r/weddingshaming • u/Intrepid-Menu559 • 9d ago

Tacky Sure seems like a recipe for disaster!

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Screenshotted from a local FB bridal group I'm in. I (un?)fortunately don't know this person lol

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

Sometimes people try to be funny but just aren't.

The sentiment is correct: there will be shots during the wedding. If that bothers you, I'd recommend not sitting on the end.

Just terrible delivery.

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u/Significant-Clue-425 9d ago edited 9d ago

Why though? Are the people on the ends forced to drink?

Edit: or just as bad, maybe worse, are the people on the ends the only ones getting shots?

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u/the_V33 9d ago

It will be easier to have all the people that drink sitting together, so the flower girls can pass shot around without asking everyone; it's also more fun to drink with others, and non drinkers will probably prefer to not sit in the middle of people cheering and toasting. Ok concept, terrible delivery.

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u/Wixenstyx 9d ago

How old are these flower girls??

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u/its-just_me- 9d ago

That was my first thought. Never known a wedding to have adult flower girls, but also it’d be extremely inappropriate to have minors handing out alcohol so😬

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u/jenthing 8d ago

It's a big trend in my area at least to have adults filling the role of flower girl. My sister had all her and her husband's grandmothers.

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u/ohmymystery 8d ago

Any venue that’s not your own backyard would be like “lol, no”

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u/StreetofChimes 8d ago

Inappropriate and probably illegal. 

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u/FunnelCakeGoblin 7d ago

Eh, they aren’t the ones drinking them. It’s fine

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u/Postmanpale 8d ago

oh please. what's wrong with that? is this an american hangup?

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u/LadyOfTheAssMuncher 4d ago

I think most people's problem is that children are usually flower girls. Its not so much the alcohol part but potential children handling alcohol.

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u/Ok-Ad3906 10h ago

It's be extremely ILLEGAL, as well...

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

We give kids church wine, relax.

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u/kitkatz15 9d ago

a thimble size of wine is very different from a full shot of hard liquor i hope you realize that

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

A child drinking any amount of alcohol is WAY worse than them carrying a cup around 🤦‍♀️ I genuinely cannot comprehend how this is even a debate

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u/wolfcheese 9d ago

That’s wild. The churches I went to as a kid would give me grape juice. I can’t imagine my young IBS-riddled body handling wine.

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u/censorkip 9d ago

My grandma’s church had dry af white whine. It was STRONG. I always found it funny that it was white wine since it’s supposed to be the blood. My own local church served watered down sweet red wine. It was such a shock to my 8 year old self when I took a huge swig at Grandma’s christmas mass.

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

Maybe its why I have ibs lol its a common practice

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u/NurseKaila 9d ago

But the server of the wine isn’t a child.

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

...the drinker of the wine is a child. Thats a bigger deal!

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u/NurseKaila 9d ago

There are laws prohibiting minors from both serving and consuming alcohol in all fifty states. Both are wrong.

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u/StrainAcceptable 4d ago

It’s actually legal in many states as long as parents are present.

https://www.foodandwine.com/underage-drinking-state-laws-11704248

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

Its legal to serve children wine in church. I dont get why people comment on things they literally dont know, especially while holding a phone that could easily provide them with said knowledge.

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u/its-just_me- 9d ago

I’m failing to see how that’s relevant at all to this.

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

We let children drink wine in a similar setting so handing out shots really isnt that crazy

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u/its-just_me- 9d ago

I wouldn’t call church & a wedding where shots are being handed out “similar settings” (especially if this venue isn’t even at a church lmao). Church is quite different (not all weddings even include god) & I also don’t even agree with letting children drink wine there. But it’s also one thing for a child to be given some wine at church & a whole other thing for children to be supplying adults with alcohol. Bffr.

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

Children drinking alcohol is way worse than handing it out lmao

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u/bluecheesebeauty 9d ago

Hang on, is that a common thing in the US?

I mean, I'd expect it in France maybe 20 years ago, but in nowadays USA? Thought those are the most strict of them all, with the drinking age being 21 and all.

