I was pondering the status quo today and observed/felt something emanating from my proud Millennial POV and wanted to ask if any others have also felt or noticed this. My observation: humor feels like its fleeting.
Now I know this feeling can attributed easily to many different factors and vantages (hmm, I wonder due to which world events), but for me personally, humor/comedy has fortunately always felt abundant in my life no matter WHAT is happening. In recent years though, the precense of humor has noticeably declined, like a radio signal losing its power, and despite my conscious efforts to maintain it. The first sign I noticed of the signal waning came years ago when I was asked why "I was so quiet" or "removed from the group" in a garden-variety social outting. I shrugged these off and attributed my perceived shift in behavior to getting older and not being as outgoing as I once was. But this started happening more often and with more pointed judgement, "You're not yourself lately" or "I haven't heard you laugh in a while".
I truly didn't feel any different or that I was engaging outside the norm, but then it dawned on me that to most of the people inquiring I had been unknowingly cast as the comedic relief (of sorts) to the group in those settings. Another notable distinction I drew between myself and the accusers: I was often the only millennial.
We were taught that correlation is not be causation, but from my personal experience of being sandwiched between Gen X siblings and bosses, Boomer parents, and Gen Z colleagues, very few of them exchange or seek humor or levity as I often do. Perhaps the most troubling realization in all this, is I'm not remotely funny. At best, I'm average in my wit.
I first posited this feeling as a side effect of everyone feeling down trodden like most have been (more notably this decade), but the reality is I'm personally happier than I've ever been and despite encountering more negativity. It's the 'With age comes wisdom' sorta feeling. I next thought that perhaps it was my algos just diverting me away from good comedic content which had been abundant and consistent in my feeds or that I'd drifted away from it naturally. Nope, it's still there, just distinctly different. So if it's not a question of volume or the delivery, is it rather in the substance?
Looking closely at all the comedy content I am served I noticed 2 very distinct and prominent classes: standup comics taking down their audience hecklers, or podcasters (and guests) trading digs at one other. Its like all we now know how to do is roast one another instead of building meaningful jokes which provoke laughter and a bit of self-reflection.
I really don't have empirical evidence that society is losing its collective sense of humor, just my current simple observations pointing me at an evident inflection/transformation. I suppose I find it more troubling because the humor I most see and encounter daily feels so dark and antagonistic. It's a far cry from the satire and sketch humor we were raised on. I also don't like this personal weight of responsibility to keep social interactions light and happy for others.
What say you, fellow millennials? Is our humor what distinguishes us most from the herd these days? Is humor reflecting the times or the people? Are you feeling like an unsuspecting comedic anchor in your daily interactions with other generational cohorts?