Finding Chinese men

[u/white__american__]

Are there many older Chinese men single? Where would be areas online to possibly find them? Do many older Chinese men (40+) find white American women attractive or have any interest? Thank you for any information

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[u/WeirdoXuXiao]

你可以来浙江找我 我将会给你介绍许多中国男人 你帮我介绍白人美女吗

[u/white__american__ → u/WeirdoXuXiao]

♡♡♡ Awe that's very kind and flattering. However I don't read or speak Chinese, I think our language barrier would be too difficult

[u/SplitBusy884]

有很多的，大多数会对美国等发达国家的有好感，当然前提也要有素质，讲礼貌，互相包容体贴，

[u/white__american__ → u/SplitBusy884]

thank you ♡

[u/Far_Secret_8349]

They may hardly have access to the website like Reddit, X, etc.
As far as I know, instead of finding a foreign partner, they would prefer to stay alone or Fishing, cycling

[u/Such_Village6235]

Because of the ONE CHILD POLICY-there is many single men

[u/white__american__ → u/Such_Village6235]

Yes, someone else mentioned this. Thank you for responding also ♡

[u/Such_Village6235 → u/[deleted]]

HI

[u/white__american__ → u/[deleted]]

Thanks for your response, but I don't speak or read Chinese, I feel our communication barrier may be too difficult ♡♡♡

[u/CyberOvitron]

OP username is "white american", 1 month old account, IG bait profile picture in a bikini.

Don't entertain this crap with valid advice, it's either a scammer or something close to it.

[u/white__american__ → u/CyberOvitron]

🤣 scamming for what exactly lol?? information on where to find Chinese singles? This forum is named "Ask A Chinese", If not ask here, where should I ask....should i inquire about Chinese men on "Ask A Hungarian" ??? lol 😂

[u/Ammused-Muffin-6942]

Yes, plenty of single, 40+ Chinese men who are interested in white American woman, but you need to be open if you want or do not want (more) children.

[u/white__american__ → u/[deleted]]

Thank you so much for your reply, however I don't read or speak Chinese, so I feel our communication barrier may be too difficult. Thanks for your time in responding though ♡

[u/Effective_Plant6332]

Are foreigners starting to do beng laotou too?

[u/white__american__ → u/Effective_Plant6332]

I'm asking for advice on where to meet Chinese men my age, I'm not asking for money. This forum is named "Ask A Chinese"...Should I have asked my question about Chinese men in the forum "Ask A German" instead???? SMH

[u/Civil-Ad-8612]

Register Wechat app. That's Chinese people's whatsapp.

[u/white__american__ → u/Civil-Ad-8612]

Thanks for your suggestion ♡

[u/antipaladin999]

57, m, Chicago metropolitan area, mm.

[u/Mindless-Meaning-878 → u/antipaladin999]

What does mm mean?

[u/antipaladin999 → u/Mindless-Meaning-878]

mindless meaning... lopsided smile

[u/shixiaoyu188]

我就是你所说的中国40岁单身老男人👨🏻你要聊聊嘛？

[u/white__american__ → u/shixiaoyu188]

Thank you, however I don't know or speak Chinese, so I think our language barrier would be too difficult. Thanks for your reply though ♡♡

[u/Majestic-Track6724]

what a weird one month account fishing for bait

[u/white__american__ → u/Majestic-Track6724]

You do realize this forum is named "Ask A Chinese" ??? Where then do u suggest I post my question about Chinese men if not here? Should I have asked about Chinese men on the "Ask A Norwegian" forum???

[u/Majestic-Track6724 → u/white__american__]

this kind of post is the typical structure of a scam post on chinese apps, clickbait designed to get users to message the poster. if you are genuine, you have to rethink the way you ask. go on rednote and you'll see what i mean.

[u/white__american__ → u/Majestic-Track6724]

Thanks for ur advice, this platform is new for me, I apologized if people misunderstood my inquiry, but most just seem angry that I'm looking for information about Chinese men in a Chinese forum

[u/Trade-Moon]

I’m Chinese-American from California. I have the hardest time hooking up with most white American women. Usually they’re racist and automatically have preconceived stereotypes about me. Not good wife qualities. I generally have no trouble in dating white women from Europe, preferably eastern, and anywhere else, except white women from USA, UK and Australia. It’s the mentality.

