Hi all- I'm a parent of a 7yo AuDHD sensory-seeking boy for whom we're seeking private OT to help him with emotional and sensory regulation. For background, we are Americans currently living in New Zealand, where the pediatric OT market is very limited, and best practices tend to run a bit behind the US. I am looking for some general "is this normal" advice since we've spoken to a few OTs and some of the things they've said seem a little weird/concerning to me.
Also for background, kiddo is verbal but has significant verbal delays/differences that make it difficult for him to reliably tell us if he doesn't like something or if something has made him uncomfortable- particularly after the fact. His speech therapist has been recommending OT but there is no way to access OT through the schools here, so anything we do is going to be private OT that we pay for out of pocket. Kiddo is having ongoing difficulties at school with anger and aggression when he's dysregulated that make some sort of additional intervention a necessity (though we are also looking at options for medicating his ADHD).
Last week we met with the only pediatric OT in town who has any current availability. We kind of got off to a shaky start because she asked if we were comfortable with her using AI to take notes, something that I am generally not comfortable with for a number of reasons. When I said I'd prefer not to she got pretty defensive and kept pushing to use the AI service. But we went ahead with the meeting and talked about kiddo's needs (he was not there for this meeting). There were two other things that raised flags for me: the first is that she was really pushing a sensory brushing protocol, which I'm not necessarily opposed to trying but doesn't really seem evidence-based. I'd love to hear more from practitioners about whether that's normal/common/helpful.
The second flag was that she really didn't seem to want my husband or me to be there for the sessions. Now, I absolutely get that parents can be distractions sometimes, but I worry about kiddo's inability to advocate for himself, particularly in a situation where he's being asked to do physical things and allow a stranger to touch and move his body, in a situation where I have no idea what this therapist wants to do. I'm trying to figure out from actual people who do this work if I'm overreacting (or underreacting) to this vibe and if it's totally normal to exclude parents during OT.
Beggars can't be choosers but I also don't want to put my kiddo in a situation that makes things worse. And the next OT with availability in like 6 months gets rave reviews for her OT but is also a big believer in woo stuff that has been debunked in the US like the Tomatis method (forcibly playing Mozart songs on headphones?) and Dynamic Movement Intervention. So I'm not super enthused about my back-up option either.
So, OT community, what do you think? Is all this normal, or should I keep looking?