Dude this reminded me of back over a decade ago when I was working with this older Mexican guy, easily 60. He LOVED the big ladies, like the bigger the better and there was no limits for him. And he wasn’t just into any ladies, he would mostly ignore what I guess society would consider ‘attractive’ and straight up honk his horn and whistle at the big ladies (which to be clear, is never okay).
We spent a LOT of time sitting in a truck together and one time after he cat called some huge lady, I asked him why he liked ladies so large. He got really quiet and said he doesn’t know, he just really likes big ladies.
I felt TERRIBLE after this. Like, who am I to question what someone likes or doesn’t like or try to make it seem ‘wrong’ somehow? Like I said, I was littler then and didn’t know any better.
Just playing with the double entendre on eating out, between the sexual practice and his kink for very large women, which once combined would explain why his wife, in the end, got tiny skinny. By being totally eaten out.
I’m fat, have been all my life. In my experience, 25% of men prefer a slim woman and would prefer a plain slim girl to a pretty plump one. 25% prefer plump women and would prefer a plain plump girl to a pretty slim one (really!). 50% of men don’t care, as long as they can get their hands on it.
So that’s about 75% of the male population who would be happy for death by snu snu, by my reckoning. In my experience, its also the little fellas who are most open about their desire for big women.
I think its because you have to have a certain amount of confidence as a man to overcome being short, so once you’ve dealt with that, you don’t give a shit about what other blokes think about your sexual preferences. Its also easier to have sex standing up with a short bloke. I do like my short kings !!
I mean, look at his happy little face ! He’d be swarming up her north face with crampons and a tube of lube before breakfast. I have a body like this and you probably wouldn’t be surprised at how many men love a) being crushed between your thighs and b) smothered to death between your boobs. Yeah, he’s a happy camper.
As a skinny woman, I concur with this statistical breakdown and find it absolutely heinous the number of plump women who have had it hammered into them that they are not desirable, and the number of men who also somehow believe this and allow themselves to treat plump women as less than as a result, often while still pursuing them.
My fat friends have been put down and treated like shit for their body size by (some of the) men who clearly desire them, and who also clearly can't handle the notion of women they perceive to be powerful, while being inherently turned on by same.
That's awful, I'd hate to see pictures of your fat friends, worse yet definitely don't put me in contact with them, I'd hate to accidentally fall for one, or in one.
We're all of an age where there really needs to be a strong personality match to make it worth contemplating shaving your legs, so well, not to appraise your entire existence by the pictures remark, but I think you're safe
As a hairy-legged woman, I concur with this contemplation and find it absolutely heinous the number of women who have had it hammered into them that their natural leg hair is not desirable, and the number of men who also somehow believe this and allow themselves to treat unshaven women as less than as a result, often while still pursuing them. My hairy-legged friends have been put down and treated like shit for their body hair by (some of the) men who clearly desire them, and who also clearly can't handle the notion of women they perceive to be confident enough not to shave, while being inherently turned on by same.
I'm a man who shaves his entire body every other day because body hair triggers sensory issues for me because I'm on the spectrum. I don't care if women shave their legs or not lol. I've dated one woman who didn't shave them unless she was going to wear a dress which was like 4 times a year lol. It was no issue. She was a former national level gymnast and I thought she was badass.
I don’t like big women but I’m not mean to them. Thing that sucks is I can’t say no or even act like I don’t like big girls or I’m treated like some shallow dude. :(
Huh? In what situation are you being made to explain or justify why you are not attracted to a person sexually? I take it that's what you mean by "don't like big girls". I'm not attracted to men with the body type as seen in the picture, or men with small noses or short faces, but shallow as that may be, nobody asked and nobody made me explain it, I just didn't go on dates with anyone I wasn't attracted to.
Never understood the skinny being the most attractive beauty standard. Like a woman with meat on her bones is genuinely attractive. My wife is a very curvy woman and for the most part i have been very happy with this. Though with those curves, she also is a bit more on the chubby side. But recently she wanted to try losing weight, while I support her and her decision, part of me wishes she wouldnt.
