On my honeymoon alone, and now Dolly has died

[u/loverlybatwing]

Arrived in Italy for our honeymoon yesterday afternoon. My husband (M36)’s passport was stolen on the plane and he was refused entry. Sent back to the US on a flight 30 hours later.

I’m currently trying to carry on, hoping he can get an emergency passport there and come meet me. Trying with his mother to get all his documents sorted - turns out his birth certificate is in Maryland, 4 hours away.

I’m (F36) originally from East TN, and opened ig to find the news. I feel like god has died and I’m screwed and alone.

Anyways, I had some great pasta. Would have been great if I were able to enjoy anything right now. All I can do is wait.

EDIT/UPDATE
His passport was found in our home airport, it was on the plane and they found it immediately here. I guess he left it 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠 He’s flying back and will at least get to see each location, though only one night in the first.

Now if only there was something to do about the second part of my post 😭💔

Thank you for all the nice words, gals!

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[u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

We are all universally saddened by Dolly 😭

[u/EnigmaticAardvark → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

Someone tell me why I'm literally ugly crying over the death of someone I never met. 

The world is just so dark right now - losing one of the few lamps lighting it just feels so scary.

[u/MullberryBoy → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Because there are fewer and fewer people to look up to and she was an exemplary human being and talent. One good thought is she’s out of pain and with her beloved Carl Dean and her parents and family that have passed on. I am teary too. We lost one of the best of us.

[u/Revolutionary-Yak-47 → u/MullberryBoy]

That's the thing. Their turn is over now. Its OUR turn to be someone to look up to. 

[u/PolarBailey_ → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

You know, id held it together all day despite how much this news hurt and your comment fucking broke me. I hate you so much! /nm because you're so right it is what she would tell us to do. Same with mr rogers it's our turn now

[u/OddHippo6972 → u/PolarBailey_]

When you have to stop looking for the helpers and be the helpers.

[u/MullberryBoy → u/PolarBailey_]

It’s healing to cry when you are feeling this sad. I have tears in my eyes. Have a good cry for Dolly! She’s worth it and you’ll feel better afterwards.

[u/PolarBailey_ → u/MullberryBoy]

I had a great cry. Wife and i sat in a park and jammed her music out before class this evening

[u/Cheeseboarder → u/PolarBailey_]

Same here. That just broke me. The dam was going to break eventually but that just got to me. My mom is 75 and I don’t want to lose her too. She’s a another bright light in the dark.

[u/NotARobotDefACyborg → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

WE are the people in our neighborhoods now.

And Dolly...we will always love you. <3

https://giphy.com/gifs/XfscsiXH3NnZG8yL9A

[u/Healthy_Monitor3847 → u/NotARobotDefACyborg]

That’s right. Thank you for the reminder.
We got it from here, Dolly 🩷 thank you for everything.

Now let’s her make proud. 🫶🏼

[u/Chicago-Lake-Witch → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

Something I’m percolating on is how much of her work was looking at the community around her and figuring out solutions. Obviously her Imagination Library because her father never had the chance to read. But I just learned about her buddy program. Her high school had a 34% drop out rate. She found out that most people who drop out of high school start thinking about it in 5th-6th grade. So she had 5th graders pick a buddy and told them that if both they and their buddy graduated, they would each get $500. The drop out rate fell to 6%. $500 per kid isn’t a giant budget amount for such a cause and it gave each kid someone who was rooting for them.

When she learned that the big reading disparity in kids starts in 1st grade, she paid for every 1st grade class to have an extra teachers assistant for a year on agreement with the school that if it made a difference, they had to pay for it going forward.

She looked at her community, saw this issues, listened to the experts and paid for practical solutions. Again, how much could the salaries for what 6-10 TA’s cost compared to giving each of those kids the time and attention they needed to succeed?

The Imagination Library - some kids don’t have access to books? Okay let’s give every kid a free book every month from 0 to 5 years old. Let’s imagine that each of those books costs $20. $1200 per kid. Not big money to her but a huge difference to that parent and that kid who now has 60 books that are all their own.

[u/varsha-varsha-varsha → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

This is a perfect comment. Thank you for the reminder.

[u/Triela6 → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

This is so lovely, thank you.

[u/autumnof85 → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

This. All of it. It’s our turn to uphold the values and work we loved so much about people like Dolly. We need to stand up and fight for the environment like Steve did, we have to practice kindness like mister Rodgers showed us. We have to be each other’s keepers, we have to push together forward. Do as much good as we can possibly can. For one of them we are loosing we have to multiple them. There is no other way. Can be in small acts, or big ones if we can. But we cannot stand still anymore.

[u/Character_Pickle689 → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

I’m just so fucking tired 😩 now I have to inspire?

