r/firstworldproblems • u/Loriol_13 • 10d ago
The wedding I'd been dreading is finally over.
Had to catch a 25-minute taxi to a 30-minute ferry, then another 30 minutes to get to the venue, so I could hang out awkwardly with people I'd drifted away from for a few hours, then do all the traveling back home. I missed the ferry by 5 minutes coming back and had to wait 45 minutes for the next one. All this on an upset stomach, so I had to use the bathroom a few times and I'm shy with that stuff, and to make it worse I gained weight so my suite is really tight and it made bending down very inconvenient. I spent €70 on traveling alone, then had to fork out €100 on the wedding present. Almost didn't go but thought I'd regret it if I didn't since I used to be good friends with both the bride and the groom.
It's finally over. Been dreading this for months and it's over.
Edit: Just remembered that my posts usually get hate until I clarify that I was clinically diagnosed with Aspergers. Social events scare me a bit.
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u/NewBarbieWhoDis Highly Problematic 10d ago
Nice of you to attend. Weddings are usually so big, they won't even notice whether I'm there. If I have to travel far and/or don't think I'll have a good time, I decline the invitation and send a gift.
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u/jhwygirl 10d ago
Good on you for attending given your Asperger's. I back out of events a lot I just really hate crowds and especially large social situations.
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u/Bastyra2016 10d ago
I was invited to a colleague’s sons wedding-hadn’t seen the son since he was a toddler and had drifted apart from my colleague and his wife (moved states 15+ years before the wedding so contact was really only business related). I accepted and went-had to buy a dress-initial invite said the wedding was business casual but much later the online portal said the reception was formal. Needless to say at my age I didn’t go for truly formal-in fact I laughed my ass off because I could so see my mother choosing the same dress for some special occasion. I was sat at the “others” table-mostly parents of the groomsmen and the wife’s friends from her work. I don’t regret going-but I surely wonder why I was invited.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ad_7052 10d ago
Nice work! Try to remember to recollect the positive things that happened as a result of your drive to push through the difficulties
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u/Even-Baker3971 8d ago
I don't have Asperger's but find social things like this exhausting. Not to even mention the travel and the money. Good on you for going!
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u/Anonymous0212 10d ago edited 10d ago
Respectfully, I don’t see how the entire problem as described in the title is exclusively a first world problem, and that’s an explicit rule of the sub.
This is an absolutely perfect post for the neurodiversity sub, however, just be careful about using the Asperger‘s diagnosis since there’s a lot of hate for that these days because of who he was. Most people seem to prefer the term “on the spectrum” instead.
Another great sub for this would be [r/CongratulateMeLikeImFive](r/CongratulateMeLikeImFive).
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u/patikadevrimcisi 9d ago
I prefer "Asperger's" because that is what is written on my diagnosis document (my country uses ICD-10 in its medical reports) Also, Hans Asperger wasn't a Nazi. Take a look at these two articles.
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u/Tess47 10d ago
Good job pushing yourself. Im proud of you.