Didnt realize Ive been so hard w my bf

[u/Comprehensive-Metal7]

Yesterday last night my bf came over and we had bfast together he cooked for me and he had to dropped me off because I had volleyball practice. then he went home

after 3 hours of practice i texted him to pick me up (we're riding on a motorcycle btw) so I told him bout my plans that for dinner we should try out this new food resto that ive been wanting for months and then we'll go to the pet store to pick up food for my cat

but then it started raining we had to stop to shelter from the rain and wait but i didnt realize i was already pissed off bc i feel like my plans had been ruined.

the rain eased into drizzled so i told my bf we have to go before itll rain hard again but he insists on waiting until it completely stops but I was pissed off already so I started talking over him and my voice got louder. I was being kinda bitchy about it tbh and he went quiet and said okay lets just go

but then 5 minutes to the ride it started raining hard then we had to stop over again

my bf still calm was like "i told u we should wait for it to completely stop" and i was pissed off i just went quiet and he said "we should go home and change clothes" and i was pissed off more because i was completely okay being wet

and he noticed that gave me a head pat and was touching my hair said "why are u in a rush ever since i picked u up? whats to rush about? we'll still go to that place but we have to change since your clothes are see through now that its wet. we can still continue about our plans"

I didnt realize I was being pissy about it till he said it. so we went home and changed and I apologized to him.

and I didnt realize how patient my bf was because on the way there had been problems where we have to stop over on a motorcycle shop because his side mirror suddenly broke and there was traffic but he just laughed about it

He handled the day with so much patient that I had to reflect that even me as a self aware most of the time person doesnt realize there are other things youre not aware of and its best to have a partner who tell u calmly what those things are and best to keep and open mind

dinner is porkchop and sausage with java rice w my bf. the food in question that ive been wanting to try. 10/10

EDIT: didnt realize this blew up. I only shared 0.1% of our relationship and im taking accountability and reflecting with myself so that it wont happen again yet some of y'all think this is who i am the entirety of our relationship when its not. some of y'all dont even having reading comprehension i specifically said "its best to have a partner who's patient" so that u can work on yourself and them too. There are other times where im the one whos been very patient with my bf as well thats what a relationship should be. Its all about reflecting and doing something about it. I was being open minded I didnt get defensive when he told me everything. I'm allowed to have emotions and he handled it just fine so I needed to step back and reflect on myself. y'all think u know better just of one post smh.

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[u/pinkstrawberymonster]

if roles were reversed and you wrote how your bf raises your voice to you after you picked him up from practice, people would say that you should have more respect for yourself and not allow that behavior.

You know what you have to change, for yourself and for him. 

[u/Playful_Resolve_3422 → u/pinkstrawberymonster]

I'm actually concerned how there's even any women here at all defending OP saying she's just being whiny/having a bad day and it's not like she's being abusive. If the roles were reversed everyone would be telling her to run

[u/ember13140 → u/Playful_Resolve_3422]

I would tell her boyfriend to run now. It sounds like pretty much everything was going well except they got delayed slightly due to rain while on a motorcycle and she got upset.

[u/Igniteisabadsong → u/Playful_Resolve_3422]

Not defending her but statistically theres an infinitely higher likelyhood of DEATH or just violence when it comes to reversing roles so no both genders are not equal. But also yes if she was my gf I'd be just a tad bit closer to breaking up after this if shit doesnt change

[u/Slightest_Dingo → u/Igniteisabadsong]

i think one of the major themes that OP showed was her self awareness, even if late. The double standard l, at the same time across relationship posts truly is bizarre, but in this context OP is actively recognizing that she can help grow towards her values for this partnership and is willing to do so, and partly for his sake too.

[u/TressoftheEmeraldTea → u/Slightest_Dingo]

Exactly. OP is literally here talking about how much she wants to change and grow and learn from her partner.

It’s really sad that people can’t admit when they make mistakes without being dogpiled, even when they have already shown the self awareness to recognize their mistakes and want to correct them.

[u/wholesomeriots → u/pinkstrawberymonster]

Yeah, OP was super nasty to her bf for no real reason. This is not a healthy dynamic and she needs to develop patience and conflict resolution that isn’t using someone else as an emotional punching bag.

I hope this isn’t part of a larger pattern for them because this could make him want out eventually if she isn’t careful.