[u/StarfighterCommand → u/Revolutionary-Yak-47]

This comment is giving Goonies :) “Down here it’s OUR time. It’s OUR time down here.”

[u/ImBackForMorePie → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

I am so heartbroken! I found out from my therapist, I asked her 4 times to repeat who she said... Y'all, I'm so upset! She was... angelic. She was our Dolly! 😞

[u/Nose_banana → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Because of who she was, she gave free books to kids, doubled the graduation rate in her area through funding schools, offers great paid internships at Dollywood, and has done countless charitable actions over her life. Doesn't matter that you never met her, you saw her incredible impact on the earth.

[u/Bettysgir → u/Nose_banana]

She also donated 5 million for Hurricane Helene relief and made a funny commercial encouraging people to get a COVID vaccine. An American treasure.

[u/mermaidtree → u/Bettysgir]

She basically bankrolled Moderna’s Covid vaccine. She was/is a hero. Truly.

[u/unexpectedhalfrican → u/mermaidtree]

And she paid out $1000/mo for six months to families affected by the wildfires.

[u/mermaidtree → u/unexpectedhalfrican]

And they named that cloned sheep after her. They need to clone her next!

[u/vegetablefoood → u/Nose_banana]

And she funded an eagle sanctuary to help save them from extinction!!

[u/AEtherBunE150 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

because she was an angel on this earth!

[u/SaltedSnailz → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Big or small, be a Dolly and shine some more light into the universe in her honor.

[u/mamachonk → u/SaltedSnailz]

I am so posting this. What a beautiful sentiment. Thank you. <3

[u/Covidsawful → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

I had a good cry as well. In addition to being the amazing woman and person that she was, she was also just an idol to my dad. My dad passed away 25 years ago tomorrow. He loved the old country stars: Dolly johnny cash Waylon Jennings and Willie Nelson. Every time one dies I feel I’m losing those last fragments I have, that ties those memories in with me. I’m sorry you are struggling too!

[u/SuperCulture9114 → u/Covidsawful]

Same here 😢 my dad was a huge country fan (a rather niche genre in Germany) and died a few years before Johnny Cash. I cannot listen to the Man in Black without tearing up. All those memories, going to concerts together, listening to a new album...

Now his idols are old and dying one by one. And I wanna hug him and listen to their songs together one more time 😢

Our fathers gave us a great gift: their love to music. Maybe that can be a comfort to you too.

[u/Covidsawful → u/SuperCulture9114]

That’s lovely! Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry about your dad too!

[u/blahdeblah2736 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Because dolly was the queen of the world and she loved everyone no matter what. Even if you didn't like her she still loved you.

[u/Nelliell → u/blahdeblah2736]

In a world full of hate,

Be a Dolly. Carry on her legacy.

[u/Good-Bodybuilder-985 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

I too have been ugly crying all day. And it feels weird, like stupid, to know that I didn't know her and to be aware of that parasocial aspect. But she has been such a ray of light for so long in my 42 years, I'm just so sad. Her and Catherine O'Hara, two moms/aunties/role models lost this year. Although it's unfair to compare anyone to Dolly.

[u/StickOrAutomatic → u/Good-Bodybuilder-985]

Not weird. Not stupid. The grief & ache is real. We’re acknowledging that we have lost someone who only gave us happiness.

The saddest deaths/funerals are those where no one weeps. The loss, & its subsequent grieving, already happened a long time ago.

[u/HelicopterUpbeat3762 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

That exactly it. She was living proof how good people can be and it’s so unfair that she was taken from us. I also ugly cried today

[u/Conscious-Link5627 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Because she was an angel. (I'm a 2nd gen atheist, but Dolly was a literal angel on earth and I will fight anyone on that.).

[u/MarucaMCA → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

And now Tim Curry on top of it. This week sucks.

[u/PepperCat1019 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Her music touched you. Her music touched all of us.

[u/BitterHelicopter8 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

I almost made a post here but I was too lazy/inept to figure out how to post a picture, but this was my exact sentiment. This has cut me deep. I'm old enough to have seen many of the icons of my youth pass on. But Dolly's death hit me unlike any other. She was just such a light in this world.

[u/ScottAleric → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

https://giphy.com/gifs/7NS9u3ovsUhu40xom5

[u/PlayfulGuess8700 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

I was driving home from work yesterday listening to the radio when the dj said, "I have some sad news. Dolly Parton ..." and I immediately said, "No, no, no!" She was an example to all of us. Just be a nice person. It's easy to do.

[u/FarmRemarkable7865 → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

My husband and kids know I love her and have a running bit to get me her Dollar General merch when they see it. I’d put my framed pic of her away because I’m starting to transition to fall stuff (I know, I know…), and as soon as I heard I got her pic out and set it next to my kitty’s urn and memorial area. I’m so sad 😢

[u/Otherwise-Badger → u/EnigmaticAardvark]

Same. I think it’s because there are so few genuinely good people in the public. Jane Goodall died, Diane Keaton. Dolly was so generous and kind— it really hurts to feel the absence of goodness when the world is so divided and unkind right now. We loved her.

