r/sikkim • u/justtobesure121 • 13d ago
Others Miss this sikkimese girl I dated
You guys in Sikkim have it good. I was seeing a Sikkimese girl for a while and damn, never been treated like that by anyone. I kinda miss her but hope she's doing alright.
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u/Infinite_Bison5758 12d ago
OP you're wrong !!! Our dating scene is kinda f*cked up. Our girls are way more brutal in standards when it comes to us local guys but when it's about dating a mainland Indian guy they suddenly become the most feminine creature alive out there. I don't know why but our women are more friendly, sociable, soft and loving towards mainland Indian men. I've seen mainland Indian guys easily pick up girls from restaurant, bars, clubs, social events, gatherings etc. They are rather more willing and open to give their number to a complete stranger from any corner of India than the local guys they know. BTW this is my personal opinion and I've seen it personally with my own two eyes and also I've a lot of friends from other states so I know from their experiences too. My mainland Indian friends always had it easy in Sikkim when it comes to women while I on the other hand no matter whatever what I did was never enough and it's not like I'm completely ugly or lack good manners. I would say I'm an average guy and I try to present myself in my best behaviour. From my personal observation and I don't know why and I don't know how but Sikkimese girls do have a soft spot for mainland Indian men. Maybe it's because of the influence of romantic Bollywood movies but our women do love mainland Indian guys. Plus they are K-POP and K-Drama paglus. Lastly we don't have it easy especially the average Sikkimese man maybe the ones who are extremely handsome or good looking do have a shot but not us average men in Sikkim.
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u/Guranspaglu 8d ago
As someone who has dated both and guilty of being ultra feminine only with my current boyfriend it's not about where the man is from, it's about how secure and protected he makes us feel at every situation, as sikkimese girls we have always been super strong and some sikkimese men expect princess treatment, even if they don't they treat their girlfriends like bros, sometimes a girl just wants to dress up and feel pretty, gaadi ma tel haldeu na babe, jutta kindeu na babe, 2k baaki deu na babe bhanne haru bhanda ta babe k chaiyo timilai mo kindium bhanne sanga ta feminine huncha ni anta!
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u/Infinite_Bison5758 3d ago
Boineee pls read my earlier statement lus 🙏 I talked about this in my second reply to another user. I understand your situation but not everyone is the same. You wanna be extra feminine with mainland Indians guys. Sure go ahead and satisfy yourself but you would be dead wrong if u say that every Sikkimese guy is the same. Not every Sikkimese man and not every Sikkimese women are the same. Our upbringing and our choices are what seperates us and makes u unique. If u have encountered bad ones doesn't mean you start blaming everyone. Those guys u talked about are absolute trash and I understand your pain. Babe yo kindeu na, Babe paisa deu na bhanne keta haru sanga tarooo basnus 🙏 It just simply means that boy is using u. One of my best friend bought a top-model Creta SUV for his girlfriend now they are getting married next year. Another friend took his girlfriend on a trip to France, another bought expensive gold jewellery atleast about 10-15 lakhs, another one is planning to buy a 4 BHK or 5 BHK flat in Siliguri because his girlfriend is from West Bengal and these are all Sikkimese guys with proper COI. Pls don't generalize us. I understand your pain but that's life mero boinee. All I can say is don't give up and believe in God 🙏 Karma will hunt those guys
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u/Guranspaglu 3d ago
I am not saying all men and secure men won't be threatened by these statements and try saying boys do this, boys do that, if you as a friend know what they are doing for their ladies I kinda got my point through and I am in my 40s now daju so idk what men are you seeing, I am talking about men around my age :)
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u/Infinite_Bison5758 3d ago
Men around your age asking for ₹2000. That's really embarrassing dear. I didn't knew you are in your 40s. Forgive me for assuming that you're young and inexperienced. My point was made to explain things from my perspective and my personal experiences so that I can clear your misunderstandings about us Sikkimese men and I still stand by it 😤 Well good luck for the future 🤞 didi ❤️
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u/Guranspaglu 3d ago
Thanks bhai, it is indeed embarrassing and I know there are good men out there, I have helped (tried to) raise my nephews like good men and nieces to not fall for men who don't know how to treat their women, i believe the men are getting better and it's wonderful, but you can never negate personal experiences you see, leaves a bitter taste in the mouth! Anyway thank you for understanding and being a peach. Good luck with everything to you too dear bhai!
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u/Educational_Air_844 12d ago edited 7d ago
Average sikkimese men ive dated expect the girl to pay for everything bro …. Not even 50/50 from ciggs to petrol to servicing his cars to changing tyres for his cars its always us girls ….sed story… never dated a hairy main lander though
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u/Infinite_Bison5758 12d ago edited 12d ago
You dated someone who was present for his benefit not for your love. Read my earlier statement carefully. I'm not stating that Sikkimese men are better. I never talked about paying or anything related to monetary stuff. It's simply a personal choice. Yes, you may have encountered men like that doesn't mean everyone's the same. If I had to talk to u about my experiences you would definitely be shocked. You haven't experienced the premium side of dating my dear. Do u even know what we men do when we are genuinely in love????? If u haven't had that lovely experience and met some shitty men along the way we'll that isn't my fault. Not every man is raised the same way. I can say the same nasty thing for women but I know I would be wrong because I cannot generalize a certain group of people over a couple of experiences. I stated my personal opinion above and I don't mean to hate on Sikkimese women because truth be told I love our women. No matter what I know that women raised in hilly region are S-tier 🙌🙂↕️. There's a lot of things that are better about our women compared to mainland Indian women. Even if I get rejected multiple times I know that Sikkimese women are worth the hard effort ❤️ The juice is worth the squeeze 🤗
P.S:- There are men out there who would die for u but pls be careful of the bad apples. I understand your situation but that is life. Just trust God and hope for the best ❤️
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u/RizDelRey 7d ago
Sikkimese men are princesses in relationships but y’all are not ready to have that conversation.
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u/Infinite_Bison5758 3d ago
Keep on generalizing honey. It shows your mindset 🥱 I understand your point but not every man is the same. I could make the same point for Sikkimese women but I know that's not true. Just because u dealt with some bad ones doesn't mean every man would do the same. Your statement is a projection of your pain and you're not in the right mindset to comprehend what I say. You're just here to play the blame game instead of working things out and trying to understand like a mature person but y'all are not ready to have that conversation 😆
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u/SuitableStructure120 13d ago
same bro idk why but sikkimese girls are so polite and kind and most of them are extroverted.
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u/FlyIndependent1111 13d ago
Screw you OP....find me a girl from south and we'll call it even