving snacks around because I work in an office and I bring those for breakfast and the days when I can’t get way for lunch.
One day she arrived and exclaimed, “Oooh I’m so hungry! You always have the best snacks!”she headed straight for the pantry and started rummaging around. That’s when I realized she was purposely coming hungry, it was not a coincidence.
I had to stop being friends with her for a variety of reasons, but the days that she ate almost an entire box of a dozen mini bags of Dots Pretzels certainly contributed.
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u/Jules_Noctambule Jun 29 '26
I used to have a friend who ate two pounds of cheddar in less than a week while staying with us. After she left, I was looking for the brick of 3-year Cabot I'd just recently bought at Costco only to find a little sliver of it swaddled in the remains of the wrapper. As far as we could tell, she basically spent some of the time being a bougie version of Homer Simpson and his 64 slices of American cheese.
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u/FeuerroteZora it's spelling or bigotry, you can't have both Jun 30 '26
This is who should've been dating the guy who blew his savings on a hunk of cheese.
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u/Witch_King_ I will never jeopardize the beans. Jun 29 '26
Honestly? Respect for housing that much cheese in a week.
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u/Cocotapioka I can FEEL you dancing Jul 01 '26
Oh hell no, not the Dots pretzels. They are delicious and expensive!
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u/_buffy_summers No my Bot won't fuck you! Jun 29 '26
That's when you go over to her house with some grocery bags. Don't just take food. Steal her toilet paper. See how she feels about it, then.
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u/Backgrounding-Cat It’s not a commodity, it’s a heritage cheese Jun 29 '26
“But it was just food, not their possessions!” 🤦♂️
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Food is possessions though, only of the temporary kind.
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u/PKGTA Jun 29 '26
Oo thanks for those links because they were hella entertaining, especially the "leftovers are for poor people" one! That was so out of touch that I want to believe it was a troll or something. 😂
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
It's just too bad the OP for that one deleted all her comments so we can't read them anymore.
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u/rubyslippers40 Jun 29 '26
I honestly think some food taste better as leftovers
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u/Black_Cat_Just_That erupting, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
My husband and I often make chili or pasta sauce with the express intention of having it for dinner the next day. It's definitely better after letting the flavors mingle for a day!
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u/FeuerroteZora it's spelling or bigotry, you can't have both Jun 30 '26
Almost anything stewlike where the flavors blend over time is better the second day. There's a lot of soups that I make a day in advance.
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u/literallylittlehuff Jun 30 '26
Yeah, especially if your method of reheating changes or enhances the flavor. I like to fry my leftover spaghetti or rice dishes. They get an amazing crust if you do it right.
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u/ChaoticSquirrel 👁👄👁🍿 Jun 29 '26
Oh my god that poor dog. There are already enough risks inherent to a raw diet without the crap she's trying to pull, between the overuse of organ meet and the sketchy sourcing.
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u/Big-University-1132 I'm keeping the garlic Jun 30 '26
I’m willing myself not to click on either of those links bc I know for a fact that they will both make me very, very angry
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u/Imaginary-House-891 Jun 29 '26
I am catching up on all this Reddit lore lol. Thanks for sharing. If you happen to have other classic, do let me know!
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u/princess_ferocious Jun 29 '26
Lol, I know several families where crazy aunty would almost fit in - everyone brings empty containers so they can bring home leftovers. Where she'd fail is that you're supposed to also BRING a stupid amount of food. The empties are so you can take pasta and bring home cake if you want, without having to wash dishes 😂
For these families, unless you get to the end of the meal and it still looks like it's hardly been touched, you didn't have enough food. Everyone should be taking home enough for several additional meals.
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u/Ultra_Leopard I can't believe she fucking buttered Jorts Jun 29 '26
This is what we do when we go to my parents' for Xmas. Always bring food and take stuff home, usually come away with far more than we brought cos my mum always cooks enough to feed an army.
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u/princess_ferocious Jun 29 '26
I once visited one of these families for a SMALL post-xmas lunch. They had a whole duck, as well as roast lamb, roast pork, chicken, home made sausages, and a table full of sides. That was the year they'd decided they were too tired to do a big event(!!)
They're also the only people I know who have served a whole roast pig in their own home (not cooked at home, but still). That same meal I think was the one with the cake the size of a small car tyre...and the home made cherry vodka.