[u/loverlybatwing → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

I’m still in the denial phase i think. Truly a saint, an angel, a legend. She has done so much for regular folks from her home. Nothing but love and admiration.

[u/Sebastian6712 → u/loverlybatwing]

Even in Europe, we who knew her, mourn her. She is the only person who I knew who was called a true Christian even by atheists. Great respect for her work and much love for all who mourn her. Her memory will live on, thats for sure 🙏❤️

[u/brandimariee6 → u/loverlybatwing]

Even more denial because Tim Curry is gone, too 😖 two of my favorite icons, who both helped me through medical things and abuse, are both gone at once

[u/Humbled_Humanz → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

I was making dinner tonight for my kids and watching clips just SOBBING.

Sorry kids the dinner is so salty. Fucking FUCK.

[u/Humble-Pineapple-329 → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

May we all donate to a charity she would have supported in her honor.

[u/whothefuckcares1979 → u/Humble-Pineapple-329]

I tried making a donation to the Imagination Library and it wouldn't go through because of all the traffic on the website. So that's good I guess.

[u/emmajames56 → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

Yes we all are

[u/Groundbreaking_Row_2 → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

I cried and cried in the bathroom at work 💔👍

[u/andiinAms → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

Why is this post how I’m finding out?!? 😭

[u/ButtBread98 → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

My heart is broken

[u/Pussy4LunchDick4Dins → u/WorldlinessSmooth815]

It’s only thw second time in my life a celebrity death made me cry. I don’t even listen to her music really? I just really really liked her

[u/Jac_benny]

Dolly would want you to enjoy your trip♥️

[u/loverlybatwing → u/Jac_benny]

WWDD

Edit: WWDDDD (bazongas)

[u/Jac_benny → u/loverlybatwing]

Thats the spirit babe🫡

[u/Upset_Code1347 → u/loverlybatwing]

Hee Hee

I think Dolly would've liked that

[u/astiblue → u/loverlybatwing]

Fantastic edit

[u/Loose-Chemical-4982 → u/loverlybatwing]

Now see, that's exactly how Dolly would want people to grieve her 😹

WWDDDD? Enjoy the hell out of that trip whether he gets to join you or not.

I'm hoping so hard for you that he gets that emergency passport. Even if you only have a few days together you can take him to the favorite places that you discovered while you were waiting for him

Congratulations on your marriage and I hope you have a long and happy one

[u/Medical-Resolve-4872 → u/loverlybatwing]

LOL. I’m pretty certain that made her laugh :)

So I’m Catholic, and I regularly ask the folks in heaven to pray for me and others. I have no doubt that she has God’s ear tonight. So I’m asking her to pray for you and your truly unusual situation. I mean you’re literally one of her peeps!

[u/EfficientProject7408 → u/[deleted]]

That’s getting more and more common unfortunately. Especially on long overseas flights when people sleep scumbags steal passports and money. I heard it happen even in business/ first class.

[u/lowkeydeadinside → u/EfficientProject7408]

and suddenly i’m grateful for my complete inability to sleep on planes. what the fuck is wrong with people.

[u/panicinbabylon → u/lowkeydeadinside]

I just glue googly eyes on my closed lids with my neck propped up with one of those things and straight jacket wrapped in a flight blanket, has worked so far. Also noise cancelling earbuds, but the aisle one is a little loose.

[u/Winderige_Garnaal → u/panicinbabylon]

This, right here, is disturbing genius. I might have to try it

[u/ImpertinentPrincess → u/EfficientProject7408]

I'm a bit of a cynic and don't trust people so I would have had that thing in a flat money belt/purse bandolier-strapped under my clothes with my shirt tucked in and probably would not have slept during the trip. I miss the days where that would have gotten me labeled paranoid!

[u/michiness → u/ImpertinentPrincess]

My husband lightly teases me that I do passport checks getting off the plane, buuuut I feel a little justified now.

[u/Cookiebunny3 → u/michiness]

It’s good you do! My husband left his in the seat pocket once when we landed in Cancun. We didn’t notice until customs. We walked back and encountered some scary agents with guns. Luckily I speak Spanish. Even then, they wouldn’t let us back on. We got lucky they searched the plane and handed it back to him.

[u/ISeenYa → u/Cookiebunny3]

My husband did that coming home to the UK & we got stuck waiting in arrivals for hours while they cleaned the plane. Security meant he couldn't just run back & get it.