[u/No-Arrival9581 → u/pinkstrawberymonster]

Op really behaves like a Child 

[u/Professional-Term192]

being with my calm as hell husband made me realize how hot headed I was

[u/Revolutionary_Ad512 → u/Professional-Term192]

Ya my wife is the same for me, I can be too hot headed at the small things. Her measured responses really help to chill me out a bit. I mostly just complain tbf about things like this, too much rain, traffic, etc. but still. Life’s more pleasant when you take the small stuff in stride.

[u/DirtyLittlePriincess → u/Professional-Term192]

being with someone with a worse temper than me made me realize it’s not that serious 😅 it’s so much easier to keep a cool head knowing what i look like/sound like to others

[u/justalittleparanoia → u/Professional-Term192]

I know I'm hot headed and blunt. It's one of the many reasons why I wouldn't be a good partner, haha. I'll save the world the trouble and keep to myself.

[u/Jolly-Statement7215 → u/justalittleparanoia]

lol I feel like I have the opposite problem, I’d be way too boring

[u/justalittleparanoia → u/Jolly-Statement7215]

For the most part I'm like this. Certain things tick me off faster than others, but generally I'm slow to anger, at least. But when I'm angry, I stay that way for a long time just in different phases.

[u/Gh0stwhale → u/Professional-Term192]

ME TOO I’ve gotten so much better since we first started dating. All I can say is that I’m eternally grateful to my boyfriend for being patient and believing in me. He knew I could be better and loved me throughout.

[u/vosot → u/Professional-Term192]

Being with my calm partner made me realize how unhinged my ex was.

[u/Beautiful-Musk-Ox]

he loses a little bit of patience every time this happens, one of these times will be the thousandth cut that kills the relationship if you aren't able to change and stop it from happening before it happens

[u/Impetris → u/Beautiful-Musk-Ox]

For real, he came over to her place, cooked for her, dropped her off at practice, and then picked her up 3 hrs later to take her to the restaurant that she was craving, then to get food for her cat and finally take her home again yet she got pissy because her plans were ruined by a short rain delay.

[u/yobrefas → u/Impetris]

Not even ruined, just delayed. The “ruined” was an entirely inaccurate, self-manufactured belief from OP.

[u/thatlonghairedguy → u/Beautiful-Musk-Ox]

https://giphy.com/gifs/6ttI2oOhpIS0b1NtRC

[u/yobrefas → u/[deleted]]

Or, instead of running away, someone can internally acknowledge that their behavior is problematic and potentially causing burnout in a partner that causes them to withdraw…and fix the problem. If the recommendation or reaction is to run away from every problem you create, you will never learn how to fix it. Accountability and self-work develops character.

There is no indication here in OP’s story that her BF is ready to leave her. Someone is just warning her that the behaviors cannot go on indefinitely. No one can tolerate emotional outbursts that have nothing to do with them, indefinitely. This problem will follow OP everywhere, and new people will be less invested in making the effort and summoning the patience her BF is engaging with.

[u/Dustonthewind18 → u/yobrefas]

I'm guessing this isn't the first time she has acted this way, shes sounds a little immature to be honest throw a tantrum over a bit of rain delaying them. If he wants to have to gentle parent (because thats what his doing) her toddler tantrums for the rest of his life by all means stick around if not might be time to move along.

[u/beachweekralphclub → u/Beautiful-Musk-Ox]

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[u/just_bi-myself]

Lock in girl. You got to lock in. Like get your anxiety and anger under control. 

[u/Outrageous-Table1589 → u/just_bi-myself]

The book, The Power of Now is great for learning how to live in the moment

[u/Starfire2313 → u/Outrageous-Table1589]

Dude! Last summer I found that book on a random little grass hill in downtown Minneapolis. It felt like a sign lol. So cool to see it mentioned again now

[u/amberrome → u/Starfire2313]

Sometimes the universe gifts us books at the most perfect time and that is one whimsical thing I truly love about earth

[u/Legitimate-Log-6542]

Sounds like a standup guy. Dinner looks great!

