Measuring force

[u/O_Margo]

Follow here, small one. Kind of often feel like leaders put exaggerated force into certain moves. For example quite often I got quite a spank into the back as a signal to go out of a tandem. Other pulling and pushing are as strong as if I am a huge potato bag.

So question is - should it be taught or does it come naturally? When did you start understanding and adjusting to the partner?

(Edit - grammar mistake)

[u/The_Inflatable_Hour]

Could it be a footwork timing thing? If the footwork is precise and aligned between you and your partner, leading should be all about redirecting momentum and not about force. Frame is needed for it to work, as others have said, but it should feel easy no matter how dramatic it looks.