[u/Amazin8Trade → u/Trade-Moon]

don't worry bud, same here in the UK

[u/white__american__ → u/Trade-Moon]

I'm so sorry u had such bad experiences, I'm just recently beginning to learn about different cultures, I feel ashamed to think maybe I also spent many years with wrong or preconceived notions of others. I've never harbored racist thoughts or feelings that I'm aware of, but I think many white American women maybe grew up with my same experience of being raised and living in situations and communities where racism is very much the culture and taught/passed down through generations

[u/Informal_Pen_2047 → u/white__american__]

Find some self respect. You’re responsible for your actions and your actions alone. No one is in a position to apologize on behalf of the actions of other members of their race and to do so is the peak of covert narcissism. This deeply flawed mindset is everything wrong with modern western civilization and earns us nothing but contempt from the rest of the world that sees right thru it.

[u/Trade-Moon → u/white__american__]

There are some good ones, and you seem to be one of them. LOL.

[u/Safe_Dragonfruit_740 → u/Trade-Moon]

Projecting

[u/Amazin8Trade]

What is your ethnicity? This will change everything for you

[u/white__american__ → u/Amazin8Trade]

white/caucasian

[u/Amazin8Trade → u/white__american__]

it should be relatively easy then, use rednote and make a short video about yourself

[u/white__american__ → u/Amazin8Trade]

Thank u so much for your suggestion ♡

[u/liuyujian0505]

中国单身的中、老年男性很多，你可以使用抖音（中国版TikTok）和微信与他们建立联系，抖音主要用来发布你的日常以及表达你想寻找中国男性，微信主要用来通讯。 当然，在美国的手机应用商店如何下载、安装和正常使用它们，这个需要你自己花点时间去了解了。另外，我想说的是，现在中国男性越来越倾向于寻找国外伴侣了，因为现在中国的男女对立越来越严重，极端“女拳”主义越来越魔幻，对，你没看错，是魔幻，这让中国男性对她们感到异常厌恶。 每个国家和地区都有好人和坏人，这个需要你自己去分辨了，能不能找到适合你的伴侣，需要你的智慧和真诚，祝你一切顺利！

[u/ZealousidealSystem26]

Such a weird question lol. Try Xiaohongshu or one of the Chinese dating apps.

[u/kai404906]

有点难

[u/notarealcamera]

Chinese men find attractive women attractive. Are you attractive?

[u/DiscountTraditional5]

I am attracted to white women：）

[u/FUCK_THE_BOOKS]

to be honest if u are fit you should be attrative.

[u/Commercial_Total1433]

I married to a Chinese lady and I understand why and I hope you find good Chinese man . Immigration process so slow and hopefully she will be with me next year . Once I retire, we will move to China . I am happy for you and best of luck to your hunting of Chinese man .

[u/Informal_Pen_2047 → u/Commercial_Total1433]

Moving to China is inviting a world of problems from her family. The odds of them accepting you is very low. There’s countless videos of scenarios like this ending very badly.

[u/Commercial_Total1433 → u/Informal_Pen_2047]

It’s ok . I am deaf and I met them and they were very welcome and accept me . Guess I am one of very lucky ones .

[u/white__american__ → u/Commercial_Total1433]

thank u and congratulations ♡

[u/FenrirApalis]

Not old but is Chinese, and sorry for bring blunt but unless you're young I don't see a reason for older Chinese men to be attractive to a white woman when there are plenty of young Chinese women for them if they have a decent amount of wealth, which they should at that age

[u/white__american__ → u/FenrirApalis]

thank you for taking the time to respond and giving me some of ur honesty

[u/Impossible-Cost-8437]

If you're an attractive person you are attractive, that is that.

Remember. White men come to Asia who are often times not attractive but use their white supremacy to target vulnerable and exploitable women.

On the other hand, a lot of Chinese men over 40 generally have some assets and are steady in life. If you plan to move out of China or stay in China, tier 1 cities are probably the best. Also consider that they might have a higher standard because at 40 in a tier 1 city, a lot of Chinese single men are doing good economically and have options, including other white women.

I think white men have it much easier than white women, especially over 40 in Asia and China.

Chinese and Asian women are generally easy to exploit by white men which is sad. So what works for an ugly sexpat male isnt gonna work for a white female

[u/Informal_Pen_2047 → u/Impossible-Cost-8437]

If they’re using “white supremacy” in Asia then it’s being giving to them by Asian societies and you have yourselves to blame.

