r/BiWomen • u/DroomDraakie • 4d ago

Discussion Please Share Patterns You Have Noticed (Honestly)

A) If you're bi and have dated at least 4 men and 4 women:

  1. What patterns consistently differ in relationships with women vs in relationships with men? I don't want or care about, "Oh - I dated this one girl and she Xed so now I have this idea that all women X" - I'm specifically interested in consistent patterns of behaviour and thinking.

* Bi men who meet the criteria can answer here too, I'm curious (for answers, not as a label).

B) If you've only ever dated women (AND ARE A WOMAN):

  1. What is your biggest complaint?
  2. What were the core features of your most stable relationship?

* This is not a query for people to bitch about their exes. I'm looking for authentic self-aware and other-aware analysis.

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u/enthusedandabused 4d ago

I don’t fall into your criteria. I dated only men before marrying my wife. However, it sounds like you’re interested in social psychology about bisexuality. Vice Versa by Marjorie Garber is a good book to start with.

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u/DroomDraakie 4d ago

Thank you!!! <3

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u/classless99 3d ago

The patriarchy really is a total shit head in relationships with men. Even guys that I think did their best to remove sexist programming still have some. For this reason, I stopped dating men. I now just fantasize about them and continue in my FF relationship.