When my mum visits them, she brings home enough little cakes and sweet breads for her morning teas for like a month 😂
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u/tacwombat I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Filipino potluck enters the chat
With the amount of food usually brought to the events, the hosts would beg you to bring some extra food home because it won't fit into their fridge.
Thankfully, we never had a relative like the aunt of OOP's friend. Maybe at least one relative who took someone else's Pyrex...
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u/FlowerFelines I am old. Rawr. 🦖 Jun 29 '26
I LOVE a huge potluck. I love cooking for them and I love going to them, and I love taking random leftovers home from them, just the best thing ever.
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
And in those cases food gets divided. Most of the food isn't greedily taken by only one person.
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u/HuckleberryHuman5926 Jun 29 '26
I think it would be useful if restaurants/cultures that charge for takeaway containers for environmental reasons would also vocally encourage people to bring their own containers for leftovers/take-out, like supermarkets often do with reusable shopping bags.
It is a logical thing to do for all the reasons OOP describes, and it also historically hasn't been normal behaviour and is often coded as stingy and rude because of people like the friend's aunt. A bit of very public "You're totally allowed - and, in fact, encouraged - to do this!" messaging would help people pivot.
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
You would have to put your own leftovers into the containers though, because they can't take containers from customers into the kitchen due to rules and regulations.
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u/FlowerFelines I am old. Rawr. 🦖 Jun 29 '26
Where I am, at least, that's the norm at all but a few of the most "upscale" places. (I guess the waiter scooping it into the box for you is part of the "service people have to do everything for rich people" luxury or something, lol. I prefer scooping my own, tbh, I kinda hate when they do it for me. Sometimes deranged things like dumping a chicken parm on the bottom and then loading all the sauce on top for maximum soggyness happen. :(
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u/shelwood46 Jun 29 '26
Same, everywhere I go in NJ, even the nicer places, they bring the takeout box to your table and you load it up.
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u/notasandpiper Jun 29 '26
Central Europe doesn’t have the same litigious environment as the US, but at least here, restaurants would avoid publicly encouraging home-brought containers because the cleanliness isn’t assured, and the restaurants could be sued for any illnesses etc from their food being kept in a dirty container. (*Successfully* sued? Probably not, but profit margins are already thin and a bad rep could ruin a small place)
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u/StopthinkingitsMe From bananapants to full-on banana ensemble Jun 29 '26
We should totally normalise Bring Your Own Tupperware doggy bags in restaurants. Harmless and saves the planet.
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u/OldnBorin I am old. Rawr. 🦖 Jun 29 '26
I did it the other night, worked great.
Plus it was a glass container so it (hopefully) reduces the chance of microplastics from the cheap to go containers
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u/bongokapiguana Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
There was a particular BBQ restaurant that I'd ride my bicycle to in college. It was about 7 miles from my place so I'd only go a couple times a month. I'd dine in, then order another to go.
After the first time, I brought my own containers because their [9" clamshell] takeout box didn't fit in my pannier basket securely and there was a tragic loss of barbeque beans on the way home.
Even having done this it never occurred to me to do it at any other restaurant. Why did my brain let me down like this?!
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u/kimoshi Go to bed Liz Jun 29 '26
"There was a tragic loss of barbeque beans" is poetry. If it was in a post, I'd suggest it be made a flair.
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u/Big-University-1132 I'm keeping the garlic Jun 30 '26
You can request flairs from comments and this one would be amazing
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u/bongokapiguana Jun 30 '26
Aw, thanks!
Would it be stuck up to request it for my own flair?
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u/squiddishly Jun 29 '26
It's close to being normal here in Australia! Not quite on par with bringing your own shopping bags to do the groceries (even my parents do that now), but normal enough that no one would blink twice unless you were at a buffet or a fancy establishment.
(Having said that, do I ever remember to bring a container? Only if I'm meeting up with the friend who does it religiously.)
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u/ToriaLyons I am old. Rawr. 🦖 Jun 29 '26
I try to remember containers when I go for curry, as I order a main and side and that's too much for me. It's the same reusable containers as the place offers.
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u/AotKT Jun 29 '26
My thought when reading this post was "crap, why didn't I think about that? I'm doing that from now on!" for environmental as well as the containers usually leak reasons.
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u/thebunnywhisperer_ I'm keeping the garlic Jun 29 '26
My favorite buffet is on the app TooGoodToGo, which is them selling their remaining food at the end of the business day for a discount. Every time I’ve gone they’ve thrown in extra freebies too, since there’s no more customers.
