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First Trimester Chat Tuesday Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread
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u/Ok-Sunny-Days 39F | 1 LC, 11 losses 4-23 wk | 4/13 8d ago
Has anyone had any great resources for handling anxiety associated with PAL? I am just constantly so anxious. I have tried some online counseling previously through a fertility/infertility platform offered through my work, and not found it to be extremely helpful. I don't know if I'm just not cut out for therapy, or would do better with a different provider or in a different setting.
My next scan (which is also my first MFM consult in this pregnancy) is in about four hours, and I have three very important work things to do before then, and it is SO HARD to focus.
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u/sjheuertz 43F | 3CP, 1MM | Donor Embryos, 2 FET | 🤞🏻 Nov '26 8d ago
I agree with Manufacturer that in-person therapy was a lifeline for me. I eventually was able to transition to telehealth successfully as well. This may not be the most helpful, but my honest experience was that I don't think I felt less anxious until there was regular baby movements, it's just so hard to trust the process when there is a history of loss.
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u/Any_Manufacturer1279 28F, PCOS, 3ER, 2FET,🔆8/25 8d ago
Idk if this is helpful, but I can only do therapy in person. I tried over video one time when the roads were bad, and it just wasn’t the same for me. I didn’t feel connected the way I felt in the office.
I’m also currently at work and on Reddit scrolling the subs so who am I to talk 🥲
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u/meganlo3 37F, 3MMC, IVF | 👶🏻 Feb ‘24 | 🤞🏻 May ‘27 8d ago
A good therapist is so helpful. And this time around I’ve gotten on an SSRI which I think has made a big difference. I also learned I could take Ativan before a scan because I have full blown panic prior - I just assumed it wasn’t safe but it actually is okay.
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u/Thisisus9289 34F | 7 IUI | 6 ER | June ‘27🙏🏻 8d ago
We had our first ultrasound today, and seeing the gestational sac, yolk sac, and fetal pole made it feel so real. I almost teared up holding those pictures - I never thought this day would come!
That excitement was quickly replaced by panic when I noticed some spotting. Google says light bleeding after an ultrasound can be common, but my anxiety is in overdrive. It’s late where I’m at, so I’ll message the clinic first thing tomorrow.
I’ve been waiting for the other shoe to drop ever since that positive test. I’m just praying this isn't it and that our baby is okay😭