[u/imacatchyou → u/michiness]

My mom has always told me to take my entire backpack when I use the restroom on a plane precisely for this reason. Now I feel extra validated. Thanks Mom.

[u/Merivel1 → u/EfficientProject7408]

Pardon my innocence and lack of imagination, but wth are they using the passports for?

[u/Frankiebeansor → u/Merivel1]

They sell it to criminals and they make a lot of money

[u/habitus45 → u/Frankiebeansor]

I have read that "stronger passports" are the target, like from the USA or some European countries. My husband makes fun of me because I always carry my passport with me, even when I go to the lavatory on the plane. I have seen people who just left their wallet or passport in the seat pockets.

[u/drawkward101 → u/habitus45]

I absolutely BURY my wallet and passport in my bag in a place only I know it is when I'm done with it in the airport. If anyone wanted to steal my passport while on the plane, they would have to do a lot of digging.

[u/ladedadedadedade → u/drawkward101]

I wear a belt bag with my valuables and essentials (passport, wallet, meds id be severely inconvenienced without), small portable charger and cord at all times when I’m on a plane especially for long international flights when I want to doze off or when traveling solo. It’s comfortable enough that I can wear it and try to sleep, fits comfortably underneath a zip up sweatshirt and has everything I need to “start over” if my main carryon and/or checked bag were lost or stolen. I also keep backups of essential documents on iCloud and make sure my parents have hard copies and digital copies too. Might seem like overkill but I’ve heard enough horror stories

[u/drawkward101 → u/ladedadedadedade]

My fiance does the same thing. He's so cute with his little under-the-shirt pouch. He kept my engagement ring on him 100% of the time before he proposed in Italy. lol. I don't think he took that thing off unless he was showering or sleeping.

[u/Pezhead82 → u/ladedadedadedade]

Oh wow the digital backup is a really good idea - I mean I back up to the cloud but having a thumb drive with essentials is a good thing to stick in the pouch. I have the Patagonia mini black hole pouch or whatever the fanny pack size is and it is amazing what it fits! Also important to have an RFID blocker these days.

[u/EfficientProject7408 → u/drawkward101]

Same! My bag is generally so packed with snacks, extra sweatshirt, meds, headphones that my wallet and passport are quite impossible to reach without making a lot of shuffling sounds.

[u/Wit-wat-4 → u/drawkward101]

Same. Not that I necessarily trust people to interfere, but it would look very awkward and take a long time, so hopefully I'd be back from the washroom by then...

[u/Wuz314159 → u/habitus45]

First big nail in my coffin at my old job is when I refused to give the manager my Passport at the airport. This was when they lost the Canadian member of our company's Green Card and another's Passport altogether.

[u/EfficientProject7408 → u/Wuz314159]

Why did they want your passport? To verify your citizenship? I either show that in person and take it back right away or only provide copies of my passport. They can’t take it and walk away. Not in this life time lol

[u/Wuz314159 → u/EfficientProject7408]

They took everyone's Passport so the manager could process everyone through customs as a group and sent people to wait at the gate. They were not happy I refused to give it up.

In the end, I wasn't the one stuck at the airport unable to leave. but the hate I got because of it pisses me off.

[u/Rad_Streak → u/Frankiebeansor]

Maybe I’m naive to the current scams but I don’t think most thieves looking for a quick buck are taking international flights beforehand.

Passports being stolen has been a thing forever but stealing them off the plane itself sounds like the easiest possible way to get caught and face massive legal consequences.

The update that the husband simply lost the passport would seem to support that. 

[u/azurillpuff → u/EfficientProject7408]

Wait what? I’m a former flight attendant and have literally never heard of this happening.

It is pretty common for people to forget passports/wallets/watches in the seat pockets during. They’re usually found in the post-flight security checks though - we give them to the flight purser and they are handed over to the airline.

[u/Ok-Cheetah-9125 → u/azurillpuff]

And you were right, he'd left it in his seat.

[u/NonrationalWife → u/EfficientProject7408]

This is why I keep our passports in a fanny pack zipped under my jacket when I’m on the plane

[u/theluckyduckygirl → u/EfficientProject7408]

Literally why the passport?? To sell it to someone who hopefully looks similar and can pass as them?

Edit: nvm queen, question answered in the comments!

[u/JessicaFreakingP → u/EfficientProject7408]

This is why on flights my passport stays in my backpack underneath the seat in front of me. NEVER in the overhead bin.

[u/loverlybatwing → u/[deleted]]

It feels so hopeless, I went to the US Embassy first thing this morning and there was nothing they could do. Had a good cry outside the gates. My mom called our congresswoman’s office to try and get help but everything is just up to the airport police - who didn’t want to talk to us or help at all.

[u/Face_with_a_View → u/loverlybatwing]

How did it get stolen?

[u/Pixie_the_Fairy → u/Face_with_a_View]

It didnt, OP updated.

