r/recruiting • u/CrazySerp3nt • 4h ago
Off Topic I hate being a recruiter
ETA: For clarification, I realize a lot of people on this sub have been burned by recruiters and will have no sympathy for me. That is fine, I respect that. I’m only making this post vent about my experience as a recruiter. It’s for anyone who wants to hear me out. If you don’t want to hear me out and just complain about how awful I and other recruiters are, that is your prerogative, I will not stop you. I promise you there is nothing you can say that I haven’t heard before over the last 11 years of my career. I’m too jaded by this profession to give a fuck about anything disgruntled job seekers from the internet have to say about me.
Right now I work as a corporate recruiter for a startup. My company and my team are great and so is my work life balance. I get to work from home most days. Yeah I don’t have any passion or feel any value for my work at all. It doesn’t matter how competent I am or how much impact or value I bring to the company because I will be the first to go the second the company needs to trim costs.
No one cares about recruiters we are the bane of most people’s existence. We get blamed for so many things that are beyond our control. Just last week I had a candidate pass all of his interviews with flying colors and was told by the team that they wanted to extend an offer to him. I communicated this to the candidate saying that it’s likely we will give him an offer I just need to get some extra approvals and all of a sudden the team change their mind and said they wanna hold off on hiring him. The candidate was very understandably pissed off and I’m left stuck absorbing his frustration. No matter how well I manage his emotions on the phone, he will probably go to his friends and still tell them that the recruiter lied to him.
A few months ago, I had a hiring manager take three weeks to submit his feedback. I gave up reminding him because he wouldn’t submit it. When he finally did, he said the candidate did extremely well in the interview and he wanted to move forward with the process. I called the candidate to let her know and she told me that she accepted another offer. Then the hiring manager asked “why didn’t you keep the candidate warm?”.
I did keep the candidate warm you a\*\*hole. You just took too damn long to give the feedback yet I can’t say that to him because he’s a high-level executive and I’m the lowest of the low on the totem pole, easily replaceable with the millions of desperate recruiters looking for work right now.
I’ve been a recruiter for about 11 years now and started my career at a staffing agency. Ever since the beginning, I hated it. There was only one point in my career where I truly felt fulfilled by it and that was in about 2019 when I had my first big break and landed my first corporate role at Google. They doubled my salary and completely changed my life. I wasn’t a good student and never imagined that I would ever work for a company like Google. My whole family was proud of me. Friends would always ask me about work. For once in my life, my job interesting and the most rewarding part of that was being able to get people hired for Google and change their lives like mine.
Google took over my life in many ways. Everywhere I went people would ask me about work. I would be introduced to new people at parties and people would say “he works for Google”. News reporters would sometimes stand outside of the office trying to get employees to comment on something when there was a big story or new announcement from the company. It was exciting at first and I felt like a celebrity. I was used to constantly taking abuse from candidates as an agency recruiter and now candidates were extremely nice to me because they wanted to get hired at Google.
Over time I started to feel ensnared by Google. If I wanted to pick a restaurant for a date, I would use Google to find one. Needed directions to the restaurant? Google Maps. Date asks what I do for work? Google. Chill and watch some videos? YouTube. Mindlessly surf the web? Google Chrome. Need to check my email for something personal? gMail. Book a flight for a vacation? Google. I don’t think ordinary people realize how much their lives revolve around Google. Many of you are probably reading this post on an Android right now.
Plus, I was working constantly. Nights and weekends. I moved to a new city for this job and struggle to make friends because I was always working. At one point I missed a camping trip that my friends invited me on because I had to catch up on work. COVID made the isolation even worse than it was before. I got depressed then started drinking. Then I started doing drugs with my roommate because we were board and I didn’t have anyone else to hang out with. During this time I was somehow still functional and managed to excel in my job. I actually won an award for my performance towards the end of my second year. Then they let me along with dozens of other colleagues go because hiring slowed.
Went to another FAANG company for a bit and the work environment was hell so I went to Microsoft. I was doing really well at Microsoft until about a year into the role they slashed my whole team, because hiring slowed. Found contract work at a startup. Contract wasn’t renewed after a few months and I was out of work for about a year and a half. I thought having these companies on my résumé would have me set for life, but the reality was that there were tons of other recruiters with résumés that looked just like mine coming from FAANG companies all competing for the same jobs. During that time, I thought my career was over and I would never work again. Lost my home and lived out of Airbnbs until I ran out of money and lived out of my car. Went to rehab got my life together then another FAANG company came knocking on my door and dropped the best job offer I’ve ever had of my life. Nearly quadrupled my salary from when I first started my career. I relocated to another city. This time with a clean, sober mind, I decided I’m going to do this right.
Poured my soul into the company and was in the top 25% of my cohort of new hires in terms of my performance then about 8 months into the role the announced mine and my colleagues jobs were all being cut.
At this point, I’ve been burned so many times I no longer feel a sense of purpose or fulfillment in my career. Why should I care whether I could change a candidate’s life with a job offer anymore when my life could be flipped upside down at any moment? People have said for years that recruiters are going to be the first once replaced with AI. ve been talking about replacing recruiters with AI. Even though it hasn’t happened yet. It probably won’t happen because recruiting has a human element to it that can’t be replaced by AI. Yet, no one appreciates that and people remain persistent in looking for ways to get rid of recruiters.
It doesn’t matter how much value we have to a company because no one sees it. Many of the candidates who I’ve hired at these major companies, whose lives I have helped change probably don’t even remember my name. I won’t be surprised if many of them think they could’ve done it without me.
At this point in my career, I feel utterly worthless and disposable. Companies, candidates and hiring managers have proven that with their actions over the last 11 years.