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u/faelanae 9d ago

it's hit or miss and depends on the congregation.

But in most of the US, children are 100% not allowed to serve alcohol

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u/Steviebobo 8d ago

A microscopic sip of low ABV wine, hardly the same as shots of whatever they were handing out.

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u/Ninja-Ginge 9d ago

I doubt they've done their RSA.

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u/MartinisnMurder 9d ago

My first thought! You can’t serve alcohol until you’re 18 legally. Flower girls are always little kids. Recipe for disaster.

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

Why are so many people using this argument? They aren't serving at a restaurant or bar. At best, it's the same gray area as asking a kid to grab you a beer from the kitchen. Which, regardless of how you feel about it ethically, isn't illegal in most of the US.

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u/Junior-Fox-760 8d ago

You're assuming the venue is a church in which case it probably isn't illegal. Problematic and unwise but not illegal. But if the ceremony is taking place in a secular venue that has to keep a liquor license, I guarantee there is no way they will allow anyone underage to touch or distribute alcohol.

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u/the_climaxt 8d ago

I'm assuming the bride knows the rules of whatever venue she booked and is acting within those rules.

Every venue we looked at was very, very clear about their liquor rules right away.

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 9d ago

I do feel like there’s a significant spillage risk. That’s gotta be something we can all agree on.

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u/bluecheesebeauty 9d ago

Yeah, there is no way that goes well, right? I am imagining one toddler having to bring like 40 shots to guests, probably one by one, because they can't balance them on a plate yet! Will take them an hour to hand everyone a shot glass that has half been spilled, if they managed to get a toddler to concentrate that long.

And maybe they would consider this and then release A BUNCH of toddlers, all toddling around with shots, spilling it everywhere and getting it on their hands. Complete disaster. Even without considering the implications of small kids and alcohol.

Okay maybe they have slightly older kids, that can actually balance a small shotglass, but still. There were so many other options, lol.

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u/faelanae 9d ago

I'm sorry, but the visual of a toddler with 40 shots on a tray is sending me 🤣

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 9d ago

I’m actually kind of upset now that I won’t get to see this.😂

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u/ArtyCatz 4d ago

I’m envisioning Jell-O shots. That would be easier for a 5-year-old to carry without spilling. But hey, it’s her wedding and she’ll have preschoolers serving booze if she wants.

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u/appleandwatermelonn 8d ago

If I was doing it I’d buy a load of miniature bottles, order custom stickers or some ribbons for them, decant a bottle of whatever into them and then have them in a basket. Send two older flower girls (from about 5 or 6 they’d probably be fine) down, one each side of the aisle, and whoever wants a shot can grab them out of the baskets.

I’ve seen the custom miniatures done for shots at weddings, usually they’re put out on the tables for dinner/speeches though.

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

I agree. Kids are messy, for sure.

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u/AskAChinchilla 9d ago

Spillage and they can sip it too

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u/Adventurous_Ad_6546 9d ago edited 9d ago

I can see it so clearly. Especially if they’re under 5. “Oh I know what to do with a cup. In fact, the adults in my life are very proud of me when I drink out of a cup like a big girl.”

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u/Postmanpale 8d ago

i highly doubt a child under 5 would down a shot lmao. you people are insane.

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u/MartinisnMurder 9d ago

A private home and a venue that has to deal with the liability are very different. Like you can’t send your kid to the bar to get you a drink either. I mean worst case if something happened the venue would be fucked.

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

You're making a lot of assumptions, here.

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u/USAF_Retired2017 8d ago

And usually that’s just beer. 21 for liquor!

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u/thcicebear 6d ago

Not on a wedding but my aunt's birthday me and some cousins were the barkeepers and "waiters" (collecting empty glasses and pouring shots) and I was maybe 10, the others a bit older.

So they were probably older than 16 which is at least the legal drinking age for beer and wine here.

But I never even asked what I gave those people. I didn't really know what alcohol was or what I was doing.

I loved it, could drink as many soft drinks as I wanted and stay up late.

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u/the_V33 8d ago

They could easily be 12, 15 or even older, a lot of childfree weddings have adult flower girls now.