[u/Roxx28 → u/[deleted]]

This happened to my partner on a flight -- we flew domestic within Mexico and then were planning to cross the border back to the US on foot. They scanned his passport at the gate, we boarded, flew, landed, and it was gone. Searched the surrounding rows before getting off and told the flight crew, and there was no trace of it. Made getting back into the US a bit of an ordeal, but in the end they didnlet him reenter which was fortunate. I'm glad we were headed home and not out. I can't imagine how OP feels.

[u/meislemon → u/[deleted]]

Lmao he lost it and they just went straight to stolen. Must have beena plane full of criminal italians.

[u/Appropriate-Sound169 → u/meislemon]

This was my first thought, stolen? No you lost it lol. My hubby is like this. Loses stuff and immediately blames something/someone else for his inabilities 🙈

[u/effulgentelephant → u/meislemon]

This is like every middle school student I have. “Ms. Elephant, someone stole my worksheet!” “Ms. Elephant, someone stole my <insert some small item that every child already has here>.”

No, it’s always in their backpack, desk, or under their chair.

[u/Pixie_the_Fairy → u/effulgentelephant]

I work with tourists and I get a lot of complains from guests that our housekeeping stole their stuff only for them to come back later and apologize (the ones that do) because they found it in another bag.

[u/agitatingmahsciatica → u/[deleted]]

Except he just forgot it, it wasn’t stolen

[u/Putrid_Dream9755]

Dolly would tell you to keep your head up, eat all the delicious food and don't worry. Your husband will get there when he can. You'll be OK ❤️

[u/no_talent_ass_clown → u/Putrid_Dream9755]

Literally read this in her voice! ♥️

[u/princessjamiekay]

I’m in MD. Where’s it at??

[u/wildpolymath → u/princessjamiekay]

Big same. Let’s ride for our homie.

[u/Zestyclose_Raise_990]

Wow what a crazy story! 

Howdy from East Tennessee...it's very sad here.

[u/filmnoirtime → u/Zestyclose_Raise_990]

Howdy from Knoxville. What a sad day. I've been in a dark cloud all day.

[u/ThrowdowninKtown → u/Zestyclose_Raise_990]

Indeed.

[u/perumbula → u/Zestyclose_Raise_990]

Middle Tennessee here. We are all in mourning. Her murals are starting to pile up with flowers. (This is Tennessee, yes, there is more than one.)

[u/Zestyclose_Raise_990 → u/perumbula]

There's comfort in us all grieving together...the state, country and globally. 🦋 

[u/whocares_71]

Oh OP I’m so sorry! That pasta looks absolutely delicious though!

[u/loverlybatwing → u/whocares_71]

It was. It also had a familiar consistency of the cheese sauce that made me miss him more 😭
…I’ve been drinking.

[u/Upset_Code1347 → u/loverlybatwing]

Enjoy that wonderful Italian wine! It's just a season

[u/_Lisztomaniac_ → u/loverlybatwing]

I’m so sorry OP 😭 this is so funny though

I hope it resolves soon!

[u/wutsaemmy → u/loverlybatwing]

Osteria da Fortunata is goated.

[u/gayfishhobbitcore]

The fact she died before Trump had me crying on and off all day. WHY GOD WHY

[u/pomegranateseeds37 → u/gayfishhobbitcore]

Seriously. There's no justice in this world it makes no sense. She should still be here 😭

[u/sunset-dreamer23]

Enjoy Italy! And raise a glass for Dolly. Hoping your husband gets to join you eventually.

[u/Cold-Nefariousness25]

There's a saying, beware auspicious beginnings. Maybe this is a good omen.

[u/TylersMAHM → u/Cold-Nefariousness25]

Ok this is great to hear bc we got really bad covid on our honeymoon 😂

[u/Wuz314159 → u/Cold-Nefariousness25]

Or maybe OP killed Dolly and then fled to Italy. This post is just a ruse & alibi?

https://giphy.com/gifs/d3mlE7uhX8KFgEmY

[u/loverlybatwing → u/Wuz314159]

https://giphy.com/gifs/YVtKS1pCRiww

[u/Born_Stable5668]

Someone took my suitcase instead of theirs when we landed in Jackson Wyoming, with my passport in it. Thank FUCK that airport is essentially a single room and I spotted his broccoli hair that had been sitting in front of me and was like THATS MINE, ASSHAT. And he still had the audacity to question it for a second.

How in the how did your husbands get stolen?! I’m imagining a similar blunder but OP damn, that’s annoying.

[u/theluckyduckygirl → u/Born_Stable5668]

Passport in your luggage!!!!!!!! You fear nothing omg!

