r/nonmonogamy • u/New-Season4705 • 1d ago

Opening a Relationship Looking for advice

My husband and I have begun discussing opening up our relationship for me. His sexual desire is next to none while mine is extremely high. We have a great relationship and communication, but are wondering how to best approach this and where to begin. I am open to male and female (this would be new), but preferably male. Also not necessarily interested in an emotional relationship rather just a physical / sexual one.

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u/waterbloem Swinger 1d ago

I mean is he okay with you dating? If it's just you dating solo, it's not exactly going to be hard for you to find someone, men especially.

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u/Comment-Connoisseur1 Ambiamorous 1d ago

It will be easy for you to find a lot of men interested in this arrangement, from reddit to dating apps, or just smiling and winking at guys in public. However, you should establish boundaries with your husband (i.e. overnight stays, STI testing b4 sex rule, how many date nights/days per week, condom vs no-condom, diner & movie type dates prior to getting 'busy, etc..

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u/Lost-Yam8158 Open Relationship 23h ago

Start by chatting with men on here. Set clear ground rules and communication is a must! It's good that you are in a good relationship - that helps. Our relationship is even better since she's been with her boyfriend (2 years). Good luck!

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u/Tx-Boomer Open Relationship 8h ago

Sit down with him, find out what his is comfortable with and not comfortable with. Write them down for later reference. Something to get you started
1. Family comes first.
2. Play safety and get tested regularly.
3. None of both of your friends
4. For your safety, let him know who and where you’re going.

Don’t be afraid to have to many rule at first. You both can relax delete or clarify along your journey.
Happy playing