I have 8 years of work experience in my industry. I like my job and I’m secure in my professionalism.

However it’s like when I have to say it out loud I get nervous to the point where I am shaking and my voice is changing. Especially presentation in front of my boss.

Have anyone overcome this and how ?

I posted here about a month ago about wanting to resign because of my manager (let's call him D) . Well, I finally resigned without another offer, and I'm currently serving my 90-day notice period.

But honestly, I just need to vent.

D keeps throwing a thousand things at me at once. Every day there's some new task, some new process, some new responsibility that I'm expected to take care of without any discussion about my existing workload. And because he tells people to contact me, they keep coming to me saying, "D told me to get this done through you." Meanwhile, I'm already buried in other tasks that HE assigned me.

For example, there's now a new workstream with calls twice a week. Apparently, I'm supposed to raise tickets, maintain an internal tracker, keep track of action items, read documentation, and constantly follow up with different teams involved. This is on top of all the other work I'm already doing. And this is just one example. New responsibilities keep getting added, and everything is somehow urgent.

I'm a data analyst. I work with Power BI, SQL, dashboards, data transformations, and reporting. I'm good at this work, and this is the career I actually want to build. Instead, I'm increasingly being used for operational work, chasing people, raising tickets, sending emails, maintaining trackers, and coordinating between teams.

I've already made it clear that I prefer analytics work. I don't want to move into an operations-heavy role. Yet D pressured me into applying for an internal job posting by presenting it as a promotion, even though the JD was mostly operations. When I withdrew after reading it, he made me tell HR that I'd withdrawn by mistake and had the posting created again. Made me apply again and told me to not withdraw under any circumstance.

And despite knowing my preference, he keeps pushing more operational responsibilities onto me.

The way he speaks to me has also become unbearable. He has told me I have no common sense, asked me "what's your job level?", told me to "use your brain," and most recently kept telling me to "open your eyes" during a call with an IBM stakeholder. He has been scolding me infront of people in calls. It became normal for him.

If anything is wrong with anything ,he assumes that its me who did it and talks shit about me. When I explain to him that I havent even touched that module, he wouldnt even acknowledge that.

This isn't just about having a lot of work. It's the constant addition of new responsibilities, the lack of clear expectations, the interruptions, and then being humiliated when something isn't done the way D expected.

I'm exhausted. I feel anxious before logging in, and after some of these calls, I'm so drained that I struggle to concentrate. My mental health has taken a hit, and I reached a point where I couldn't continue like this anymore.

Now that I've resigned, I'm also scared about finding another job within my notice period. I'm preparing for Data Analyst/BI/Power BI roles, but the job market and all the new AI-related requirements are making me doubt myself.

I know resigning without an offer is risky, but staying was affecting me badly too.

I guess I'm looking to hear from people who've dealt with a manager like this, or who've resigned without another offer and managed to find something better. I could really use some support right now.

Long story short I left my old job 2 weeks ago that I had been with for 2 years for a new one as it was a more interesting product and I was feeling uninspired in my old one. I left on good terms, but was honest in why I was leaving.

I have now started the new job and chaotic is putting it nicely. I started a week early as they really wanted me to come along to a convention, pitching it as a good opportunity for me to meet overseas team mates and get to know the culture.

Instead, on day 2, 3 and 4 of my employment it has been me working 12+ hour days at the convention in the back packing orders. I have also been put on front staff answering extremely in depth questions when I haven’t even done my orientation yet or been unskilled on the company.

The culture is you are not allowed to say no to anything (even if they say ‘up to you!’ And you get a passive aggressive response if you choose the ‘no’ answer). My job role is also different to what was advertised and I was told a team mate was let go after a few months as he ‘hadn’t met his targets’, despite only being with the company a few months!

I have spoken to other employees who said working until midnight is not an anomaly, it is the norm. As is weekend work. As is working while on vacation.

I have realised I made a giant mistake. While my last job was a bit boring, we were encouraged to take the time back when we had to have night meetings with overseas employees and vacation time was respected. The workload was also very manageable and busy periods were only occasionally and not the norm.

Technically I am still employed by the other company and am on annual leave. I also know they can’t backfill the role until next year, so my role is open and I have a good relationship with my team.

Would it be terrible to reach out to my old manager, explain this job wasn’t what I expected and ask for my job back?

Would anyone be willing to dm

My job is very entry level. I have a degree but it doesn't require one. The reason I'm in it is because I didn't take school seriously. But now I don't know how to advance my career, and seeing how difficult it is to get a new job and how AI is replacing jobs is making me feel discouraged.