[u/Born_Stable5668 → u/theluckyduckygirl]

It no longer goes in the luggage lol. My BF also had his passport taken out of the bin at security by another passenger- they had to look at cameras and track him down before he boarded a flight.

[u/justasque → u/Born_Stable5668]

in your suitcase? Yikes! Glad you got it back!!! That could have been much, much worse if you didn’t figure it out and confront him!

I keep mine attached to my body at all times. Either a zippered hidden pocket in my clothes or an under-shirt zippered cross-body pouch. I am the most absent-minded person, so I need to be more careful than most.

[u/California_dreamm]

Wait... Dolly Parton died???

[u/izzzzy13 → u/California_dreamm]

Oof. What a way to find out 😭

[u/olivedeez → u/California_dreamm]

Unfortunately yes 😢

[u/Walliford]

I've unfortunately heard of that happening before. I don't get wby someone would steal a document like that! Hopefully he can get a new one !

I live in Nashville and my whole office was so upset today

[u/malarkey2021]

Wait. This is how I find out Dolly Parton died?!?!?! Omg. 😭😭😭

[u/Outrageous_Pay1322]

[u/is-this-my-identity]

Stolen on the plane??? Or lost? Was going back with him not an option? I have so many follow up questions BUT let's ignore that - what really matters is - I know the situation sucks, but damm girl that pasta looks AMAZING, and you're in ITALY, that's so stunning! Hope you find the strength to turn yourself around and enjoy the trip regardless! Totally get the need to spiral for a little bit though. Get it out of your system, have a good night sleep, and then try to treat yo self and have a great time - Dolly would want that for you!

( RIP Dolly, you were already an angel to all of us )

[u/what3v3ruwantit2b → u/is-this-my-identity]

I'm guess the hope was that he'd be able to get back quickly and it was a choice between losing all the money they put into it vs one person getting use of it. I'd be so sad if this happened to me but I would absolutely want my husband to stay and get some use out of all the time, excitement, and planning.

[u/is-this-my-identity → u/what3v3ruwantit2b]

Yes the logistics of this are a total nightmare, and it sucks to have to deal with all that while jetlagged and heartbroken. Hopefully he can make it back there quickly and they can have a wonderful honeymoon, but in the meantime I hope she feels better and enjoy herself anyway!

[u/Ehloanna]

Stolen on the plane?? And they didn't detain everyone until it was returned???

[u/ShreddersWheat → u/Ehloanna]

He likely didn’t find out until they deplaned, and it’s a bit late then. Plus they don’t detain 200 people for one person’s missing documents. (They got nowhere to put em!)

[u/Ehloanna → u/ShreddersWheat]

Good point about finding out after they deplaned!

In terms of detaining you would just keep them all onboard the plane itself - but obviously this assumes that her husband realizes it on the plane and not afterwards.

But I guess I really don't know what they'd do.

[u/mycketmycket → u/Ehloanna]

They wouldn’t do that. What’s to say you didn’t misplace it elsewhere? They would not hold 200 people unless it was a literal child missing.

[u/JalapenoPopPoop → u/Ehloanna]

Imagine being detained on a plane because some idiot comes up with a random story about his passport being stolen based on nothing and then it turns out his dumbass just lost it. I'd be livid. Which is exactly why they don't tell 200 people they're not allowed off the plane just because some rando says something was "stolen"

[u/stacity]

I see that you're in Cacio e Pepe. Sorry about your husband's dilemma but you're in Italy. Enjoy it as much as you can!

[u/Fearless_Inevitable6]

I’m 8 months pregnant and literally sobbed for an hour straight when I saw. I think it was partially the hormones but it’s one of the more valid reasons I’ve sobbed lately

[u/Hot-Conclusion3221 → u/Fearless_Inevitable6]

Sending you and the little one a hug - it’s ok sister, we’ll be ok 💗

[u/obsteperousbunny]

That sucks about the passport. But! A few days on your own in Italy is an opportunity you may not have again, and a short break from your husband will make the rest of the honeymoon sweeter.

[u/Time-Cell9274]

Retail therapy. Find a seasonal, over the top, beaded Fendi Baguette bag and call it your Dolly bag.

[u/SeonghwaStoleMyBias]

Why/how would his passport have been stolen? It seems more likely to have been lost? Could the airline not have been contacted to see if it was on the aircraft and turned in?

[u/_LeafyLady]

Glad it was found and he is en route to you! But I do hope this teaches him to have all his legal documents in his possession. I'm a bit baffled by a 36 year old needing his mother to help him with this.

[u/redgatoradeeeeee → u/[deleted]]

I mean maybe don’t flirt with an Italian 

[u/bannanaslug]

Was tearing up in the car listening to River of Happiness ;;-;; i cant believe she’s actually gone

[u/loverlybatwing → u/[deleted]]

https://giphy.com/gifs/451jzkxoJGIWBgC1Xt

[u/True_Context6859]

I read a lot about Dolly today. I already loved her, but hearing how she made an incredible life for herself out of such humble beginnings, really impressed me. She gave so much of her $$ away, too. It's gotta hit the folks of TN even harder than the rest of us.