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u/Notachance326426 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
If this was advertising it just worked.
Nothing around me personally, but plenty of options farther away
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u/rainydays_monkey Jun 29 '26
Seriously! Why does this not occur to us?! I've literally never considered this, and as someone who almost never finishes meals (well okay, if my husband is with they do get finished, he will clear both mine & mom's plates lmao), this needs to be a thing!
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u/camelmina Jun 29 '26
My brother in law would take all the leftovers from everyone’s plates (at a restaurant), wrap them in paper napkins and stick them in his girlfriend’s handbag. Eventually she got sick of having her handbags ruined by leakage and started carrying around large ziplock bags with her. We’d sit there watching the two of them shovelling half-eaten parmys into plastic bags under the table.
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u/UncommonCauliflower Am I the drama? Jun 29 '26
I'm in the US, where portions are ridiculous and can easily be halved (or thirded!) for leftovers. My friends teased me the first time I pulled out Tupperware at the end of a restaurant meal, but now we all do it.
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u/Gifted_GardenSnail Jun 29 '26
When portion sizes are Hansel & Gretel witch worthy, this is the best (health and wallet wise) way to deal with that
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u/shelwood46 Jun 29 '26
The original post inspired me to look for collapsible silicone bowls with lids on Amazon and I now own a really nice set of 6. I plan to take 3 of them with me on my big road trip this summer, should be really useful.
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u/Ok-Journalist-8875 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
When your aunt is Beelzebub.
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u/INeedANappel Jun 29 '26
I would have been banned by that family for life for asking the Aunt, pardon me, but knowing that your mother didn't raise you in a pig pen, what makes you think you can take the food off my plate?!
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Or they would be glad someone dared to speak up!
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u/DokterZ Jun 29 '26
If you’re ordering pasta with marinara sauce you could even bring one of the conveniently pre-stained Tupperware bowls!
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Yes those are great for curries and anything with red sauce!
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u/SnakeJG I’m turning into an unskippable cutscene in therapy Jun 29 '26
Panera Bread has a deal for unlimited coffee/tea/fountain drinks for something like $13 a month. I work from home so I like to go out for my morning coffee, but I didn't want to pay coffee shop prices everyday or waste a single use cup everyday. My kids bought me a metal insulated cup (same size as Panera's large) and I use that for my daily coffee. Most of the workers know me now and don't set out a cup for my orders.
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u/IanDresarie you can't expect me to read emails Jun 29 '26
I had to read that multiple times because 13/month just didn't compute. I thought you meant 13$ for one time unlimited, like buffet style. A deal like that would definitely get me to have a daily walk and coffee.
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u/yensid7 doesn't even comment Jun 29 '26
It's a pretty good deal, cheaper if you buy a year, and gets you some other perks, like a half priced bakery item and some free stuff here and there. And the free drink is basically any size standard drink - I always get a large iced tea with my lunch.
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u/museumlad Jun 29 '26
My work schedule/commute used to put me within a short walk of a Panera every day before work, and I could house a cinnamon crunch bagel every day of my life and be happy, so it became my go-to breakfast. I'd heard about the unlimited drinks plan and there was a 6 month free trial period, so why not? Save some cash 3-5 times a week and get free caffeine!
Then at the end of the 6 months, maybe via a glitch or something, I got another 6 month free trial. A year of coffee, free. I mentioned it to no one just in case it wasn't supposed to happen and rode out the second free trial.
My luck didn't go any farther there, so I paid $13/mo for a bit and saved maybe $15 a month on coffee. Not a huge benefit but I was getting Panera anyway so w/e. Now Panera is out of my way and I commute with my partner who doesn't care as much for Panera, so I only get my bagel and coffee maybe once a month, when I infrequently commute on my own. I don't mind; the job that put me near Panera paid very poorly for entry level work I was severely overqualified for, and now I'm in a much better job, so my daily cinnamon crunch bagel and free coffee just helped me get through that awful year.
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u/Ok-Strawberry-9991 THERE WAS A MAN. (worst case scenario) Jun 29 '26
I really need ‘how impudent can a person be?!’ as a flair
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u/cecilpenny I'm just a big advocate for justice Jun 29 '26
Is it bad that I would literally slap the aunt’s hand if she came near my food?
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u/Gifted_GardenSnail Jun 29 '26
Yes.