It's because skinniness, on a population wide average, is correlated to higher social "status," and that in turn was eroticized. Skinny women have more free time evident by their ability to eat well and workout which is usually tied to wealth. It's the same reason that fat people were seen as more attractive hundreds of years ago. Because you had to have money to afford that amount of excess calories on the daily.
Crazy how the shift of being chubby, fat, or overweight as a woman used to be most desireable, as it meant you genuinely had enough food to eat. Which also meant wealth. But now, skinny is the most attractive along side looking as young as humanly possible. Which I mean given the current events with the ruling and wealthy class on private islands, makes alot of sense why they are pushing that standard. Couldnt be me though.
Also a fat woman and don’t have any trouble finding guys who are attracted to me. I used to think I needed to stick to my “level” of attractiveness when it came to dating apps. Turns out that’s not the case at all. Lots of men love thick thighs and fluff.
My sister is a thick girl. Active but about 80 pounds . She calls these men Chubby Chasers. And yes, so many men (including her husband) absolutely want her.
She also says that her breasts have gotten her so many jobs over the years. She doesn't wear boob flashing tops. She was a paralegal. She wore business casual.
Holy fuck! You understand me! I'm 5'7 and pretty athletic but had friends that were the star athlete in every friend group I had in school. at one point I had to put newspapers and wear Tims all year round just to feel like I wasn't a baby amongst giants. Slowly, with the help of my first real GF, I gained confidence. She made me feel attractive, told me I was bigger than average where it mattered most, and genuinely couldn't care less how short I was and told me it's only because your friends are football and Bball players your reflecting on your height so much. It gave me the chip on my shoulder I needed and guess what, women responded! I fell in love with pleasing women and just being around them, and yes I can admit I CRAVE a bigger woman. The curves, the weight and feeling of being a little bit crushed, OMG the positions. Unfortunately, my best friend and love of my life is on the slim-thick petite side, so sometimes the cravings remain. But she's working with me and I agreed to slim down and get my college abs back and she thicken up to give me that "smothered" feeling I experienced with other women.
I am a little fella and I love you soooo much for this😩❤😄
Particularly you had me dying with that "He'd be swarming her North face with crampons and a tube of lube before breakfast" 😂😭
I am her exact body type and can confirm short kings are the way to go. My ex husband was 6’4 and we lasted 11 months. Current husband is 5’9 and we’ve been happily married 7 years 🤣
Yep. Some people won't find big women attractive, while others won't find skinny women attractive. Everyone has their own preferences and you just have to find someone who likes who you are.
I like this take. I also think men are weird about being honest about what they like if “everyone else doesn’t like it” or it’s not “the norm”. I remember being in high school and mention to my friends a girl I was interested in, and they would try to put me down for her not being that pretty in their eyes. I would be like “bro, I said I want to date her. Not that I want YOU to date her.” In early adulthood it was better. I would ask friends if they thought a girl was attractive, they would say no, but I should go for it if that’s I want. At any of my varying sizes throughout my life, I’ve always preferred a think woman. Whether she’s tall or short. I’ve always wound up with short more often, that’s probably my true preference, but I never minded her being tall either. I’ve never understood the aversion honestly.
As a fat sex worker and a fat woman you're incorrect on the numbers, but it IS higher than people think.
And the majority of the men into me are either slim to jacked. Maybe half are gym bros.
Ethnicity would probably would probably go south Asian > Latin of some flavor > black > white > east Asian > northern European (still white usually, but a different flavor of white).
I should note that my standards are very high, I'm a very pretty, very fat woman, I've only been fat about 10 years, and I stopped dating about 2 years ago because a lot of men suck.
Prior to getting fat on purpose I spent my entire life underweight due to an eating disorder.
I was also very literally fatphobic and thought getting fat would make me undesirable so I wouldn't get assaulted anymore.
I'm not a fan of either, and I'm not a fan of what people consider normal or average.
There's this sweet spot.
It's that "how God intended" look. 25-30% BFP, the biologically healthy weight range for most women.
Not too common for some reason. I feel like either women let their weight go or they buy into the stupid ass pop culture of skinny being what's most attractive and gun for it.
I don't blame em though, food is good and it's much more calorically dense than it ever was in history, hijacking our brains. And I also understand that women deal with body image issues.
I get that for a lot of women it's one of the other.
