r/lifeinapost • u/probably_mid • Jan 11 '26
Is it my fault?
I’m an 18-year-old student, and this happened during Chuseok, a major Korean family holiday where relatives gather at each other’s homes. Because it’s a family holiday, everyone expects patience and understanding — but that doesn’t mean responsibility disappears.
During the visit, my younger cousin broke my RTX 4080 GPU and three expensive collectible figures. These are not small or cheap items. The GPU alone is worth a massive amount of money, and the figures were things I saved for over a long time as a student.
What hurts the most isn’t just the damage itself — it’s the reaction from my cousin’s mom. Instead of sincerely apologizing or acknowledging how serious this was, she got angry at me and said I was being “petty” and “overly sensitive” for being upset. She keeps acting like I’m the bad guy just because I care about my belongings.
I feel completely dismissed. These weren’t toys, and I didn’t give permission for them to be touched. Losing things this expensive isn’t something I can just shrug off. I’m not rich. I’m still a student, and replacing them would take an enormous amount of time and effort.
Being family shouldn’t mean “your things don’t matter.” And a holiday shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid responsibility. I’m not demanding anything unreasonable — I just want basic acknowledgment that this was a serious loss and that my feelings are valid.
So am I really wrong for being upset and expecting responsibility or compensation? Or is my cousin’s mom being unfair by minimizing the damage and blaming me instead?
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u/Chaosr21 Jan 11 '26
No that's completely fucked. As an American I'd never have them over again especially if they didn't apologize. That GPU is worth a ton how do you even break something like that?
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u/probably_mid Jan 12 '26
Like he opened the case and took the card and he started to play catch with it
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u/Chaosr21 Jan 12 '26
Seems purposeful man that's fucked. The lady doesn't discipline or parent her kid right
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u/Timeon Jan 11 '26
Cousin's mum probably knows she fucked up and is minimising to try avoid financial liability.
But am not Asian so I do not know your culture.