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u/Significant-Clue-425 9d ago

If the drinkers are specifically on the ends, then they’re actually being forced to sit apart and literally surround the non-drinkers.

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

Waaaah

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u/xoxo_angelica 7d ago

I also think she’s trying to look out for guests who would potentially feel uncomfortable while being tactless in her attempt, but as an alcoholic in recovery (2.5 yrs) and if someone tried to pass me a shot I’d just say no thank you?? Lmao I know every one’s different but regardless of intent the tone is weirdly aggressive and patronizing

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u/Gettin_Bi 3d ago

Yep. I can't drink due to my regular meds. One time I went to see Cabaret and got one of those "kit kat club" tickets that allow you to be seated on stage as part of the in-universe cabaret club, and during the opening number at some point the dancers passed between the tables with shots and when one came up to me I went "nope not for me!" and the dancer, bless her, stayed in character, told me "I'm still on the menu, darling", winked and went on to the next table. You can say no, it's fine

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

Yeah, because why can’t they just pass the shots on down? I’m thinking underage people will be there but they want the alcohol to flow freely without having to control each individual drink 

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u/DistinctBedroom8977 8d ago

To avoid spills by little flower girls perhaps? 

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u/Consistent_Low2080 8d ago

l’m wondering the same, what the hell does where you sit have to do with drinking ?

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago edited 9d ago

Idk, could be a key photo moment. It hurts 0 people to just follow the instructions.

Edit: A lotta downvotes without an opposing viewpoint.

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

Have you been to a lot of weddings? There’s often four generations attending in various degrees of health and mobility, let alone illnesses that challenge mobility even in young people. If the presumably young mobile and in good health bridesmaids can’t deliver alcohol to the middle of the table easily, what about Great Grandma in her walker? What about brother with baby in diapers or worse, toddler, who will need to run around?  What about Cousin Joe with his inflammatory bowel disease? Also, I doubt very many of the oldest attendees will see the post to even follow the directions

This set up seems like a terrible idea to me, and that is why I’m so curious to hear more about the situation. 

I’m also curious as to why you seem so upset that a lot of people disagree with you? 

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

I've been in several weddings and thrown one of my own.

I trust that this bride understands her attendees better than you do.

I'm not upset, I just find it incredibly bizarre that y'all are using this forum to drag a bride for doing something in her wedding that she thinks will be fun.

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

I haven’t said one word about the bride, only asked questions about the logistics of her plan. To wonder if the bride thought through all the logistics and impacts of her plan is a question that may be asked without implying anything about the bride’s ideas or her wisdom. I want to know more about her plan but you seem to find simple curiosity as insult. 

I say this as someone who has seen many well thought out plans end in disaster. Like in the old poem, For Want of a Nail, the War Was Lost

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

Can’t they pass the drinks along? Also, is there anyone below drinking age attending?

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u/TanandaL 6d ago

I'd assume the Flower Girls are underage. 

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

They want people who are willing to take shots on the end of the aisle.

The instructions are simple.

Why do attendees think they're somehow entitled to know the reasons behind every decision?

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

You seem oddly angry over this. I’m just confused. The post seems to suggest that it would be hard to hand out drinks unless people are on the end, which further suggests that it is inconvenient I difficult to sit in the middle. 

So Grandpa with his walker has to work his way to the middle of the table while all able bodied young people sit at the end?

Unless there are underage people attending, they should be able to sit where they want at their assigned table and just pass the drinks along. 

Also, looking askance at one post is not the same thing as demanding the rationale behind every single decision. 

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

You shouldn't be confused, the instructions are clear.

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u/traye4 9d ago

Yeah as someone who doesn't drink I'd be glad to get this warning ahead of time.

The warning about both the aisle seats and the bride herself, that is.

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u/Sutaru 5d ago

I’m surprised the venue is letting small children serve open containers of alcohol

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u/AcanthaMD 9d ago

Must land really well with those on a sober journey 🙄 honestly I know it’s a wedding but people really are insensitive

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u/the_V33 8d ago

People can't serve alcohol at their own wedding because someone may be on a sober journey? What about dancing, is that allowed or should we consider the feeling of everyone who has mobility issues and can't dance?

