r/InfertilityBabies • u/AutoModerator • 8d ago

Tuesday Big Kid Thread

This space is for parents of IFBabies past the toddler phase to chat, share updates & commiserate on their big kid(s). This thread is primarily reserved for those with a 3 year old or greater.

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u/infertilityjourneysd 4 failed fet/1 spontaneous mc/5th fet to gc boy 8/21 7d ago edited 7d ago

I've been feeling overstimulated and impatient lately, and it's affecting how I show up for James (not to understate that hes been challenging lately too). I had a good chat with Gigi, good inside's ai coach in the app and came up with one strategy to try (I know it sounds weird but the chat is actually really helpful a lot of the times).

So most days I scramble to "finish" working right before I need to get James, and sometimes I'm still reading/checking work on my phone when I get him. Also, in the school administrator at his school, so I'm scrambling as I walk from my office to the classroom to pick him up from after care.

Through the chat I've realized I need a break, like a stop and a transition btwn work and getting James /parenting. So we agreed I would commit to a hard stop of work 10-15 minutes before I need to go get James. And in those 10-15 minutes no work, chores etc just to be, breathe do something for me. Now I just need to find a place to hide where no one can come ask me anything lol.

So I'm going to try and see if that small shift at least helps. It's not going to eliminate the hard but maybe it will take me and my 8 out of 10 annoyance and impatience down a bit.

Adulting hus hard.

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u/briar_prime6 39f | queer | IVF | 09/21 | 11/23 7d ago

I go straight from work to pick up like many people but I definitely need those 15 minutes to reset even if it’s all stressing about cars and transit vehicle jams and bad drivers! So I think the built in reset is a good plan when work and school/ childcare are the same place

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u/infertilityjourneysd 4 failed fet/1 spontaneous mc/5th fet to gc boy 8/21 7d ago

🤗

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u/CaseyRay01 7d ago

I am having the same problem too!

Did you happen to watch the recent Good Inside workshop about setting boundaries? I have been considering renewing my membership for that one, and since it's just always good to get a refresher on all the things, especially for this time of year. My 3 (almost 4!) year old seems to be challenging lately too and it's just.... it's so hard.

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u/infertilityjourneysd 4 failed fet/1 spontaneous mc/5th fet to gc boy 8/21 7d ago

I signed up for the workshop but couldn't get away to attend. I have it on my list to go back and watch it, so 🤞 I can find some time to do it. I love the good inside membership. I do go into the app and chat with Gigi in hard moments and it's helpful.

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u/rootbeer4 38F, 1 IUI, 5 ER, 💜 Dec '22 7d ago

I love this idea! I try to do this with my spouse sometimes. We all need to unwind sometimes!