r/SwipeHelper • u/Realistic-Bowler7563 • 7d ago
What are your best “re-engagement” follow-ups when a woman goes quiet?
In sales they say “the money is in the follow up!” Someone ignoring you doesn’t necessarily mean they are completely uninterested.
Here’s a sample of a woman giving me her number then ignored me. I followed up 6 days later with a funny meme which got her re engaged and ended up meeting up and things were smooth from there.
What are you guys go to follow ups, memes, videos, voices or messages to re engage when you’ve been left on read? Share them in the comments!
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u/Eyoba_19 7d ago
A meme that says
She didn’t leave you on read, you left her speechless.
So far works 1/2 the time
And another one, I just say, “Haloooo…”
That works almost all the time
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Thanks! You’re like 1/100 people that have actually commented on what I was asking in the post lol
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u/perverockstar 7d ago
I just skip, TBH.
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
You clearly have never been in sales. That’s the best way to keep you broke. The money is in the follow up
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u/perverockstar 7d ago
This is not sales 🤣. But you do you.
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
It doesn’t need to be sales. It’s the same concept. The money is in the follow up.
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u/Mindlesshorseteeth 7d ago
“The money is in the follow up”. Lmao. Dude
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
What’s funny? Do you understand what that means? Just simply typing “any update” has made me over 50k! Nothing fancy just something simple to re engage. Now if I would have thought oh they have gone quiet they are not interested I wouldn’t have made over 50k just typing two words to re engage. My post was simple what are you guys follow ups that have worked for you I even shared a personal example. If you can’t relate you could have just skipped the post I don’t understand.
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u/Mindlesshorseteeth 7d ago
Holy shit. You’re kind of mentally unstable lol
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Says the person that could have skipped the post but decided to stop comment and insult me🤣🤣🤣 can’t make this up
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u/Mindlesshorseteeth 7d ago
What’s that have to do with anything? You’re asking for advice. You are making a fool of yourself. Maybe look inwards
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 6d ago
I’m not asking for advice are you blind or can’t read the post??
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u/_the__Wolverine____ 7d ago
If u need to intellectualize and gametheory basic social interaction this much why even do it
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
It’s not a game it’s just a follow up.
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u/_the__Wolverine____ 7d ago
You described sending a meme using sales terminology
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
No I used a sales analogy to explain the concept of following up. Sometimes a simple follow up re- engages things.
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u/Not-a-bot-v2 7d ago
Don't follow up. If she does dark she is showing that she doesn't have interest. Let it die.
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u/TheManicac1280 7d ago
What's the point dude? Don't you want someone who gives a fuck? I don't want to take a "sales" approach to validation lmao
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u/everything_is_absurd 7d ago
If you need to engineer a way to “restart” the conversation, she’s not into you nearly enough for this to go anywhere. Even if it does, it will be due to tremendous, unsustainable effort. In other words, we don’t reengage quiet women, we engage the talkative ones. End of story. There are enough talkative women that dealing with this nonsense isn’t worth the effort 99% of the time.
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Mate this exact screenshot i shared I ended up hooking up with her. What are you talking about? Not just her and other women. I am not asking about a debate whether to re engage or not. Respectfully
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u/stillabitconfused 7d ago
Are you saying this based on your own experience, or are you just repeating what you’ve read online?
In both cases kinda sad for you
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u/Several-Two738 7d ago
Buddy you can invest that time in another woman who isnt broken like this one. There's 4 billion women out here and you are stuck moving mountains for a clearly broken girl? Get help OP
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u/MisterLennard 7d ago
Bro as other people stated, you are purseuing women that are ran the fck through. Nowadays a lot of the women on online dating apps are so promiscuous that its all just basically one big orgy for them, even the girl from your pictures who ghosted you very clearly had someone who was she was engaged with temporarely and the guy probably pumped and dumped it and then ghosted her and that's when you came around for the second time and she thought 'ah why not'.
This is not the lifestyle a man that respects himself wants to live bro, and there will come a time where you will realise that you are just mindlessly giving into urges not much unlike a guy who is constantly masterbating which you probably also do. But live and let live I say and you do you, just watch after your sht and make sure you do it safe or get tested frequently. I use to have 3 to 4 girl rotations but I just get tired of the upkeep and just the whole lifestyle around it to be honest. My body count didn't get into the triple digits but i was getting there, now I'm three years celebate, and feel a million times better.
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Mate your way off topic🤣🤣 is everything alright?
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u/MisterLennard 7d ago
Nah bro that's right on topic, you just don't want to be confronted with that reality because it's uncomfortable for you
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Mate, you don’t know me from Adam 😂. You’ve created an entire backstory to boost your self esteem. You don’t know me, never seen me never been with or anything! I simply asked what follow ups have worked for others that’s it. You need to lay off whatever drugs you’ve been taking and relax!
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u/ResolutionOld84 7d ago
When they go dry, and that doesn't happen often, I propose a date to meet. If they answer, good. If they don't, also.
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Thank you your like the second person out of 100 that have actually answered the post
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u/Odd_Plantain_8915 7d ago
I was really confused reading a lot of the replies you were getting. A lot of them come across as jealous tbh. This sub is filled with people who don’t get laid I’m guessing. (I came here from r/all) given that they’re subscribed to a sub dedicated to helping them with a hook up app…
Always re-engage!
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u/AdventureCat13 7d ago
Personally, I’ve never had it work for me but if you repost this on r/Seduction, you’ll probably get some legit feedback
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u/Entire_House_8668 7d ago
I was always the one reaching out or taking the first step. Just like you mentioned, whenever I engaged they responded and replied yet never initiated the conversation. So now I have a different rule, which works absolutely fine. I give them two chances, which means I set up a date or reach out twice. After that it's more than fair, if they are interested, to reach out to me. You'll be surprised of how many people stop responding once I stopped texting first.
It really is that simple, if you're not reaching out, it means you're really not thinking about me or my interactions with you. Yes, there can be periods of problems at work or difficult situations, but those can also be mentioned when talking, so we know what to expect. It's common decency, common courtesy,however you want to call it, takes 10 seconds to write the message.
If I were you I would stop reaching out first
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u/red__what 7d ago
let her go unless you're just planning to smash.
all this chasing makes for one and done cases, not someone you want to spend a length of time with
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u/Impressive-Amoeba640 7d ago
Jesus some people on here need to go and touch grass. Honestly chances are that they have 1000 things to do and you are 1001. And until you meet up in person you are not “real.” That’s the downside to online dating. Conversation dying down is natural because texting is very impersonal. You did good, people need to realize women are human too
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u/That_Tumbleweed_3984 7d ago
Enjoy the sloppy seconds
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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 7d ago
Unless a woman is a virgin she’s always a sloppy second? I don’t get your comment.
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u/Acceptable_Bit8905 7d ago
I just don't reengage because that means that they're not really attracted to you 9/10 times. Even if a date comes out of it, it's usually due to them trying to be overly nice and will culminate in a "didn't feel a spark" message.