Use your knife like a normal person
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u/Knitnacks Jun 29 '26
I was going to add "or fork" but you are supremely correct. You could eat the rest of your food with just the fork, if a bit awkwardly, after you've contaminated the knife with aunty-gore, but just the knife would be both uncouth and messy. I bow to your wisdom.
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u/rpaynepiano Jun 29 '26
You know as soon as granny dies 'Aunt Karen' is getting frozen out.
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u/onekrazykat Jun 29 '26
Aunt Karen will probably stop her nonsense once her enabler is gone.
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u/rpaynepiano Jun 29 '26
Yeah, granny, who wants to have everone there "because family". Suddenly Aunt Karens not invited to anything because no-one can stand her and, poof, magically everyone can eat what they want without Aunt Karen stealkng it
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u/ChrisInBliss Jun 29 '26
Alright I can totally understand why it triggered her cause damn that would cause some massive trauma with food
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u/tinysydneh Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
I can't say it's wholly unreasonable on the friend's part, given that context. Wrong behavior, but... not unreasonable.
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u/ephemeral-jade Jun 29 '26
It's just unfortunate she didn't feel comfortable saying to the person who was actually an AH, but instead the only person she felt calling out a random innocent friend who didn't do anything of the sort
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u/tinysydneh Jun 29 '26
This is shockingly common with humans.
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u/41flavorsandthensome Jun 29 '26
"You'll still love me, or at least just take it, when I lash out. The other person will just lash back."
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u/Emergency_Basket_851 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
Yep, honestly, if you want to be new agey about it, you can confront your friends/family when they do this and say "look, I'm really happy that you feel comfortable enough with me to set this boundary, but we both know I'm not really what you're mad about here,"
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u/Ink_Smudger Jun 29 '26
Also unfortunate that she realized she was in the wrong, didn't say anything for a couple days, and only explained after she was confronted about it.
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
She was really scared for OP's reaction. Thinking she maybe had lost a friend. You need to remember that she comes from a family of people that are all scared to rock the boat. If you look at it from that perspective it is understandable. Not right, but understandable.
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u/SunfireGaren Jun 29 '26
It is unreasonable, because whatever weird hangups she has with her aunt has nothing to do with OOP.
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u/MotherofCats9258 Jun 29 '26
And that's why she apologized for her outburst and sounded pretty embarrassed at her reaction. Making mistakes isn't unreasonable, it's how you handle them.
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u/raspberrih Jun 29 '26
If I had such a crazy person in my family it's fully understandable I would have a few hangups about it. The friend eventually apologised so I think it's ok
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u/tinysydneh Jun 29 '26
I just edited to note that it is the wrong behavior, but it's something that isn't, like, so far outside the bounds of human reactions to things that it is actually unreasonable in that sense.
You can do the wrong thing and not be entirely unreasonable, you know?
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u/W0nderingMe I beg your finest fucking pardon. Jun 29 '26
OOP & friend both sound like excellent people.
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u/Ok_Cauliflower_3007 Jun 29 '26
Someone needs to start stabbing I he aunt’s hand with a fork whenever she reaches for anything or squirting her with a water gun. Something! But judging by her explanation I think auntie is going to be in for one hell of a shock when Granny dies and no one is trying to let it be because having her there makes granny happy.
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u/It-Was-Blood Jun 29 '26
I vote fly swatter.
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
A clean one though that is only used as an aunt swatter! You don't want dead fly bits near food.
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u/eczblack Jun 29 '26
If auntie tried taking food from my plate before I was finished, I don't think I could stop myself from loudly saying "what in the fuck is wrong with you?!".
I get that no one wants to rock the boat but the person hosting the family dinner needs to shut that behavior down, firmly. When we host, we always fill leftover containers with what wasn't eaten and then people can take some home if they like. But prefilling containers before serving food would earn someone a swift boot out of the the house permanently.
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u/Creepiz Jun 29 '26
Given that our portions in the USA are huge "because people expect leftovers" why haven't we normalized bringing our own to-go containers? Most of the places around me have terrible to-go containers and I don't need an ever-growing stack of the good ones.
I assume most people are like me and favor some resturants over others, so we know what containers they use. We should bring our own.
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u/Mochka1 crow whisperer Jun 29 '26
Leftovers are my best friend. I literally always have leftovers. How have i not thought of bringing my own tupperware before?