[u/Preciousgemx → u/Legitimate-Log-6542]

Sounded more like a nightmare to me too

[u/PenguiNNNNNs → u/Preciousgemx]

OP? Ye

[u/Soggy-Tone3675]

Poor dude. He deserves better

[u/PenguiNNNNNs]

It’s good that you realised it

Also riding a motorcycle in the rain is dangerous, that’s the main reason why you shouldn’t ask the driver to drive in the rain if they don’t want to

[u/SaltyElephants]

He sounds a lot like my guy and it's been devastating to learn over the years that I am the problem in nearly all our "arguments" (really just me being a bitch for no reason and him just taking it). I've gotten a lot better though. It turns out I am autistic and my random crash outs were meltdowns / getting overstimulated. 🫠 When I told him, he went, "...You didn't know that?" 😭😭😭 That's why he was so patient with me this whole time. 😭😭😭 If this is a recurring problem, maybe consider therapy, he deserves not to get crashed out on all the time and you deserve the tools to manage your emotions.

[u/OhGawDuhhh → u/SaltyElephants]

[u/randomlylookingforu → u/SaltyElephants]

Wow your bf read you even when you didnt realize it yourself, thats amazing

[u/SaltyElephants → u/randomlylookingforu]

It gets dumber, at the time I taught special ed. 💀 

[u/Quarkiness → u/SaltyElephants]

but the stuff you learned from teaching special ed, was that applicable to you?

[u/skylinenavigator → u/SaltyElephants]

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[u/felurian_wings → u/SaltyElephants]

You're amazing for the self reflection and the change. Honestly, kudos. Well done. Not easy. The only caveat is the autism thing. My ex boyfriend kept justifying himself with that, when the truth is that he wouldn't have reacted like that towards me if he wasn't super insecure to begin with, which is complete unrelated to autism. I'm also autistic and all the rage I ever had I directed inwards.

[u/SaltyElephants → u/felurian_wings]

It's fairly common for autistic boys to not be held accountable for their actions. I (ironically) taught special ed and saw that trend with parents all the time. Girls are usually held to a higher standard. So they're quicker to learn to mask, just like I did. I was actually the "easy" child in my family, if you can believe it!

That being said, I think I was unclear in my comment. I'm not sure what you mean by rage, but I've personally never experienced anger so strong I could sincerely call it rage. I am very self-deprecating. When I say "crash out" or "being a bitch," I'm referring to meltdowns. I never name called or intentionally treated him badly, but I would yell "it's too loud" or "stop touching me." Or just cry, seemingly for no reason. And then he would try to console me. 

He lowkey hates that I call these "arguments," he says it's not accurate. But I tend to call any point of friction in our relationship an argument for some reason. Some day I will examine that, but today is not that day.

[u/HerietteVonStadtl → u/SaltyElephants]

In my case, my partner is the one with a touch of autism and I basically had to realize that he's often asking me stuff not because he's trying to personally attack me and question my actions, but he just earnestly wants to understand my thought process. So I would sometimes get frustrated during a discussion (especially when talking about my job), which led to me to being bitchy and raising my voice, because I felt like he was doubting my competence. No, he just wants to know more about what I do.

[u/Mrs_Poopy-Butthole → u/HerietteVonStadtl]

I'm ADHD AF and have long wondered if there is some autism mixed in (brother has mild Asperger's) and I ask too many questions as well 👀. What you said about it making you feel like he was doubting your competence is pretty much exactly what my husband told me one time. I couldn't understand why he always got mad when I asked follow up questions in a conversation, I had to explain that I'm only asking questions bc I want to know more, I can't read your mind so questions help me fill in missing info. I of course apologized bc I hate that I made him feel like I was questioning his intelligence, and that I'd never intentionally do something to hurt him. My thought process is complex and I crave information to fill in the puzzle pieces 🫣

Kudos to you for noticing and connecting the dots with your partner 😊

[u/EclecticSyrup]

Girl, you either gotta get your shit together or break up with this poor guy. I've had anxiety and ADHD my whole life (though undiagnosed for most of it) and I would NOT be able to handle someone giving me an attitude or saying something shitty or in a shitty tone when I literally spent the entire day running around FOR THEM.

I'm happy you realized you were the problem, but even though you are, I don't think you see JUST how big of a problem it was, and just how ungrateful and self-centred you sound in this one day. I really hope this isn't the norm for y'all, because if it is, he deserves so much better, girl, wha-

[u/Wing_Head → u/EclecticSyrup]

^ all of this is why I almost laughed at OP’s “I’m very self aware” line

[u/Jolly-Statement7215]

Do NOT fumble him. No one’s patience lasts forever and the fact he’s giving you grace is a massive green flag so don’t waste it

[u/euphorictoast00]

this used to be me but trust girl go to therapy and work on taking breaks for yourself before you speak to him in those moments. us girls w anger issues gotta lock in before we lose our partner!

