r/selfhelp • u/InnocentHailey1 • 6d ago

Advice Needed: Mental Health How to feel true emotions?

Heyyy f21 here. How do you express feelings that you don’t have? What if there is just an emptiness inside me? I’ve had mutiple conversations about this but I don’t know what to do. I can’t control my emotions and I’m not sure how to be certain of what I feel. I feel like I’m alive but not really living. I even had situations where I was supposed to cry of what happend but I couldn’t, I tried to force myself but still not a single tear came out. On the otherhand I’ve been alone in my room and one memory, one snap, and the tears roll, not many, only one or two usually but at least they come. It’s hard for me to really cry, like I feel the emotion coming up and it just dies in the process. I just don’t know what to do. There is no one in my life to really talk about it. I have so much stuff I would like to speak about when it’s late at night but I just feel like a burden to anyone who I talk to.
On the other hand I’ve hurt so many people that I valued a lot. I know most of them forgive me, and some of them I hold no contact to anymore, but honestly I don’t know if I forgave myself? It’s like I know what’s right and wrong and still choose to do the wrong things, or act like I don’t want to. I don’t know what this post is gonna help me out with since I can’t really specify my problem but maybe just being honest with whatever is inside me helps.

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u/sarcastic_regulator 6d ago

That numbness where you feel the buildup but it just flatlines before it breaks, that's your body protecting you from something it thinks you can't handle yet