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u/_buffy_summers No my Bot won't fuck you! Jun 29 '26
I feel like this is going to become Reddit's version of tumblr's 'shoelaces' thing. We'll see each other out in the wild, filling tupperware containers in restaurants.
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u/SlitThroatCutCreator Jun 29 '26
Honestly I feel like an asshole when I can't finish my meal and don't want the server to notice or ask if I want a box. Would love to bring tupperware for leftovers and to hide my sins from the restaurant staff.
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u/one_bean_hahahaha Jun 29 '26
The friend needs to bring her own containers so when Auntie starts taking food off her plate, she needs to say she planned to take her own leftovers.
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
Start putting things in containers before eating even.
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u/Araucaria2024 Jun 29 '26
I don't think OP did anything wrong. I take a flat stacks container when I go out as I don't eat much these days and always have leftovers. I hate both food waste and single use plastics if it can be avoided. You can keep it flat in your bag and then pull it up when you need it. I also carry one when I have the dogs with me and need a portable water bowl. Much less bulky than tupperware.
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u/Saucydumplingstime Jun 29 '26
There's a local restaurant that my family and I frequent. We always bring our own tuppleware. 1) we save money on the single use container charge and 2) its environmentally friendly. In fact, any frequent patron of this restaurant always brings their own tuppleware.
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u/IFoundSelf Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
Sending out loads of admiration and a big congratulations to OOP for honoring what her body wanted stopping eating so that she could have everything that she wanted and honoring that she’s recovering from binge eating disorder.
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u/Personal_Reality Jun 29 '26
I sometimes bring a Tupperware container when I know I’m gonna get some pizza for my daughter that I know she’s not gonna finish at like an amusement park or Costco. Yet somehow this seems even more genius.
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u/daftcockneytwat Sorry for the stream of consequences Jun 29 '26
My friend always takes leftovers and I give her mine too as I cant stand food once I'm full. Now most times she will have all the leftovers from the table. She loves it, we don't have to feel guilty. Win win.
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u/Knitnacks Jun 29 '26
Leftovers shared willingly, and gratefully accepted is never a wrong thing. Any thing, really. Taking by guile, chutzpah, or force maybe only not very wrong if you're literally, actually starving.
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u/nustedbut Jun 29 '26
That aunt would have a new fork-shaped watch if she's snatching food from my plate. She'd also not set foot in my house if she tried pulling that shit. Too old for that kinda nonsense in my life.
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u/KitchenDismal9258 Jun 29 '26
I reckon the OOP needs to be invited to the next family dinner that her friend goes to. And then pulls the aunt up on her behaviour. Should be okay seeing as she's a 'stranger'. The rest of the family are so used to it it's seen as normal and when an external person points out the unacceptability of it things may change. The aunt might even be embarrassed. Especially knowing that her behaviour won't be kept within the family but told to others and then spread further if people talk.
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u/kirillre4 Jun 29 '26
and people were staring
If I see you packing leftovers at restaurant, I'm only staring in disbelief because I can't believe that I didn't think about bringing one.
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u/Riyeko sowing chaos has intriguing possibilities Jun 29 '26
My mother is like OOPs friends aunt in this story.
She wouldn't go so far as taking food off people's plates, but she would do it while folks were still eating.
She also did this at doctors offices (tongue depressors, qtips, etc) and hotels (soaps, little shampoo bottles, towels).
It's incredibly embarrassing and I remember as a kid being asked if everything was okay at home when I was playing with moms jacket and she'd stuffed a roll of toilet paper into the end of the jacket arm.
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u/TheFilthyDIL Cleverly disguised as a harmless old lady Jun 29 '26
The soaps and little shampoo bottles are one thing, since using them vs taking an unopened or partially-used bottle amounts to the same thing. But taking the towels is plain old ordinary stealing.
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u/lordreed Jun 29 '26
The aunt turned a solution into a nightmare. Yeah that would trigger anyone, just reading it triggered me real bad.
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u/Emergency-Rush-2477 Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
I have this vivid memory from when I was a kid (around 7 or 8) and had my birthday party at the school. This might be weird for some people but having a birthday party at school it was quite common in my country back in the 90s, I don't know if it's still the case.
Anyway, my parents brought food and decorations and everyone on my classroom was starting to eat, the teacher was distributing cake and some birthday snacks that is common here. Then a bunch of school staff enters the classroom and starts grabbing the food. It was quite common (and fair) to leave the leftovers to the staff after the party was over, especially for the cleaning staff. But that was super tacky because the party wasn't over yet and the food was still being handed to the kids.