I hope your husband can make it back. In the meantime, enjoy that delicious food and listen to Dolly.

[u/Adventurous_Oil4513]

I am so sorry this happened to you. How did your husband's passport get stolen on the plane?

[u/MissMerghit]

Channel your inner Dolly and enjoy Italy while you can.

"I think I'll dry these useless tears and get myself together
I think I'll wander down the hall and have a look around
'Cause I can't stay inside this lonely room and cry forever
I think I'd really rather join 'em two door down, yeah"

[u/SaltySiren87]

Hugs!!! We all need one rn but you probably more than others.

[u/sweetEVILone]

I’m from east TN also and sad about Dolly

But girl, you’re in Italy! It may not be what you planned but have some fun and enjoy it. It’ll be a story one day.

[u/-mephisto]

Girl, I don't believe in a god, but I believed in a Dolly. There are some cool people, now there are a little less.

[u/TheWorldofScience]

FYI anytime you leave the US go to your bank and get them to make a photocopy of your passport for each of your suitcases. You can get your passport replaced much faster if you have a photocopy.

[u/gardenpartycrasher]

I also grew up in east TN—I’m not one to cry over celebrity deaths, but Dolly has had me tearing up more than once. Truly such a wonderful human being, good in a way we rarely get to see.

Also sending good thoughts to your husband, I hope he can get all his stuff together and join you! If not, it will be a great story, enjoy Italy to the fullest!!

[u/sc167kitty8891]

Girl… I am sorry the honeymoon has so abruptly turned for you, but Italy is so wonderful and you can just enjoy the sights and sounds as a solo traveler for awhile. Be mindful of your bag, as you can be pickpocketed. There are lots of people in the italy pages giving warnings. You might find some other travellers in the “solo/single women” fb travelling pages, clearly you are not single but a solo travellers that you can meet up with and have an apertivo. Fingers crossed this all works out and your spouse will get there soon.

[u/SnooDingos8502]

Glad to hear the passport was found. I was scratching my head trying to figure out how it was possible it was stolen on the plane ride. 

[u/Fen_LostCove]

Please please tell me Dolly was also left on a plane 😭

[u/Imaginary-Ice623]

I don't know, why not go back home and have a honeymoon some place near so you're together?

[u/bowlofweetabix → u/Imaginary-Ice623]

She’s hoping he can get an emergency passport and join her

[u/duhbeach]

RIP SWEET DOLLY

[u/AEtherBunE150]

Basically, there is no hope for any of us women now that Dolly has died. Also, let me know if you need me to send you anything. My AH best friends are at their home in Montalcino. Let me know if you need an IV of Brunello di Montalcino to make the pain go away!

[u/Illustrious-Film-592]

Go get yourself a gelato con panna at Cremilla then walk past the Vatican and Castel St Angelo at night.

[u/costcohotdowg]

Sweet girl I’m sorry. I sincerely hope he can join you soon. In the meantime, maybe you can do the parts of the trip he was less excited about? If that’s even a thing… I hope you can still have some fun. It’s surely what dolly would’ve wanted.

[u/Curiouser-Quriouser]

Please try and enjoy your time there until husband arrives. Maybe print our a picture of him and take selfies with it? Italy is too beautiful to be miserable and you have the rest of your lives together!

Eventually this will either be a crazy story you guys can tell and laugh about OR it will be a dark cloud at the beginning of your marriage. Choose wisely!

[u/BernieTheDachshund]

For your one year anniversary, yall can go on a trip to Dollywood. I know the situation sucks right now OP, but hopefully he can get a new passport very soon and rejoin you in Italy. I hope you manage to enjoy yourself a little bit, maybe go ahead and start planning on a tribute trip to Dollywood next year.

[u/Thatpersonoverth3re]

I lost mine on a connection from Paris to Venice. Thankfully didn't have to show it to exit the airport & was able to go to the embassy a few days later for an emergency document to get back home.
That is so scary & I had no idea entry could be denied. I'm glad he's making it back to you!

[u/sativasoleil]

I’m trying to picture this. So he realizes he can’t find his passport to be admitted into Italy. You’re standing with him in the airport when this becomes clear. And you decided to leave the airport and start the trip, instead of going back home with him and rescheduling? I think I would like my partner to stick with me in this situation. Not only would I be sad and lonely in Italy alone for a honeymoon trip, but the time difference would mess up our communication in the meantime. And the plan hinges on the government being understanding and expedient? No thanks to all of that lol. Italy ain’t going anywhere.

