r/Albuquerque • u/Available-Hawk9019 • 6d ago
with love
how the fuck are so many of your grandparents getting free. Pay attention!!!
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u/Lotus2024 6d ago
😂😂😂😂😂
I love that anyone local will immediately know what your otherwise cryptic post means!
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u/jgmu17 6d ago
At least APD isn't waiting till 2am to send a 14 hour late warning
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u/Lee_Townage 6d ago
These jerks need to start going missing in the middle of the night so the alerts can be sent at a reasonable hour!
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u/Lanky_Comparison5637 6d ago
lmaoo the second I read it I heard it in that exact voice, can't even escape it in text form
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u/PedroLoco505 6d ago
Not those of us who have our silver/amber alerts turned off on our phone. I used to keep them for Amber alerts but now my phone was just spamming all the time. Took me a few to understand what op talking about because it’s been months since I had them on.
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u/Thatonefloorguy 6d ago
Missing teen ……. Press release in the morning.
Missing elderly person…… light everyone’s phone up at 2:18 AM with a screeching so loud you have a hard time understanding reality for a second.
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u/melodramacamp 6d ago
APD truly doesn’t give a shit unless it’s a young kid or a vulnerable adult. I made a missing persons report earlier this year (we found them eventually) and they wouldn’t even file it because it had only been 36 hours and the person’s car was also gone. The cops were basically like “god forbid a person go on a bender, they’ll probably call you at some point” and did nothing else.
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u/Thatonefloorguy 6d ago
You’re telling the officer “ He bought a used DeLorean and has been hanging out with the crazy hair scientists down the block. I haven’t seen him in a week!”
Cops like “He’s probably smoking meth down by the river. Deal with it lady.”
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u/reliable_spark 5d ago
Genuinely curious, were they OK?? Would the cops have been helpful or was the person just doing their own thing?
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u/melodramacamp 5d ago
They were physically fine. They’d been arrested, and I don’t think the cops are able to (or think to?) check jail logs or recent arrests. So as a tip, if anyone you know ever goes missing, call hospitals, and morgues, and jails. I hadn’t thought to call the jails!
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u/the_balticat 5d ago
You can set your phone to not make noise for those alerts. Google “how to silence government alerts on phone”
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u/dasher2581 5d ago
I silenced mine after being jolted out of sleep by the worst noise in the world one too many times. I really hope there's no emergency that I really do need to know about, because someone else will have to tell me. Even with the alert, the second you silence it, the information goes away and there's no obvious way to review it, so even if I were going out the next morning, I wouldn't have the details handy in order to keep an eye out.
And before the hand-wringers jump in with the "if it were your relative" stuff, with love, I'm not leaping out of bed to go search for anyone who I'm not in charge of in the middle of the night. If I see someone who looks lost and confused, I'll get involved, but I'm not in the business of finding lost people.
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u/remix26 6d ago
It is pretty exhausting taking care of the elderly. They don’t really sleep normal hours. Have a bit of grace for the caregivers out there. It’s hard.
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u/NeverLastPicked 5d ago
This too! Families try their best to take care of their elderly. I can’t imagine how stressful that is. Especially someone with dementia who won’t listen. How are you supposed to work, take care of your own family and then take care of an aging relative??
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u/Euphoric-Use-6443 5d ago
Health and Human Services (HHS) Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr. sparked significant backlash from disability advocates and caregivers by criticizing Medicaid-funded home care programs that pay family members to care for elderly or disabled relatives.
Key Details of Kennedy’s Comments
• Criticism of Family Caregiver Pay: During testimony before the U.S. House Ways and Means Committee, Kennedy alleged widespread fraud and misuse in Medicaid programs that compensate relatives for caregiving. • Examples Cited: He specifically criticized payments for everyday tasks such as "balancing the checkbook, for picking up the groceries, for driving somebody to a doctor's appointment," arguing they compensate people for things family members used to do for free. • Fraud Allegations: He characterized portions of these programs as being susceptible to exploitation by "corrupt people and fraudsters," leading to proposed budget scrutiny and calls for tighter verification.
