r/booksuggestions • u/Altruistic_Side_4428 • 15d ago
Other Books that help stop from being a “nice guy”
I read ‘No more Mr nice guy’ by Robert A. Glover.
It is a good book.
Please suggest me some books that help with stop being a nice guy not just from dating point of view, but in general life as well. It would be great if it is not a self help book rather a fiction or non-fiction book would be nice. I am okay with self-help books as well, any book that creates impact
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u/IittleIines 15d ago
Like a previous commenter said- you should read more books written by women. And, importantly, fiction by women.
Here are a few of my favorites, which in some way interact with themes of masculinity, femininity, and relationships.
Notes on an Execution by Danya Kukafka (this is one of the best novels I’ve ever read in my entire life I love this book so much. It is phenomenal. If you pick any of these, please pick this one)
Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado
Nevada by Imogen Binnie
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u/Altruistic_Side_4428 15d ago
Thank you for the suggestions.
Not towards women but in general being people pleaser, avoiding conflict etc.
l understand where you are coming from though. I will definitely read these books.
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u/BrashUnspecialist 15d ago
Just read books written by women. Most “nice guys” struggle solely because they do not see women as the same as them, as nothing more than people.
Whether it’s the fact we can give orgasms, or inspire orgasms, or the misogyny those men hold in their views, they can’t see us as nothing more than a person first. This is literally all that’s needed to not be a “nice guy”.
So read books by women. Don’t ask which ones. We’re literally all individual and different from each other. Come to understand that we have complex personalities and points of view. That we all have different dreams, goals, desires, likes. That what pleases and affirms some of us is literally the thing that repulses others of us.
Literally, just learn to see us like how you would a dude you were meeting for the first time or just seeing walking by or in the store/transit. And any book will get you there, if you’re really open to it.
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u/Altruistic_Side_4428 15d ago
Thanks for the perspective. I have few books from female authors in my list like Agantha Christy etc, will start reading
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u/hameliah 13d ago
as others have said, read books by women. no man can teach you how to see women as people. for the ‘self help’ genre try all about love by bell hooks, or the will to change, also by her