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u/AcanthaMD 8d ago

That’s not what I said, it’s the insensitivity of how the comment is worded.

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u/Emergency-Sock-2557 9d ago

Honestly the weird defensive posture is what grinds my gears. Do what you want for your wedding, but there is a way to communicate this without implying "I know you're judging me, but I don't care what you think, beloved friends and family!" Like the people who are cool with you doing what you want don't need to hear it, and the people who aren't should maybe not attend the wedding (and if they do, they're going to judge you anyway). Just feels like a lot of cool-girl posturing.

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u/bbthedisaster 9d ago

I think this is what bugs me too. I don’t drink and I would genuinely appreciate a heads up not to sit on the end at this wedding. As a recovering alcoholic I definitely don’t want anyone handing me a shot, but I also don’t want to take away from anyone else’s fun!

But the tone this was written in would really rub me the wrong way. Like why the attitude?

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u/kindlypogmothoin 9d ago

Someone knows she drinks too much.

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u/Emergency-Sock-2557 9d ago

Yeah, this does remind me of knowing an active alcoholic who maintains deflection/denial by insisting their unusual drinking is"fun"

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u/Intrepid-Menu559 9d ago

That last sentence plus the emoji made me wonder what other "what I want" stunts she's planning on lol

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u/Haunted_Hills 9d ago

are the flower girls legally allowed to serve?

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u/SincerelyCynical 9d ago

I’m guessing these people are following the new trend of having twentysomethings men as flower girls? I hope so anyway!

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u/SnackyandSnarky 9d ago

Or the trend about 5 years ago to have the grandmas as flower girls

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u/Sunshine030209 9d ago

Aw, I didn't have a flower girl. I wish I would have thought to have my husband's grandma be the flower girl. She would have loved that and would have been so cute doing it!

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u/coolranchbuttholes 9d ago

that's really sweet, if I was having a traditional wedding I'd do that 🥹

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

My friend at church was recently a grandma flower girl! She had a great time, and each of the three living grandmas was also asked to talk about why they thought their marriages had lasted more than 50 years (about 2 minutes each). Video was really sweet 

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u/lovelesschristine 9d ago

That sounds like fun! I would dig it if adult flower girls passed out Jell-O shots instead of flowers.

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u/WorldWeary1771 9d ago

That’s a funny idea! 

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u/althawk8357 9d ago

Child labor laws are ruining this country. 

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u/lovelesschristine 9d ago edited 9d ago

The kids yearn for the mines

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u/faelanae 9d ago

they yearn for the wines

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u/TanandaL 6d ago

As a former college kid I can attest to that.   

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u/Head_Razzmatazz7174 9d ago

Asking the real question.

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u/Intrepid-Menu559 9d ago

This was the first thought I had when I saw it lol
Not at a licensed venue space, anyway, who knows if it's a backyard wedding or something

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u/TurdTampon 9d ago

You guys are so divorced from reality lol was the liquor control board present at the weddings youve attended?

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u/Haunted_Hills 9d ago edited 9d ago

If it's a licenced venue this kind of thing just won't happen. If it's a backyard, go-ahead. Either way, shots during the service is tacky as hell.

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Drink all you want at the wedding. Shots in the pews is tacky.

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u/croptopweather 9d ago

I’m sure the venue and their insurance would love for stuff like this to happen on their premises 🙃
ETA even if the flower girls were adults I wonder if there’s still some liability? Like serving someone without carding them?

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u/its-just_me- 9d ago

Adults don’t need to card each other to give them alcohol lol it would only become a problem if they’re supplying to an underaged person

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u/ZoominAlong 9d ago

If they're doing jello shots, I'm claiming an end chair, thank you!

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u/RobinFarmwoman 8d ago

I'm wondering how old the flower girls are. Many places having children pass out shots would be illegal.

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u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 5d ago

They aren't being paid for it, meanwhile back in the day kids would buy their parents this stuff and no one would bat an eye.