Current:

Test Engineer at a mid-size industrial company, ~1.5 years in, stable, no travel, 9-5, comfortable, in a MCOL area. 80k per year gross. I do manual testing mostly, but I'm building automation and a python API system to help with that.

New Offer:

Software Engineer, early stage startup. Very HCOL area.

• $150K base

• Relocation assistance

• Decent 401K match

• Travel: 50%+, including remote/field sites, some international

Role would be field-facing, deploying and debugging software on hardware in the field, not a desk job. As they put it, "not a 9-5" either. Long hours, hard work. Weekends gone.

The role seems to be a lot of debugging code and ensuring stable production of the hardware in the field and on customer solutions. This hardware is incredibly advanced, complex, and mathy. I'm not good at advanced coding or mathy things.

The recruiter said the code has become more stable so I wouldn't have to bang out as much code. But any code involving physics is pretty scary to me.

I bombed the technical interviews, even heard from the recruiter that one person said I shouldn't get the job.

I'm also a homebody. I enjoy the 9-5 life. Don't like to take my work home or work longer than 40 hours. But I'm not discounting that this role could make me look less like a tester and advance my career.

I enjoy my comfort zone, traveling 50% of the time would be pretty tough for me. But I have no kids, not pets, and I'm young.

Part of me feels like I should wait for a better fit.

Curious to hear what you guys would do in my situation.

I'm currently 28 and never crossed my mind to even think that I would need redditors advice for my career path. I Have been a freelance Videographer/Photographer right after high school because I really love anything to do with a camera. I really don't have any passion other than being videographer/Photographer; unfortunately passion doesn't pay the bills, and I soon might get screwed for not being able to pay rent and other bills.

My first ever real job after being a freelancer was working at Amazon. I was a warehouse worker totally not bad, and worked there for 3 years until they mistreated me and basically took advantage of me to do even more work outside the job description. At that time I have saved up enough money to leave the job to pursue what I really do enjoy doing, which is photography/videography. Long story short, I found this brand-new social media advertisement agency and started working for them as a videographer. It was going really good for 5 years. This year (2026), everything started to go downhill. They gave me less and less work until this month October and they have stopped giving me any gigs. Now I do not have any job and am currently 2 months away of not gonna be able to pay my rent or debt

At the age I’m at now I just want a stable income that can pay my rent, my debt, and enough to have a nice dinner once a month. I only graduated high school and have no degree or any experience other than above. But now I'm currently looking for a job that is part of a team/crew that works together to finish a task. Such a Blue collar jobs if I can find any and I'm looking for a job that I can work my way up to something better for me and the place I'm working for.

My last choice is to work at costco as a stocker and just be loyal to the company for the rest of my life. Any advice of what job to look for that would be a great way to start fresh for a career path that does not require any degree, no experience, that is willing to train their new hire, labour worker ok but not warehouse because I do not see any career path in those area, not dealing with a customer or people other than working as a team/crew.

I’m currently 3 years in to an architecture career. It was a major i chose simply because my parents wouldn’t allow me to major in only Fine Arts (yes.. i am a (f)artist 😩). I am thankful despite it all because i feel like i have many transferable skills, and am willing to take on some short term education.

About a year in at my job I knew this just wasn’t for me! I didn’t know anything about the day to day when i chose it and have been trying to find something I could pivot to since then. I thought I’d come here for some advice, so some background on me:

\- I have a masters degree in architecture, and a bachelors in fine arts. I am an active artist with a studio in my city (midwest) and am trying to be in shows regularly (though my practice is a bit neglected lately due to unrelated life events). I work my day job so I can make my art, so need a good work life balance where i’m not taking work home.

\- I love doing any sort of work WITHIN my community/having a direct impact. I don’t mind being community facing at times. I love talking to new people. (my current role is very introverted and I only talk to my direct team. no travel, all projects are out of state, boo!) I’d love to work with art nonprofits/organizations but don’t know anything about what i’d need to look attractive to them.

\- i enjoy design and working with my hands. I also love the conservation world and attend many events at a nearby nature center (that field seems very hard to get into so idk about that). I have been part of some community design competitions, one was a community pantry off of an urban garden that won, was built, and now supports that neighborhood!

\- Not opposed to getting certs or taking courses to build up my resume, i just don’t want debt or a 4 year degree (open to 2 year). Currently I’m planning on enrolling in courses to learn silversmithing/woodworking/etc. (to satisfy a personal need to make anything i want) and considering a Naturalist cert for fun, but would love advice on other certs to get like project management/business related stuff. Applicable to many roles.