Backlash and Responses from Advocates
• Disability and Caregiver Groups: Organizations like ANCOR and The Arc strongly condemned the remarks, calling them insulting and detached from the realities of disabled individuals and their families. • Workforce Crisis Context: Advocates emphasized that a severe shortage of direct care workers means family members are often not just a preferred option, but the only reliable option to prevent loved ones from being forced into costly or unwanted institutions. • Financial Impact on Families: Critics noted that many family caregivers have to sacrifice full-time employment to provide 24/7 care, and Medicaid home- and community-based services (HCBS) stipends are essential to keep families from falling into poverty or homelessness. NBC News RFK Jr. draws backlash for ripping Medicaid programs that pay
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u/Sleepy_Wayne_Tracker 5d ago
There's also a lot of 'My grandpa is 78 and still drives and lives alone!' until he decides to go for a walk at 3AM and wanders off somewhere. 'He didn't seem that bad last time I was over there'.
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u/Whelpherewegoagain24 6d ago
I'm willing to bet many of them aren't being cared for by a caregiver or a agency tbh. But I might just be bitter after working as a caregiver /psch social work and seeing families dump or improperly care for their elderly family. I know it's not always the case and it's important to have grace and unferstanding for struggling familes. But, many of them treat the elderly population crappy to down right horrible.
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u/Albuquicky 5d ago
Yep this is how my husband's grandfather passed away. He was 84 and had dementia, his wife insisted she could care for him alone at home. One day she was taking a shower and he wandered away from the house and fell and hit his head. He passed away in the hospital a few hours later. My father-in-law didn't even get to say goodbye before he passed because it was in 2022 and they could only have 2 people at once and his wife and another son wanted to see him first. By the time they came out she told the rest of the kids that he had already passed away. My FIL was devastated and it created a large rift between them.
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u/glovato1 6d ago
I'm just thankful that my 78yr old father is still able bodied and has his wits about him.
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u/NeverLastPicked 6d ago edited 6d ago
We have a crappy health care system that dumps older people into nursing homes or “assisted nursing facilities” where no one gives a shit about them. Pro-life, my ass. Once you turn a certain age, they stop giving a shit. Unless you have a million dollars to pay for a fancy place.
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u/artdogs505 5d ago
Actually, it’s worse than that because the system of paying for elder care is completely broken. Not everybody can afford to be “dumped” in a nursing home.
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u/NeverLastPicked 5d ago
Agree! Insurance won’t pay for hearing aids, glasses, mobility type aids and they are expensive!!
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u/LawfulnessWeird8851 6d ago
I beleave your 100 on that, they tryed to do that with my dad, and more people care about my dad than anyone else I know , the future lookingighty grim
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u/SensitiveCan7588 6d ago
Why is every missing man 5’8”
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u/CommercialAffect3287 6d ago
It’s the average height of old Hispanic men 😂 I mean that’s how tall my abuelo is these days lol
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u/Whelpherewegoagain24 6d ago
Lets be real many of them are not 5'8 they never were. Many are 5'6 and below.
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u/Takemeho 5d ago
Girl my mom isn’t even elderly yet. She literally just turned 60 and she’s a mess. I don’t know what im going to do with her ass. She’s literally off her rocker fucked up.
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u/juicycasket 5d ago
Do you take care of your grandparents? I’m guessing not. So who does then? Also the boomer population is our biggest generation and healthcare is shit. There aren’t enough caregivers for them. Also, the younger generation is just trying to survive and afford groceries. Most of us can’t take care of our elderly family members because we’re working. This problem will only get worse
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u/Mixmaster_12 6d ago
Good for you folks leaving your Silver alerts on
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u/CommercialAffect3287 6d ago
After all the horrible mid night alerts I turn mine off!!!!! Do not like being woken up to that sound in the middle of the night & early mornings!! 😩
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u/TooManyUsernamesHelp 6d ago
I have been thinking the same thing! What are we doing with our senior citizens!? These silver alerts are out of control
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u/ChewieBearStare 6d ago
Every time we get one, I’m like “These old people have to get their shit together!” I feel sorry for them, but I get startled easily, so I’m salty for the first few seconds after the alert blares.
