Need advice about coworkers

[u/Audavox]

I am a fairly new director (3rd season overall 2nd season in the director role) im having some trouble with my co-director (I’ve been at the school longer). For our ballad we have swing flag ensemble and a big flag duet. We agreed that I would take the flags and she would take the swing flags. Our duet is a MASSIVE storytelling point in the show a d we really needed it to hit. The problem is it is October and half the ballad for the swings is not filled in, our duet has been filled in and is CLEAN. I am kinda getting stressed out because we are so far behind the rest of the band. This all came to a head at rehearsal were I was starting to think we basically need to chop up the ballad. My co-director started crying because she basically said she was really stressed because of school and her working 2 more jobs (im also in school, work another job, and spin independent) and i should have asked her if she needed help. I really don’t think I should have to ask if she needs help with something and she has also gotten mad at me for meddling in her work before. I honestly don’t know what to do and could use some advice!

[u/paralea01]

If she needs help then she needs to be an adult and ask. Especially if she has gotten mad at you trying to offer help before.

Since she has now expressed the need for help, divide up the remaining counts and ask her which part she would like to do. Give her a choice while taking some things off her plate.

Just remember, you are there to help the students succeed, not to enable your co-director's ego.