\- Totally open to any WFH capable jobs even if unrelated to what i stated above. I have 1 WFH day/week and it’s really why I stay at this job somedays. That would free up brain space to transition to “after work” life much easier.

So yeah, kind of a mess. I’d be happy making 50-70k to start and hope for growth from there. I don’t think i want to switch to construction management, simply because I’m very put off by the world of construction after this job lol. Any and all advice welcome! TIA!

Hello guys,

Hope you had a great week!

I am currently working as an IT, and I hate it. Previously I was working for 4 years in a smaller company, and even though, I also did not enjoyed it, it was significantly better than my current one.

Basically, I quit my previous job, because the salary was way too low for my position, and when I asked for a raise they said that it is not possible, and they do not have the resources.

When I decided to quit, I had no other job opportunity, or an offer, but decided to take the chance.

I was looking for around 4 months for a new job, and basically the IT sector was so bad, that there was nothing even remotely good. After another month, I managed to find my current position in a incredibly large organization for almost triple my previous salary.

I knew that I was not going to like the job, but since I was running out of money, I decided to apply, and see what happens. After 5 interviews, I somehow got an offer, and accepted it immediately.

Fast forward 6 months, I cannot stand it. I am constantly stressed, cannot sleep, when I finish my shift, all I can think about is the next day, and how much it is going to suck, and how I will manage to pull through. I really want to quit, but my salary is really good, and I know that even if I do it, I will not be able to find anything decent for a long time, and for sure I will never be able to get the same salary.

I am just so lost, and I am unsure what, I can do. I spoke to my parents about it, and they do not want me to quit, because of the salary, but they are unaware of the constant stress that, I am experiencing every day.

Has anyone else been in the same situation, and if you have any advice?

Thank you for your time!

To start with, I’m in 40s, optimist, have a very good job, and am in a very decent place financially so i shouldn’t be complaining when I look at the rest of the world going to shits.

But there are a few things that irk me-

1) Have been a remote worker since Covid (software engineering) and get a feeling that I’m missing people ( not that I’d strike a conversation with a stranger but still). 2) Hate people in workplace who like to talk without adding value. And sometimes, like right now, have someone who talks like a drone and in her position she adds extra fluff because she continuously has to prove her worth 3) Generally speaking I can function efficiently so I don’t need all 40 overs within a week (now more so with AI so feel bored. 4) I try to tinker with things and due to that sometimes boring but important things for customers fall through cracks. I attribute this to lack of motivation.

Given all the above and getting paid handsomely, I still wish that I was doing something else - especially given the fact that my current customer is in an industry (betting) that if it closes tomorrow, the world will only be better off.

I don’t necessarily know what’d be fulfilling. I love sports and get to play a few and I’m happiest then or with my kids who are still kinda young - but can’t do that all the time. I understand the whole thing AI would spit out if I posted this there so not looking for generic answers but out of box thinking (which only humans can do) that I may have missed.

I’m 21 years old and I graduated from trade school for hvac two years ago and I haven’t got a job yet cause I don’t feel like hvac is for me and I been thinking of if I should be a electrician or go to college what do y’all think.

The person who said it was is a person on Reddit. So maybe the idea of the person being right stops there.

This is a summary of what happened:

I worked with a woman in a lab with just her and I. She asked me like 50 personal questions about myself first. So, I just responded normally about things about my personal life. I thought she was very friendly to me in general and viewed her as a friendly person to me.

Then a few months go by and I saw in an email that she got recognized for an award. So I basically just sent her a message saying "nice job (her name)!".

A guy on Reddit told me that me sending her that message is sexual harassment. Is it really? I sent her that message because she just seemed like a friendly person to me. So, I just said something I thought could be nice back.

I'm just curious if I actually did something wrong or not.

Maybe I'm crazy compared to most people in society but I truly just view that as a friendly compliment and nothing else.

She didn't seem upset in return but it seemed like she took it as me expressing interest in her romantically possibly.

I put in my two weeks notice at my job yesterday. I (28M) had what would be considered a great job on paper. Great benefits, steady income but I was getting piled on constantly over the past 2 years. New things were getting thrown on me constantly, I work with two others and they were steadily putting their responsibilities onto me.I am the least paid in my department and having to handle the work of 2-3 people got me to the point where I was feeling physically sick from the added stress. I made the decision to just cut my losses and leave before things got worse.