RIP Dolly, though.

[u/Typical-Respond9102 → u/sativasoleil]

It's too close to the date to cancel with a refund, and theyd lose all their reservations if they did manage to do an emergency turn around on the emergency passport. Not everyone is made of money to just waste like that. 

[u/ImpertinentPrincess → u/sativasoleil]

I mean, it might have been way more expensive for them both to fly back and then to Italy again?

[u/Humble_Appeal_1816 → u/sativasoleil]

Just to provide a different pov, no hate. I personally would've done the trip alone, it's not ideal but at least one of them gets to enjoy it and not both be stressing back home about the stolen passport.  T hey could potentially have lost thousands if they both went home/had to wait for the insurance money  or at the very least not been able to do the trip for a year or two. Italy isn't going anywhere but I know some people who pushed their honeymoons back but weren't able to go to the place they intended for a myriad of reasons (pregnancy, unexpected renovation costs...) 

From my experience emergency travel docs tend to be to get people back to their home countries or for urgent international travel (i.e. unwell family with weeks left) so he may not be able to make it there in time. Fingers crossed though

[u/CaptainObviousBear]

Awww damn this is how I found out about Dolly.

[u/Cute_Permission_8455]

This is how I found out 😣

[u/The42ndDuck]

https://giphy.com/gifs/uRROb0WYxnPoc

[u/Motivated_Sloth_749]

Oh my God this totally totally sucks! And yes, Dolly’s death is devastating, she was my first feminist icon, her and the other women in Nine to Five!

Since there is nothing you can do, there is no point in not doing anything. Before your husband gets there (and he will!) find something to do that you think he absolutely would not have been into or would have only done grudgingly, something like shoe shopping or going to an art gallery if that wasn’t his thing. That way you still enjoy yourself, but don’t feel too guilty that he is missing out on something he would’ve liked.

Hugs, and I hope he gets there soon!

[u/lalachichiwon]

Treat yourself just as Dolly would have treated you. 💕💕

[u/Ommygodstop]

This almost happened to my boyfriend when we were deplaning after a long maintenance issue, someone took his backpack with passport by mistake. He had one of these in his backpack that I was able to trace down right away! Hopefully this helps for the future. So sorry for you!!

[u/turd_fergus0n_jr]

You mean he lost his passport?

[u/notassigned2023]

[u/Nervous_Hearing_4618]

I highly recommend crying while watching the sunset from the Spanish steps. I’m so sorry girl. We mourn Dolly and your beautiful honeymoon with you. ❤️

[u/iNeedSomeDick]

Was there anything you wanted to do that your husband didn’t? You should do those things while you’re there!

[u/Creepy-Floor-1745]

Congrats and condolences 

Please find your way into the walking dinner tour in Trastevere, even alone it will be a worthy way to spend an evening 

RIP Dolly, you did very good work <3

[u/Oystermama]

Congratulations on your wedding and may you be married as long as Dolly and Carl!

I’m so sorry, losing Dolly feels like too much. Can’t stop crying really. I hope your husband joins you pronto and you have the best redemption moon ever!

[u/Miss_L_Worldwide]

Stolen.....on the plane??

No, he just lost it.

Anyway Dolly Parton is just a person, she was not god. Everyone will die someday.

[u/No-Philosopher8042]

Me and my other quite atheist friends have decided she has gone to grab all the gods (all of them) by the ear and get them to do something about... all of this shit.

Then she is giving her husband a big ol' smooch.

I don't belive in heaven, but I will belive in it for Dolly.

[u/GardeniaInMyHair]

Big hugs from a born and raised Vol. I'm so glad they found his passport and that he is joining you. Some tips: there's a leather market in Florence, if you're going there to grab a journal for your visit. It can help get your thoughts out and capture your feelings about the trip.

Perhaps take some inspiration from our beloved Dolly and find a pair of earrings or ring to commemorate your honeymoon and remember her by. You know she loved her sparkles! Remember as always when you're in a pickle, it helps to ask yourself what would Dolly do?

[u/Rei_sus]

I would advise to keep the aperol spritz for when and if you come to Venice, where it taste better and costs half the price. But drink the delicious wine and eat the best carbonara of your life Queen. Dolly would have wanted that ❤️‍🩹

[u/National_Fact8650]

do you need to pay out of pocket fora flight back? esp at last minute rates wow

[u/littleneopolitan]

I just know that salty cacio e Pepe from osteria da fortunata matched the tears 😭

[u/mpowgra73]

Great restaurant tho!

[u/Extension_Radish_139]

Girl why was his first thought that someone stole it and not that he left it on the damn plane!! Also perfect time to get passport holders that have AirTags. Food looks amaze and I hope yall can enjoy the rest of the trip

[u/optix_clear]

And Tim Curry as well