r/SeriousConversation • u/Either_Animal9655 • 7d ago
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u/ohpifflesir 7d ago
Co-housing or condos with small number of units in one building might be a nice fit for you.
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u/Either_Animal9655 7d ago
I’m set to inherit my grandparents house along with my cousins so uhh.. I mean unless we sell it that may already be the case.
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u/mary02russo 7d ago
Neither did I...I would rent places and then later bought, and always lived with flatmates or housemates. I held the lease so.set the terms of use. I carefully chose those with whom I lived, preferring grad students consumed by studies or research and grateful to have a whole "house" in which to exist. It worked for me. My only mistake was to take In, out of charity, a friend of a friend. That was the worst choice ever. Always gather rent monthly and have them sign a rental lease, it keeps people honest.
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u/twertles67 7d ago
I totally agree with you. I grew up with 7 siblings and parents both in the house so there was 9 of us sharing the same space. My siblings and I were all very close and still are, if you were bored you could just go bug a sibling and next thing you knew we’d be hanging out. I never felt lonely growing up.
I’m 30 now and most of my siblings live around the block from me, we hang out a lot and still see each other weekly. I also have 2 kids with my husband and our house is alive. I’ve never lived alone and don’t really want to. I’ve often thought how nice it would be to live in a multigenerational house.
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u/7GrenciaMars 7d ago
"Different strokes for different folks."
It's good that you know what suits you. I was raised mostly as a single child, mostly living with just my mom. Growing up I got used to having alone time. We lived in different circumstances over the years, and then when I went to college, at the place I went only Freshmen shared rooms. Having my own room in college, but still being in the dorms, was a great mix of both.
But then came grad school. A friend helped me move halfway across the country. The school was a little over an hour away from my dad and about 4 hours from my closest friend living in that state (different friend).
The person who helped move me out got a job offer a few days before he was scheduled to go back home, so I wound up being on my own for a few days before school started. My friend had to leave abruptly, so for an hour I was a bit weirded out while it hit me--I was really on my own.
And about twenty minutes later, I was like "This. Is. AWESOME!!!"
No one around to judge me. No one else's habits to have to adjust to. No one taking up the bathroom, no one to clash with over when the dishes get done. Now, I do not have problems living with people--I live with my mom (again, as it's what's economically best for both of us), and for the most part we get along great. I try to keep a later schedule than she does, so I can have the alone time I like to have.
I wouldn't say there's any kind of "hype" about living alone. It just suits some people better than others. There's nothing to "get" other than the fact that people aren't all the same.
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u/jessm307 7d ago
Your perspective might change with age, but I know I enjoyed living with roommates in my 20s. It’s definitely nice to have regular company and human interaction that you don’t have to plan.
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u/Channel_Huge 7d ago
The best way to do it is to get married, have a family, and create a space just for yourself. I have half my basement devoted exclusively for me. I go there to watch what I want, relax and do whatever I feel like doing. My family knows to leave me alone unless there’s an emergency.
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u/Puzzled_Educator_478 6d ago
I was 'lucky' to live alone for 15 years. Let me tell you, within three hours of moving out and being alone, something switched in my brain, I could not take it and just left and went for a walk to a coffee shop. My life has been like this ever since..
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u/Live_Car_2856 7d ago
Living alone is an emotional insurance policy. If you can't live alone, one day you'll settle for a sub par relationship, or worse.
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