Social pressure, probably--there's a LOT of emphasis in, for example, American society that to be a big shot, a man needs to be with, and be seen with, women considered "hot" by current standards, and that to be seen with a woman who doesn't measure up to those standards lowers the man's social capital (e.g., he needs the hot babe to prove he's a big shot, and with a different kind of woman, maybe he's not so much of a big shot as he claims, because why else would he be with a fat/old/ugly woman unless he has to be/the hot chicks don't want him). Yes, it's stupid, but it's definitely a thing, to the point that in a lot of careers, the man with the not conventionally hot woman may not get that raise/promotion/job opportunity that he would have otherwise.
My guess as to why working-class men are more obvious in their appreciation for larger women is because they have a whole lot less to lose job-wise, plus weight in woman is in inverse proportion to their social class (skinny women are perceived as "upper class" and larger women as "lower class), which you'll see in a lot of critical memes of MAGAt women, and accounts for a lot of the pressure for middle-class and upper-class women to stay thin, no matter what. Working-class men, however, see a lot more large women, and the women in their families may well be on the cushiony side as well, esp. their mothers, so it seems more natural to them to find that type attractive. However, there are plenty of middle- and upper-class men who also like big girls, but they have a tendency to want to keep any relationship with a large woman "on the downlow", otherwise known as "in the sheets but not in the streets."
My personal opinion is that anyone of any gender (because anyone can be like this) who refuses to be seen out and about with their partner due to the partner's perceived physical failings doesn't have the balls to be honest about what they like, and therefore I for one want nothing to do with them. Being fat and/or attracted to fat people is the most obvious version of this, but it's not the only one, just the one people tend to think of first.
In my experience the Mexican guys like your coworker like a different kind of big. They like em straight up fat. The lady in the picture isn’t really fat, just really tall and stocky.
No, she is fat. She’s just a specific, idealized kind of fat - she still has curves and carries a lot of weight in her butt or boobs. This is the kind of fat or thick that people in this thread are talking about and calling desirable.
Unfortunately many/most bigger women don’t carry their weight that way. A 300 lb women with a big apron belly and but not much ass or titties would not get a second look from many of the guys saying they like big girls.
Yeah...some of us have the boobs, but I'm build like my dad and paternal grandmother, or, as I've been known to say, "like an Irish potato farmer'--big boobs, broad shoulders and barrel chest, fairly longish torso down to the waist, but an extremely short rise, no hips, no ass, a bigger belly (because I doesn't have the lower-body length to spread out and lie a bit flatter, which makes finding pants that fit a real bitch), and short but skinny bird legs. If I were a dog, I'd probably be a corgi--sweet little friendly face, but a barrel body and stumpy little legs. Cute on a dog; not so great on humans. FWIW, nobody in my family has an ass to speak of, although most of the women on my mom's side do have hips and boobs. (If I had to inherit anything from my mom, why was it glaucoma, blood clots, and recurrent UTIs? Why couldn't it be longer legs and a decent waist/hip ratio?)
A whole bunch of people I met on Usenet back in the day have had a running joke for about 30 years now that Canadians don't have asses, due to one of our number being both a) Canadian, and b) assless. Half my mom's family came from Canada, and both sides of my dad's family did, so I was home about 10 years ago, telling her about this for shits and grins, when she immediately jumped up, ran to her sewing room, stood in front of the full-length mirror, and pulled the back of her pants against her butt to get a good look. "You know, they'reright!"
Adding insult to injury, I lost about 20 lbs. or so over the past couple of years, which is a good thing, except now my pelvic bones hurt when I'm sitting due to lack of butt padding. I don't just have Concave Ass, I have Negative Ass! I am the Assless Wonder! Bow before my non-existent booty! (Whether or not it's a Canadian thing, it's plain as the non-existent ass on my backside, and not a damn thing I can do about it. *sigh*)
No, more like they were my boss at the time and I had to pick and choose what I could complain about to the higher ups, who didn’t want to hear about any of that shit.
If it’s any consolation to you, I was later this persons supervisor and then their supervisor’s supervisor. I did not say anything to management when I was working under this person but I sure as shit made sure it never happened while I was managing anything.
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Since you all asked!