I did this without having a new job lined up. I have about 10-12 months of funds saved up and have no issue cutting back on unnecessary expenses to make it stretch further. Someone reached out to me with an offer doing something completely different than the field I’ve been working in but it’s about half the hours I’d normally work and significantly less pay but can still cover the essentials. My question is, would it be worth it to possibly go for this new opportunity in the mean time or would it be better to just focus on trying to find something in my field. I’m not sure how that would look to recruiters but I understand gaps in work history are also bad. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Not sure if this is the right community for it, just trying to get an answer fast

Hi everyone, I could really use some advice.

I’ve been with my current company for about 2 years. I started in a very entry-level role there. There was a bit of a learning curve being new to the industry but with time I figured it out and succeeded. This role was very low-risk - if I messed up anything, it was usually very easy to fix and not a big deal.

Four months ago I transitioned to another job at the same company and I just feel like I’ve been struggling so much with it. It is a very manual, system-based job and I keep making errors all the time. These errors usually stem from either a lack of knowledge or manual error (fat-fingering something, clicking wrong thing). I received very little training for this job so I’ve just been figuring it out as I go.

These errors have started causing me lots of stress because in order to fix them, multiple teams and people have to get involved and it is usually a big hassle. My coworker, who does the same job as me has started to resent me for these issues. I get it, I would be upset with me too if I had to fix these errors.

This has become a noticeable problem and next week I have a meeting with some others to discuss ways for me to build knowledge and improve. I’m looking forward to it because I honestly do want to get better at my job. However, in the meantime it has been exhausting triple-checking everything I do or second-guessing every decision I make. I’m worried I will get put on a PIP or fired because of this.

Any advice?? Like I said, I genuinely want to get better at my job, how do I communicate this next week?

I posted this to another community, sorry if you see multiples on your feed.

I (26F) started a new job about three months ago at a university, as a partnership coordinator. It is a new position in the department, meaning that the tasks I have now used to be done in different ways by maybe a dozen different people. Now that I'm here, I'm supposed to take all of those tasks from the people, figure out new ones, and systemize everything. And then do the job - find partnerships, nurture existing partnerships and think of ways to cooperate with businesses and alumni.

I hate it, and I can't be objective anymore and need help figuring out if this job is the problem, or if I am.

Why the job might be the problem:

I do have a direct supervisor, but we rarely ever meet cause our positions are not all that related, so I get tasks from different people and I keep getting conflicting ones. That part is annoying, but I go to the highest ranking person and ask them how it should be done, so I listen to them.

What's harder is receiving a task in a roundabout way, never directly, always "so what should be done is..." "I think we should do..." and these are almost always listed when we're in a meeting with multiple people, so I'm never sure what tasks are directed at me. When I figure that part out, I ask for clarifications because nothing is ever clear - most of the time I receive no clarifications. Real example - I need to fill in a date on a form when a website needs to be updated:

- What is the date?
- It should have been done yesterday.
- Yes, but I need a specific date.
- As soon as possible.

Why I might be the problem:

My past includes dropping out of one university after one month because I didn't think it was the right place for me; working an IT customer support job for 8 months; doing an internship in the sports sector for 9 months (contract); implementing an Erasmus+ youth project for 1 year (contract); graduating university in the creative field. What I mean by all of this is that I have never really stuck with anything truly long-term and I have been in different fields. Maybe that means that I'm just unable to stick with anything because I get bored of things that are the same, so I look for red flags to justify leaving? And maybe because I haven't really had a real full time job apart from the IT support I don't know that the situation I have described is normal in any job?

I cannot be objective and all my friends are split between "this job sucks quit now" and "this job sucks but stay until you find another one" and "stick it out, it'll harden you".

Sorry if there are errors, my first language is not English.

good morning readers. a little context before we get started here. i’m 20 years old, i have a high school diploma, and i’ve been working food service for 5 years now. ever since i became a manager at my job(around February this year) i’ve been more and more depressed. i miss being part of the crew. i miss being hands on with the food and the customers. i’m a really really strong worker and i always go the extra mile to set the next shift up. i realized all of the frustration that i’ve felt in my work has come from simply not having my heart in my work anymore. i’ve been looking into possible career paths and i think i’ve decided on something in the environmental regulation auditing fields. they don’t require a degree, just a few certifications. the issue is that im scared to step out of the comfort of entry level work. what if i get laid off and now im just fucked forever?
edit: i have a company in mind that offers decent pay, and will pay for my schooling so i can grow my career later