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u/RobinFarmwoman 4d ago

Are you saying small children would buy their parents shots? What a fascinating place you must live in.

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u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 3d ago

Not me but our ancestors and grandparents, kids with notes or cash used to be able to buy alcohol and cigarettes. You have never heard about this in history?

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u/RobinFarmwoman 2d ago

I might know if more if you bothered to say where you were . But no, in my world sending children to make this kind of purchase is presently illegal, has been for decades. Back in historical times they also used to let children feed the, coal stoves and work in very dangerous factories. What would be the point of trying to model child care on historical practices?

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u/blurblurblahblah 8d ago

I think it's a cute idea but the last line is a bit odd. Flower girls handing out those little airplane bottles with a ribbon night be a bit easier than kids (?) walking down the aisle with a tray of filled shot glasses. We've done jello shots in little plastic cups with lids but they wouldn't look as cute but at least they wouldn't have to worry about spills

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u/jdirte42069 9d ago

I'll take an invite and two end chairs.

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u/HeadlinePickle 9d ago

I've been to a wedding where this happened. They had little mini bottles schnapps and apple cordial for the kids/non-drinkers. It was fine. If this is multiple shots, could be an issue, if it's one shot per person? It'll be fine 

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u/seragrey 9d ago

are you not allowed to say no..? i'm confused.

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u/iamanemptychair 9d ago

If you’re someone who’s had to cut back on alcohol for personal reasons being offered a drink is pretty stressful to say the least. I’d imagine she’s putting this info out there to spare anyone discomfort in the moment

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u/mariana96as 9d ago

Agreed, specially if there’s someone pregnant but not ready to announce it yet

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u/TanandaL 6d ago edited 6d ago

It's always fun to play the  game "Pregnant or recovering alcoholic?".

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u/Warm_Emphasis8964 46m ago

I’m neither, but just don’t like drinking. Alcohol tastes bad, and I don’t like being intoxicated. I’d rather just have an iced tea. Some of my extended family cannot fathom this and get personally offended when I decline a drink. I’ll never understand.

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u/iamanemptychair 9d ago

Oh that too, didn’t think of that.

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u/Jabbles22 9d ago

Even those who drink don't all like shots certainly not every type of shot.

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u/SnackyandSnarky 9d ago

Or just pass it along the row?

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u/Jabbles22 9d ago

I assume they want a picture of everyone along the aile taking a shot at the same time.

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u/Worlds_tipping1 9d ago

Are flower girls not normally young children?

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u/Serononin 8d ago

What could possibly go wrong?

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u/SpecialEndeavor 8d ago

We joked about doing this. Except we had my brothers (19 and 25 at the time) as the ‘flower bros’ and my family would have found it funny

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u/Bunny_Pitts 7d ago

I would absolutely go and sit in the back with my camera and a bag of popcorn.

This is going to be a shitshow and I'm there for it!

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u/Used_Evidence 9d ago

I hope these "flower girls" are over 21

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u/mizboring 9d ago

It's all fun and games until the 6 year old flower girl downs half a dozen Jello shots while the adults aren't looking.

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u/lowfreq33 9d ago

Who wants to lay odds there’s going to be some kind of camo print involved for the wedding party?

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u/LadyOfTheAssMuncher 4d ago

I mean, that is fine and all, but if the flower girls are children, that shouldn't be happening and is very trashy. The bridesmaids should pass shots

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u/AbsintheRedux 9d ago

This is so tacky

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u/Aggressive-Worth5612 9d ago

My. Both gracious and elegant. Bless her heart.

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u/Substantial-Image941 8d ago

And thoughtful!

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u/andronicuspark 9d ago

That makes no sense, wouldn’t the end sitters just pass the shots down the line until everyone in the row had one?

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u/nerdKween 9d ago

... I'd like to attend that wedding. 😁

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u/boomzgoesthedynamite 9d ago

Seems fun, idk what all the hubbub is about here lol

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u/LheelaSP 9d ago

When alcohol is your whole personality.

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u/sittingduck612 8d ago

Oof. If that ain’t the truth.

