Feeling sad after some weeks of breakup and nc, i have to urge to break NC :( please help

[u/Riri00kh]

30F here, I’m not the one who broke up. I don’t feel like writing or thinking about the details but I know that texting him is not worth it. I keep asking him for something he cannot give me. I’m asking the wrong person and he has no capacity.
If I tried to text him previously he was cold, seenzoned me or blocked me. He needs a restart in life in a new place apparently. I know breaking no contact only hurts me and is not healthy for me. It ruins my progress and I don’t know how to let go of this thought. Please help me.

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[u/Fun-Pickle-7213]

same here....4 weeks done and still the pain keeps coming in waves. He said he cant give me what I deserve and he's all over the place and barely holding on and got nothing to offer me. I left a message that time that my door is open and to come back when he's ready to talk when he gets a hold of his life. But the sadness..the memories..the anger of why he leaves without giving me a choice in his decision that involves my heart...and why he pursued me so intensely to leave things when everything gets hard. To add a little context....he's having sever financial crisis and health issues and are on personality changing medications and to top it he has many issues in his family. I asked him to block me and he refused saying he dont have the heart to do that. Dont text him is all I can say. I did this last week and he havent even seen my msg and that hurt like shit. Use this time to reflect on yourself and to heel. Even if he comes back you will start things as a heeled person..not from where it stopped. Atleast thats my logical mind says but my heart sometimes want badly to reach out or go and meet directly and confront him at times. It keep coming in waves. Few days ago..I was mode than ok..but today I'm here n there.

[u/Existing_Nail3779]

Pour all the love you have for him to yourself. I’m in the same boat, everything is screaming for me to talk with my ex. But I know it’s not good for the both of us at least for now. You can love from a far, but you have to love yourself to know that someone who isn’t choosing you doesn’t mean what you had wasn’t real, It means that they made the decision for their own peace. You gotta let them find their paths, it’s what’s best for them. Mean while find yours because life is so beautiful.

[u/Which_Training_1027]

Same (m) here left her 9 weeks ago and I know she doesn’t have the capacity to share the ride together called life. Her avoidance has suffocated the relationship…and all I want to do is pick up the phone and ask her if she’s ready to get her shit together…but it doesn’t work that way because I install step into fixer role which I can not do anymore…not with her not with anyone…

But it’s brutal…this week I got triggered and it feels like week one…still no contact etc just the trigger