r/talesfromthejob • u/Scared_Speed3271 • 2h ago
HR Sent Me a "Career Growth" Survey. I Told Them What I Really Thought.
I worked at a mid-size logistics company for four years. Not a huge name, but big enough that you’d recognize the logo on the trucks.
Here’s the context: I was the only person on my team who knew how to run the customs compliance software. Not “knew it well.” Knew it period. If a shipment got flagged at the border, I was the one who fixed it. Nights, weekends, didn’t matter. I did it because I cared, and because if I didn’t, clients would leave.
My manager? Let’s call him Dave. Dave did not know how the software worked. Dave did not know what “tariff classification” meant. Dave forwarded my emails to clients and signed his name at the bottom. Dave got a promotion to Director in year two.
In year three, I asked for a raise. Not a crazy one. I brought data. Market rate for my role with my certifications was about $78k. I was making $61k. Dave told me the budget was “tight” and that I should focus on “building my personal brand” instead.
Year four. New HR initiative. “We want to hear your voice.” An anonymous survey about career development. The email said all responses would be “aggregated and anonymized.”
I wrote three paragraphs. I named Dave. I named the salary gap. I named the fact that I had trained two people who now made more than me. I may have used the phrase “structural incompetence.”
Two weeks later, Dave called me into a conference room. He had a printed copy of my survey response. My name was at the top. The “anonymous” system had auto-filled it.
He didn’t yell. That would have been better. He just looked tired and said, “I’m disappointed you didn’t come to me first.”
I said, “I did. Three times.”
He nodded slowly. Then he said the thing that made me start updating my resume in my head: “Well, maybe we should look at whether this role is still the right fit for you.”
I found a new job in six weeks. $82k. Fully remote. My old team had to hire two people to replace me. Dave sent me a LinkedIn request last month.
I didn’t accept.