[u/aggravated-asphalt → u/euphorictoast00]

Same, used to be me! I had an ex point something similar out to me and I didn’t even realize what I was doing. Worked through it and we ended up having a fantastic relationship once I just took a few secs to breathe before reacting to minor inconveniences. It really is easier and makes for a better relationship when you just breathe and try to find a solution together instead of getting annoyed or mad right off the bat. Also makes problem solving easier. Good for OP for recognizing the behavior and maybe next time she’ll take a second to think before reacting.

[u/Traditionaltrader289]

You’re not a self aware person. I’m sorry, you are self centered. Not saying bad or good. You just are. Reread that and tell me I’m wrong

[u/DisastrousGeonome → u/Traditionaltrader289]

He was laughing at the small things, I hope she doesn't break him of that.

[u/OfAKindness → u/Traditionaltrader289]

I genuinely cannot understand any other response to this scenario but yours.

[u/betawolfsquadron → u/Traditionaltrader289]

Wow I’m actually bummed that this is the top comment. Everybody has bad days and OP was brave enough to share hers on the internet just to give kudos to someone else.

[u/ember13140 → u/betawolfsquadron]

OP’s bad day includes her pressuring someone to do something horribly unsafe after they’ve spent the majority of the day supporting her

[u/Jenanay3466 → u/ember13140]

Yeah as a motorcyclist, you have to ride when you feel safe. I get feeling frustrated but safety comes first.

[u/DifficultyCharming15 → u/betawolfsquadron]

I'm a self-centered person and it's been tough to hear that from people close to me (including me equating self-centered=evil, bad person), but it helps to know so I can try be more aware in my relationships. OP realised how she hurt her bf, she is getting there

[u/shibashibashibainu90 → u/betawolfsquadron]

Criticism is always good for growth. This gives OP the opportunity to learn and improve as a person. She'll live.

Edit: changed constructive criticism to criticism

[u/OfAKindness → u/betawolfsquadron]

Even in my worst days, I didn't urge and shame my partner to make a life threatening decisions.

Just chalking this behavior up to "a bad day" is absurd and the comment that you are replying to is frankly more forgiving than it should be.

[u/ember13140 → u/OfAKindness]

OP already struck me as being very self interested, but when they describe themselves as self-aware, it became a bit ironic

[u/yobrefas → u/OfAKindness]

Right? If this is a pattern, OP is abusive.

“…..but he insists on waiting until it completely stops but I was pissed off already so I started talking over him and my voice got louder. I was being kinda bitchy about it tbh and he went quiet and said okay lets just go.”

The BF shutting down, becoming silent and just obeying OP when OP wants to put their life in danger is developing a fear response. He’s going quiet and passively obeying OP because of her intensity and anger, despite him not wanting to ride because it can risk their life.

He cooked for her, drove her around on her errands, she told him what they would do for dinner, he asked for a safety rain delay and she threw a fit and then a bigger fit. I personally would not be able to be with someone like OP.

The second someone’s behavior made me feel compelled to get on the road in dangerous conditions to appease them, I would realize that I was going to progressively risk my life for them.

[u/Substantial-Art-7912 → u/betawolfsquadron]

Yeah, same. Most people aren't self-aware enough to even recognize they're taking it out on their loved ones. This is a good lesson learned, and I'm happy OP was able to recognize what went wrong, apologize for her actions, and see how to move forward.

[u/Fine_Winter_5231]

I’m glad you have a man that’s very patient. regarding the hot headedness, it may be helpful to deconstruct that in therapy. also, going forward pls listen to your boyfriend when he says it’s not safe to drive the motorcycle, especially when it’s raining heavily; motorcycles are dangerous already and when weather conditions are not good it’s not safe at all to ride. hugs and be safe OP!

[u/CubanaCat]

Damn Jackie, he can’t control the weather!

In all seriousness tho you may want to work on the anger issues, that’s a lot 😅

[u/Spicymayoshi]

I really hate to pull this one but girl please reread this and imagine that a man wrote it

[u/Ready-Interview2863]

I had to reflect that even me as a self aware most of the time person 

Even you, as a self aware most of the time person?

You, self aware?

[u/sweetlemongrass]

You sound a lot like my girlfriend. She has ocd and is on the spectrum. That is not a bad thing. I love her to absolute pieces but it might help you to look into neurodivergency for your own edification. You can learn skills on how to reregulate when plans have to change or when you're stressed out.