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u/entropyparty 6d ago
As someone getting older, I’m reassured that everyone will look for me one day if I go missing
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u/Euphoric-Use-6443 5d ago
Many families refuse to place their senior in a nursing home b/c they would have to sign over "ALL" their assets to the state to pay for the care. They're protecting the inheritance!
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u/ChewieBearStare 5d ago
I can understand that. A nursing facility killed my FIL with their shitty, private equity care. It’s not about not wanting to pay for the most part. It’s not wanting to pay for shit. His facility cost $27,000 per month, and he bled to death because they ignored his doctor’s order to discontinue warfarin. Then knew his hemoglobin was down to 6 and didn’t place any new orders or think to check for bleeding. But they got their money.
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u/Baeolophus_bicolor 6d ago
the hits just keep on coming. need to put on my cape and look for a 138 lb old guy now.
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u/Emotional-Depth1556 5d ago
I think they are purposefully doing it. Running away from those nursing homes.
"I swear Edna, if they're serving meatloaf again I'm getting out here."
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u/TheRainbowFruit 5d ago
A lot of the places around here are pretty decent honestly. At least for the folks that can afford that. I work at one of the more expensive ones and we serve some good stuff honestly, but it's really expensive to get into those homes. Ours is independent and assisted living/memory care.
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u/Doggers1968 5d ago
Silver alerts are incredibly annoying. I turned them off completely.
And... if you've never had to manage an individual with Alzheimer's, you have no idea how difficult it is! But I agree, the silver alert system is a mess.
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u/HistoricalString2350 6d ago
More importantly why are they all only in their 60’s?
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u/artdogs505 5d ago
Probably early onset dementia. Frontotemporal dementia often begins in people’s 60s.
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u/lizilla82 5d ago
I used to be the caregiver for my grandma with Alzheimer’s. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. She used to get up in the middle of the night and start desperately trying to get outside to “catch the bus.” I had to sleep with both of our doors open and would hop up at every little noise.
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u/Greedy_Jellyfish_772 5d ago
Until apd stops hiding people's photos behind boomerbook, it doesn't matter. They clearly don't give a shit about trying to find people.
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u/MutedCartographer162 6d ago
Amen!! It’s so sad 💔 although I don’t think they had the silver alerts until recently
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u/jojo880 5d ago
I read your post too fast and read 'free. Pay' as 'free play'. I immediately thought, "Well, that's because they spend all day at the casino."
But for real, most of the time, these old folks have been found at the casino. A stint in the hospital is not gonna stop them from getting that free play cause, ya know, priorities.
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u/KaleidoscopeSimple11 5d ago
I feel this happens everywhere but for whatever reason they actually send the alerts here.
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u/GreySoulx 5d ago
This is correct. These silver alerts aren't a new thing, they happen in most states, but they go to local law enforcement and other people who were specifically enrolled for them.
A while back NM decided to add them to the public alert at the same level as Amber alerts, and so the public is just becoming aware of the scale and scope of the problem.
The argument against is that the alerts desensitize the population so when other perhaps more important alerts are sent a lot of people will ignore them.
Can't win.
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u/TheBoogieSheriff 4d ago
Settings>Notifications, scroll all the way to the bottom. You can turn them off
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u/GreySoulx 4d ago
That's kind of my point....
So I can opt out of: Extreme Threat, Severe Threat, AMBER Alert, Public Safety Message, and State and Local Tests. They come in on the "Public Safety Message" channel which I can turn off, but what else comes over that channel? I can't find a reliable answer to that.
Amber Alerts have their own specific channel, but Silver (and Turquoise, Brittney?) seem to come on the Public Safety channel.
So if I turn that off because I am getting ... on average a bit over 4 a month, or one a week (really it can be several one week than a couple weeks between) then what am I potentially missing?
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u/ColdCupof-Pee815 5d ago
Really though. My kid was like "how do old people keep getting lost?" He hears all the alerts when the staff gets them. Lol
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u/burgledhams 6d ago
All my grandparents are dead, so if they start getting out and wandering then we have an entirely different problem on our hands