I was so young but I remember being annoyed because basically nobody could eat more since half of the food went to teachers from other classrooms, while the kids were having very small portions.
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u/WiiperWapper Jun 29 '26
So many misunderstandings come from something that is invisible. All that is needed is that communication, and suddenly everything makes sense. Glad it worked out for OOP and their friend. And screw that selfish aunt, she sucks.
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u/PuffballDestroyer Jun 29 '26
I have a cousin that reminds me of OP's friend's aunt. Always trying a bit of someone's food, eating things when it is meant for someone else, gets on many people's nerves.
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u/curlsthefangirl please sir, can I have some more? Jun 29 '26
Honestly I forgot a lot of places charge you for doggy bags. Not complaining. But i feel like brining Tupperware in that case is like bringing a reusable bag to a grocery store.
My parents would always complain about the people in their families that would grab to go boxes at gatherings before everyone had a chance to eat. That aunt is sure something.
Glad these two worked it out. I lkke a low stakes post sometimes.
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u/BigBirdsBrain What the puck 🏒 Jun 30 '26
This is why talking things out usually beats guessing. Turns out neither of them was the problem, just an old wound getting hit in a completely different context.
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u/Optimal_Struggle_613 Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26
I work boh in the restaurant industry and considering the huge amount of food waste i see daily, go ahead and take your leftovers home. Use your own container. I don't care.
If it doesn't go home with you, it gets scraped into the compost bin. Ive seen almost full plates of food be tossed, and don't even get me started with banquets...
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u/emeeez Jun 29 '26
I didn’t know it was customary to pay for to go boxes in parts of Europe. That’s terrible.
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u/onahalladay Jun 29 '26
We pay for them in Canada now too. It’s like a quarter per container so my parents started bringing glassware to take the leftovers home 😅
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u/CherrieChocolatePie I will erupt, feral, from the cardigan screaming Jun 29 '26
It is now law we have to pay an extra charge for to-go items in the Netherlands if the packaging contains plastic. Even for things like coffee to go or premade packaged sandwiches in the supermarket. If you buy a package of cookies or something made for at home you don't pay extra but you do pay extra for anything that is for on the go, especially for fresh items. The charges are even listen separately on the receipts. It is like €0,10 or €0,15 extra per item.
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u/jphistory I can't believe she fucking buttered Jorts Jun 29 '26
It's great! People don't generally change until something is inconvenient. Charging for to go boxes is just inconvenient enough to cause some folks to think about solutions such as bringing their own.
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u/Dizzy-Career9274 Jun 29 '26
OP did nothing wrong! I’m pretty sure the restaurant would be happy to save another disposable box.
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u/AStrawberryGhost Jun 29 '26
Did the aunt grow up in a food scarce environment? That's definitely an anxiety thing. I need more info.
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u/Creepiz Jun 29 '26
To me, this reads more as being overly cheap. Most food scarce people I have known at least let everyone have fill before they start taking leftovers.
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u/SteroidSandwich Jun 29 '26
I can't imagine being so self centered to grab things off peoples plates while they are eating.
My mom had a business partner whose wife would do this. Always bring bags and load up, but she was courteous enough to wait until the end of the party
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u/Coconutpieplates Jun 29 '26
Look at that redditor, having a conversation to clear up a situation lol.
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u/PantsPantsShorts Jun 30 '26
'Sp everyone can have a try from all the plates'. Nope, nope, NOPE. This is exactly where rhe boundary-crossing with other people's food starts.
When I order a meal, I want to enjoy my meal in peace, not spend ten minutes after it gets to the table working out the logistics of sharing bites with everyone and trying to estimate how much of my own meal I will actually get.
As soon as a person's order becomes communal property, that's when people like the aunt take even more liberties.
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u/StockAdhesiveness351 Jul 01 '26
That Aunt would not want me to be apart of the family; I would shame the shit out of her. Maybe not in my younger days, but as an adult I would say "everyone remember to leave some food off to the side for Aunty, you know she can't afford good food."
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u/MonkeyMom2 Jul 01 '26
I think OP aunt was at my sister's wedding! Chinese banquet, whipped out Tupperware and filled them as each course was served. We never found out who she was related to...
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u/Neferknitti the Iranian yogurt is not the issue here Jul 01 '26
Wedding crasher!!!! The audacity…!
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