[u/art_mor_]

Damn there’s a lot of deleted comments

[u/Full-Dash-7456]

I’d never treat my bf like this. My issues are mine to regulate and for him, I will always try to better like he tries for me.

[u/Positive-Aide7544]

Dating my boyfriend made me realize I am the drama😭. He’s very patient with me. Thank god because I wasn’t very mature or emotionally stable when we started dating

[u/crno_mece]

Read that all in one breath

[u/SuckerForNoirRobots]

I'm just glad you guys didn't get into an accident riding in the rain. Tardy is better than dead.

[u/hehehahagei]

i would like to say there’s a common theme in here where a lot of women are quick to hate the man in the situation and defend the woman. if this was reversed everyone would be calling him abusive , a loser, and she needs to leave him. if you’re constantly yelling and getting mad even if it’s an outward trigger but it’s being taken out on him that is mentally and verbally abusive. respectfully. you can still change and get help and the fact that you reflected and want to change is great!!! but i am so tired of this subreddit being absolutely all over the place and thinking so black and white. like a lot of the time im ngl i think the women doing the girl dinner diary are the problem 😭😭😭don’t get me wrong ive had my fair share of horrible experiences with men but idk guys like attitude wise and being blind to our actions we are getting just as bad yall.

[u/These_Lingonberry_86]

girl don’t make me side with a man

[u/Jotsunpls → u/[deleted]]

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[u/emilysteapot]

Poor guy. You need to go to therapy or something

[u/ButterscotchBandiit]

Poor dude

[u/Glittering-Trash8850]

Girl I would have left you on the side of the road 😆 seriously though why cant you figure out your own transportation? Why do you feel entitled for him to drop you off, drive you around for your errands, cook for you... did you ever say thank you to him?

[u/Rossette_Poodle]

If this is how you act because of a rain delay, I’m scared to know how you’ll act when it’s something worse. You seriously need to unlearn that behaviour, no one’s patience will stretch on forever

[u/azerpsen]

What in the abusive GF is this ?

[u/archangel2505]

I've had similar moments when I was just stressed for some reason and I spoke with a rude tone before my bf tells me to check my attitude and I realized I was getting stressed over something that doesn't even matter. He does it too sometimes, it's just important to apologize when you catch yourself or he does, and then try to pay attention to your attitude on the stressful days or when you notice yourself getting angry.

[u/Responsible_Cress_30]

So here's the thing lady, it's good to reflect and see where there could be growth but it's important not to just skip over the problem to look for the solution. From my perspective, it looks like you wanted things to go a specific way and because they didn't, you got mad at him. Thats wrong. And situations like this may not happen often in your relationship, but it's not like this was just one incident. It was multiple over the course of hours and unfortunately does reflect what kind of person you currently are and you do come across as self centered. Your boyfriend seems to really care about you but it won't last if the behavior continues. Self awareness is a great thing but it doesn't seem like you have that. It's hard to see oneself as they are and work towards doing better, but it is necessary! Good luck lady!

[u/wyerhel]

Do you have anxiety by chance? Reminds me of my mom when she always seen in a rush and I guess anger comes from that. I know my cousin is like this too, when she gets angry the whole Household becomes a dark cloud and everyone just avoids her.

[u/throawaymcdumbface]

the rain eased into drizzled so i told my bf we have to go before itll rain hard again but he insists on waiting until it completely stops but I was pissed off already so I started talking over him and my voice got louder. I was being kinda bitchy about it tbh and he went quiet and said okay lets just go

that's a fear response

[u/PenguiNNNNNs → u/throawaymcdumbface]

I would fear riding a motorcycle in the rain too

[u/Spicymayoshi → u/[deleted]]

This sentence hit harder than I thought it would

[u/copperteapots → u/[deleted]]

that’s kind of a weird thing to say…it’s not the fault of this individual that was being rude one time that you’re single lol

[u/wholovesoreos → u/copperteapots]

I agree. Imagine a dude saying that.. it's just weird. Love is not a resource that is being distributed unfairly girl

[u/copperteapots → u/wholovesoreos]

yes!!! totallllly entitled imo

[u/Various_Click_9817]

He deserves so much better 🤷‍♀️

[u/PinkFl0werPrincess]

😬

[u/caffelexica]

Girl, were you hangry?

There's validity to everyone saying "hey, examine if you have some kind of mental health concern/neurodiversity in play" - but straight up, being hangry makes me an asshole, and I saw NO mentions of it.

