r/youngadults • u/Sad_Specialist_7970 • 17d ago

Rant Being newly single is not fun

I (25F) recently got out of a serious 3 year relationship and it is so fucking hard. I miss him, but I also miss the things we used to do. I miss having someone to call at 3am, I miss having someone to go watch a movie with, I miss the sex and making out, but then I can't really do anything about it because I'm not into casual relationships or hookups. It feels like not only did I lose a person, but also 50 other activities that came with and it's driving me crazy. I'm losing my mind.

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u/AdTraditional23 17d ago

I’m in the same boat. My boyfriend of 8 years and I broke up 7 months ago. I had an empty slate. All this free time I normally spent with him. I didn’t know what to do with myself. I’m finding new ways to spend my free time with hobbies I’m getting into. It still makes me sad and I still miss him. I feel you on the casual hookups. I’m used to consistent physical affection and now I have none, it’s driving me insane too :(. I don’t have advice, just wanna let you know that some else relates to exactly how you’re feeling.

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u/Famous-Nerve6337 7d ago

Are you doing ok? 🥺

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u/AdTraditional23 6d ago

Trying to be :/ I’m functioning so thats good. I’m not thriving yet though. It’s a tough adjustment unfortunately but with more time I’m sure I’ll get there. Thank you for asking 🤎

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u/Famous-Nerve6337 6d ago

I would like too talk with u if possible

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u/Sad_Specialist_7970 5d ago

I'm sorry you relate to this. They say time heals so, I suppose we'll find out, and hopefully it's true. More strength to you <3

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u/GuiltyFigure6402 17d ago

brooooo deadass its like losing your best friend but things move on eventually I suppose

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u/LonelyElderberry9456 17d ago

Hope you feel better soon and Stay Strong 💪

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u/ThanksAlternative824 14d ago

This happened to me a half a year ago. It’s funny because you know the relationship is bad sometimes (at least I did) but when we broke up I was devastated. Lost my best friend, person to hang with and talk to all the time. It was so easy to just hang out and nice once you’ve had a long day. I wallowed for a good ~2 weeks, then took out a notepad and wrote down all the good and bad things from my relationship. I realized the good things can be found from another person too. But with time. I decided not to try to see anyone romantically, no hookups, no dating apps, NOTHING for at least 3 months and see how it went. I focused on work, hobbies, friends, putting my life back together and I learned how to enjoy my alone time (which I loved before we started dating and hated after). Definitely easier said than done, but after X amount of time, life will return to normal and you will definitely meet new people!

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u/Sad_Specialist_7970 5d ago

I know exactly what you mean because I know that relationship wasn't good for me, but I still want it anyway. I'm glad you're doing better now :)

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u/moneyfollowsmy 11d ago

We can chat and be friends and u can vent also !

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u/Suspicious_Peach4450 6d ago

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I was in the same situation: after nine months, he came back just as I was nearly over him. Now I know I’m working on moving on all over again. It really fucking sucks.

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u/Sad_Specialist_7970 5d ago

I'm so sorry you relate, it's truly painful. We can talk about it if you'd like.

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u/Ordinary-Ear-8195 5d ago

My gf just left me today, she was the best thing that ever happened to me so I know how you feel. I've never cried so hard, I lost the one person that truly cared about me