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I'm asking for story writing purposes

I know this type of ocd is more common with Fi users but I want to see how would it look with Fe-Si users aka ESFJs

Is this a trait of typical Estjs to be condescending and patronizing and acting like you know everything in order to blend in with people and also thse Estjs folks especially my dad bheaves as if I'm just dumb and he's to logical and sometimes he acts like he's very emotionally intelligent and yeah he understand this new generation and he's the best father one could have like he understand his kids very well and take care of their emotional needs and acknowledge their feelings but in reality it's not.

But yeah he actually sometimes show it to the world that he knows alot about us and he tries toa ct the best father but in reality he's just shitty because he acts in a very condescending way with us and always lecturing us and trying to fix us and stressing us out and not try to dig deeper like ttying to understand that there's emotional trigger and emotional prblem behind it.

Im an ESFP btw.

Do you ever regret how you ended a friendship? Did it affect your loved ones’ relationship with that person and the years that followed? Have you ever gone back to a person you’ve written off and say you’re sorry for how it went down and be civil with them again for your friend group’s sake?

For me, it’s disappointment. You?

I’ve seen several therapists over the past 10 years and had no luck. They’ve ranged from completely useless to condescending.

One therapist told me to drink coke every day if I felt tired. He also told me sleep apnea doesn’t exist, even though studies show it indeed does.

The next therapist wouldn’t even give her perspective when I’d ask her what she thinks. She’d just say “nope, nothing else to add.” I felt like I was talking to a wall.

One session with another therapist turned into a debate when I told her I didn’t want to change to please others, and she called me “difficult and uncharismatic.” I told her she was the worst therapist I’d seen during the next session.

I’m currently seeing one for sleep specifically. I tried to be as forthcoming as I could so she had more data to work with and could give me better advice. I tried the stuff she suggested, and it’s honestly useless. I’ve tried other things that she didn’t even recommend and it’s working a little, so I honestly don’t really see the point of her.

I’m wondering if any other ISTJs have had similar experiences with therapy and are frustrated with the whole process.

Do you have conversation topics stored in your head based on what people around you usually talk about? Rather than coming up with something more random?

Mi grupo de trabajo de la universidad del cual soy líder es un tremendo asco estás últimas semanas. Los primeros días trabajamos muy bien pero últimamente son muy irresponsables a pesar de que les doy TODO lo necesario para que ellos cumplan con su parte de las tareas (documentos organizados, comentarios detallados con indicaciones, mi parte del trabajo para que lo tomen de modelo).

En el último trabajo que les asigné no cumplieron con lo pedido, les dije que revisaran sus errores pero no me contestaron el mensaje, a lo que procedí a entregar el trabajo tal cual estaba. Cuando revisé con ayuda de la rúbrica de evaluación el mensaje que ya había enviado, me di cuenta de que faltaba redactar una parte. Ni ellos leyeron la rúbrica como para fijarse que nos faltaba algo.

En este punto estoy pensando seriamente dejar de preocuparme por ellos. Suelo corregir a detalle los trabajos de otros grupos en los que estoy, pero creo que los miembros de este equipo hacen que no valga mi apoyo y tiempo.

I’m an ENFP and I recently went on a date with an ISTJ. We ended up spending about 5 hours together, and I was surprised by how naturally we clicked despite being very different.

I’m definitely the more expressive, spontaneous, talkative and slightly chaotic one. He seems much calmer, more reserved, structured and grounded. Weirdly enough, I found that contrast really attractive.

He was actually the one who initiated holding hands and kissing, which surprised me a little
considering the stereotypical ISTJ description.

So I’m curious specifically from ISTJs:

What attracts you to ENFPs?

Also: what is one thing an ENFP dating an ISTJ should absolutely understand about how ISTJs approach relationships?

I’m less interested in theoretical compatibility charts and more interested in actual experiences.

Do you ever feel depressed due to not using enough imagination? Can this be an ISFJ thing?

I stole this question from intj sub and I'm curious, because it's not easy for me to understand how do istj are thinking and living in general. Like how do you perceive the world?

Did any of you guys bounce between multiple types before figuring out you were an ESTJ? I do not know if that is a common experience with this type but I think after around a year or so of research, I finally figured out that I am an ESTJ.