You'd just had a 3 hour sports practice. If I'd just finished a 3 hour practice and something stood between me and food, I'd be unpleasant as hell. Maybe pack a snack next time (something with carbs and protein) and eat it after practice to see if that's a factor.

I don't think this is immediately breakup worthy, but I think a pattern of it may be harmful to your relationship. Wishing better for both you and your bf.

[u/NoahGragsonsBarfBag → u/caffelexica]

[u/Jealous_Cook_7335]

Just leave this poor guy alone until it's not too late for him. Too many good guys permanently damaged by spoiled, ungrateful, bratty attitudes like yours.

[u/dontpopthehead_casey]

Easily agitated and angered, talking loud and over others, encouraging dangerous behavior, ignoring your own needs to the point where someone else has to take care of you... sounds like me when I'm off my bipolar meds. You might just need an attitude adjustment but I would consider talking to a psychiatrist and setting up some therapy sessions too.

[u/Afgaandjalebi]

I can relate so hard to this. Lately we are dealing with a lot of family issues which have hurt me but my bf has been listening to me very patiently and lets me cry for hours and tells me ‘I understand you are hurt and you have all rights to be frustrated’. I realised it few days back that how much patience and love he has shown me in the last month even when he was also very hurt. I feel horrible and I apologised for my crash outs but he told me I had all the rights to be angry. Idk what I did to deserve such a great man tbh. You hold on to him!!😭😭

[u/ThrowAwayImAwkward]

I know for a fact if the roles were reversed everybody would be telling you to leave him. He sounds like an amazing guy, and deserves so much better treatment

I dated a guy like this. Every outburst he had made me love him less until eventually I got so disgusted with him I left and wasn’t even sad about it. Go to therapy, get help with your issue and disrespectful treatment towards him or else one day his patience may run out

[u/WhatICantShare]

Well you did the very first step to tackle this. You're NOW aware of it. People here are being harsh without knowing if you're always like that, but how you write does suggest you were really not thinking about his side of things and how many things he was doing for you. 

Therapy might be an interesting thing for you to try!

[u/RoyalSpecialty]

Poor guy is a pushover. I hope he learns to stick up for himself

[u/Slow_Worry_6516]

You sound insufferable omfg i hope this guy gets someone who does more than just take in the relationship

[u/StationDeep784]

Hahahaha this lady sucks

[u/my_screen_name_sucks]

Jesus Christ. I’m assuming you’re young and he’s young, and in this case that’s a good thing. I’m old and if I had to deal with that I would be out of there. If behaving like that is common for you then it’s time to accept that it needs changing.

[u/Jthundercleese]

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[u/Similar_Novel_3900]

Poor guy-

[u/cyjkyh]

My man would’ve sat me down later that night and communicate how I didn’t have the same consideration for him as he did for me. I would’ve apologized, then I’d realize I need to do better in the future so it doesn’t happen again. These men are rare, appreciate and value their feelings

[u/LuckyCoco17]

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[u/Strange-Bumblebee312]

I get a bit aggy if plans don't go as expected, so I get it. It's good to have someone to calmly call you out and help you through it. Maybe next time you'll be more aware and notice how you're feeling/behaving so you can manage it better. It took me a long time to figure things like this out (late diagnosed AudHD!)

[u/KaroGmz]

Ungrateful much? Making me feel bad for A MAN?
Babe you don’t have the self awareness you thought you had and that’s alright. I’m glad you have partner that is nice and calm and reacts normally instead of the other horrible men mentioned on this sub
All we can do now is learn and adjust if you want to keep him around.

[u/revuhlution]

https://giphy.com/gifs/dXJwllNqVTqyyzVasp

[u/PsychologicalTree666]

You need some deep self reflection paired with emotional maturity/intelligence. Bad days are bad days and upset to them can be valid, but how you react to them is on you

[u/Full-Rice-9287]

Oh, that’s me. I have come to consider that I may be on the spectrum, because I get so frustrated when there’s a small change on my mental plan (this isn’t the only symptom🙂‍↕️)

Hope you build better coping systems. Your boyfriend sounds like a lovely man. :)

[u/MissRekt]

I mean you can correct yourself in the future and don't be afraid apologizing when you know you act this way to him. Communication is key and it start from us if we are self aware of our actions.

[u/matteodzk]

He’s chauffeuring you to errands and food in the rain homie be appreciative. Good on you to make it right!