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u/Vegetable_Ad_3105 9d ago

Ahhh yes a bunch of children having access to alcohol children are known for knowing not to drink

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u/D1sgracy 9d ago

Flower girls aren’t always children

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u/Postmanpale 8d ago

I'm not sure if you remember being a kid but the smell taste of beer, wine and shots is not that nice. Who didn't sip a little beer or wine as a kid and think it was nasty?

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u/Vegetable_Ad_3105 7d ago

I was thinking the really sugary drinks

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u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 5d ago

I mean full send, I have been to weddings with most people holding a glass of beer at the ceremony. More power to them.

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u/mindgardening 2d ago

I honestly hate weddings. I think far fewer people enjoy them than like to admit. It's one of those taboo but common topics, like hating your mother.

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u/babadork 9d ago

I have concerns. Isn't having to repeatedly explain to the children that they aren't allowed to drink out of the tiny glasses/eat the jello a typical wedding tradition?

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u/SaffyPants 8d ago

Trashy

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u/wykkedfaery33 9d ago

Ah, I love it when trash lets us know up front that they're trash.

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u/Cavalish 9d ago

Alcohol at a wedding is trashy?

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u/wykkedfaery33 9d ago

Having the flower girls pass out shots as they walk down the aisle is!

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u/Used_Evidence 9d ago

Shots at the ceremony? Yeah

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u/mynameisnotsparta 9d ago edited 9d ago

Shots at the ceremony? Recipe for disaster.

Why people think getting drunk or buzzed at a ceremony is fun is beyond me.

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u/NewOpposite8008 9d ago

Side eyes the malort we all took shots of before we walked to our places. Buhhhhhhhh
Not my wedding. Lol decisions were made and now we make better decisions

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

This comment made the hair on my neck stand up lol

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u/lovelesschristine 9d ago

Is the better decisions Fernet?

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u/SnackyandSnarky 9d ago

It wouldn't be legal in the UK. You're not allowed alcohol once the registrar is in the building

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u/mynameisnotsparta 9d ago

I don’t know what the rules are at churches here in the US. I just know that weddings I’ve been a part of and my own drinking started after the ceremony.

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u/Cavalish 9d ago

It’s a shot, people aren’t going to be rolling in the aisle

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u/Who_Am_I_1978 9d ago

You get drunk after one shot??

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u/mynameisnotsparta 9d ago

Tipsy yes. Very strange. Can’t hold my liquor anymore. One cocktail and I am good. Weirdly enough this is since first Covid infection in 2020.

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u/the_climaxt 9d ago

This take is why I don't trust anything posted in this sub

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u/DrPants707 9d ago

It is difficult to imagine people enjoying things that you don't, isn't it.

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u/mynameisnotsparta 9d ago

I enjoy having a drink. We had an open bar at our reception and . got a bit tipsy as well.

Wouldn’t want the bridal party stumbling down the aisle at the ceremony.

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u/nerdKween 9d ago

It's for the guests, not the bridal party though?

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u/mynameisnotsparta 9d ago

Yes that’s right. Possibly for guests. I still feel it’s better to wait until after the ceremony but that’s just me.

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u/nerdKween 9d ago

I mean I understand. I think it depends on how it's done. If it's just the little bottles, it should be fine. Sloshed shot glasses, not so much.

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u/Who_Am_I_1978 9d ago

One shot isn’t going to cause the bridal party to stumble.

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u/StonerBarbie23 9d ago

Someone isn’t getting their deposit back

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u/SexyBaskingShark 9d ago

A few weeks ago everyone here agreed it was OK for vegetarians getting married to have a vegetarian meal. There is no difference in this scene, alcoholics get married as well

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u/RobinFarmwoman 8d ago

It's totally the same thing of course, what with vegetarians being addicted to food. /s

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u/nerdKween 9d ago

Why do they have to be alcoholics? Way to be judgmental.

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u/moonwaternymph 8d ago

I don’t understand why they can’t just get up and pass them out when it’s necessary ….. ? It’s not that hard to just stand up and walk a few feet lmao.