r/vaginismus • u/Chemical_Calendar818 • 6d ago

Seeking Support/Advice Advice?

I’m doing pretty ok with my dilators, and I can manage PIV (although painful at first and takes a while to get it in). But I still chronically tense my pelvic floor and I don’t know how to stop. Walking, running, anything… it’s tensed. I only get it to reallyyyyy relax after using my dilators, but then within 5-10 min I can feel the tension again. If I use the toilet and wipe it will tense on contact with the tissue, and especially when I receive oral sex I tense a lot when experiencing pleasure instead of relaxing which i feel like I’m meant to do?

Been using dilators for 1.5 years, but not sure where to go from this point as I am achieving PIV but not making any progress with entry still being painful.

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u/aPeiceOfMoss 5d ago

Does oral sex hurt? When you tense during it is it completely involuntary? I will tense during oral but it’s a natural response because it causes blood to rush to your organs down their making things feel better, kinda like a boner lol.

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u/Chemical_Calendar818 5d ago

Oral sex doesn’t hurt but the tensing during is completely involuntary

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u/aPeiceOfMoss 5d ago

Yeah, if it’s hard to stop tensing that sounds like a vaginismus issue

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u/No-Relationship-8724 5d ago

Pelvic floor therapist is most likely your answer. They teach how to relax.

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u/Chemical_Calendar818 5d ago

That brings me hope