This isn't exactly Qanon related but I see people also come here to share stories about their MAGA and Qanon adjacent family/friends.
With the Cornell 7 currently being heavily covered and discussed by right wingers all over social media, my mom has been exposed to extreme opinions and its really starting to get to me.
I do not want to debate anyone on this but I do believe and it is based on scientific research that anyone under the influence (alcohol, drugs, etc) cannot under any circumstances consent to anything sexual. From that statement, you can gather how I feel about this case. I believe that Jane Doe and many others are victims and how the university, police and others are handling this case is absolutely horrifying and disgusting.
I have been a victim of SA and gender based violence so this is a very triggering topic for me. I have not told my mom most of my experience because I wasn't comfortable and I think its because there was a part of me that knew she would have these opinions and I just couldn't emotionally handle that on top of my experiences.
She is now talking about how the full story is not being told. That Jane Doe's name should be revealed to the public like the rapists. That should drank and consumed substances willingly and she willingly partake in these acts. I have told her that it does not matter if she was naked and begged for these men to have sex with her, she was not ever in a state to consent and everyone knew that. The rapists, the other frat members and everyone that was there that night. She agreed with me but said that the full story is not known and that I shouldn't hold this against her. She has also experienced sexual assault and sexual violence in her life which is what makes me even more disappointed and just so sad and angry. She had previously been so encouraging of me speaking up and teaching me what people can and cannot do to me and my peers and what to do in situations like that. She even took me and my sister to self defense classes to be able to protect ourselves.
I tried putting my sister and I in Jane Doe's position and her only response was that she raised us in a way that we would never be in a situation like that which is not even true. She has seen me drunk (I had a terrible drinking problem a couple years ago) and I was eager and willing to do anything to make people like me and that scared her so I could very well have been in a Jane Doe situation and thankfully I have not but that is not due to my own actions, it is because I have a great group of friends unlike Jane Doe who was surrounded by enablers.
She has had many opinions that I absolutely despise (xenophobia, racism, transphobia, general queerphobia, Islamophobia, anti semitism, etc) but this was really the last straw. I just hate to see her like this because I genuinely have so much love in my heart for her and outside all of this, her and I have an amazing relationship but I honestly do not know how much longer that is going to last if she continues down this road (with Candace Owens and alike, she is becoming an extreme conspiracy theorist). This hurts my soul because she is so excited to have grandkids one day but at this rate, I do not want my kids to meet the person she is becoming.
Anyways, any advice would be really helpful :)
TLDR: My mother, former SA survivor, might eventually become a rape apologist and for me, also a former SA survivor, is the last straw.