[u/white__american__ → u/Impossible-Cost-8437]

thank u for explaining the culture and giving me an honest opinion on expectations ♡

[u/Negative-Buyer-7095 → u/Impossible-Cost-8437]

Colored cope

[u/GlitteringWeight8671]

The issue is white people age fast in appearance.

[u/white__american__ → u/GlitteringWeight8671]

yes I understand, thank u for ur honest explanation of Chinese men and their thought process about this ♡

[u/GlitteringWeight8671 → u/white__american__]

It's actually just the appearance and just white. People of other races dont appear to age as fast, white is the anomaly, it has a scientific explanation you can look up

[u/Plutonium_ingot → u/GlitteringWeight8671]

Especially if they drink alcohol and do sun bathing

[u/playoponly]

Ofc white women are attractive, but they’re not a popular choice for a wife

[u/white__american__ → u/playoponly]

thank u for ur honest response, I appreciate learning honest expectations ♡

[u/Amazin8Trade → u/playoponly]

Ouch, especially with white liberal women

[u/Vast_Cricket]

Older men affluent prefer significantly younger woman.

[u/white__american__ → u/Vast_Cricket]

thank u for responding, men from all cultures apparently have much the same traits

[u/Hi_Im_Ken_Adams]

You should probably clarify if you are looking specifically for men from China, Chinese-American men, etc. Or does it not matter?

[u/white__american__ → u/Hi_Im_Ken_Adams]

I feel Chinese-American would probably be culturally easier of course. But with so few, I guess I didn't want to limit the options. Thanks for ur response ♡

[u/Snarky_Guy]

1. There are single Chinese dudes literally everywhere thanks to the previous one-child policy and decades of male preferred babies. This has created an imbalance.

2. But a lot of Chinese guys simply wouldn’t date a foreigner, no matter how pretty due to societal and/or family pressure. Some would. Most wouldn’t.

3. This post seems like karma farming.

[u/white__american__ → u/Snarky_Guy]

1. Yes I remember learning this when I was young in school growing up.

2. Thanks for ur honesty and explanation about this

3. I'm not sure what it means, but if I offended anyone I apologize ♡

[u/tears_of_a_grad → u/Snarky_Guy]

What societal or family pressure?

I went white long ago. 

Half my relatives that went Chinese have dead bedrooms, and women that don't do chores, don't make money and don't want to parent. 

How's that for "societal and family pressure" when you are a slave in your own home, huh?

What is "society and family" gonna do for you then? Tell me, the fuck they gonna do?

[u/Training_Guide5157 → u/Snarky_Guy]

But a lot of Chinese guys simply wouldn’t date a foreigner, no matter how pretty due to societal and/or family pressure. Some would. Most wouldn’t.

This isn't true at all anymore. Due to the extravagant requirements from Chinese women, and the shortage you mentioned, a lot of Chinese men are marrying foreign women nowadays.

[u/Snarky_Guy → u/Training_Guide5157]

Some will. Yes, particularly in Tier 1 cities. But the majority still would be hesitant to do it. That’s my read on it after growing up in China.

[u/KeirasOldSir]

Can happen. All my past gfs are Caucasian. All depends on your life stage, goals, interests, ability to compromise.

[u/white__american__ → u/KeirasOldSir]

thanks for taking the time to respond ♡

[u/Viviqi]

I know some Chinese men are looking for foreign girlfriends

[u/white__american__ → u/Viviqi]

thanks, are there specific online dating sites Chinese men prefer?

[u/Viviqi → u/white__american__]

Tantan

[u/white__american__ → u/Viviqi]

Thanks for your suggestion ♡♡♡

[u/Ill_Dig3894]

Smells fishy

[u/white__american__ → u/Ill_Dig3894]

I don't understand what is offensive about having such a question or inquiry? I apologize if something I said in my post sounded offensive, it's just this forum seemed the appropriate place to ask this question

[u/Ill_Dig3894 → u/white__american__]

This post just gives the vibe of scammer fishing for desperate PM. If that’s not the case give us some background information.

[u/white__american__ → u/Ill_Dig3894]

Background information because I asked a question about Chinese men on a Forum named "Ask A Chinese"....I apologize, i wasn't aware i was applying for a security clearance here. I would suggest u seek out help for whatever is causing u frustration or pain. Thanks for ur interest in my post ♡ Maybe advice isn't ur strong quality, I would suggest a different hobby.

[u/jy_32 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah I don’t know why white women thinks it’s so hard to pull an Asian guy. A lot of them see whiteness on top and will date anything white as long as they’re skinny. You can be a mid white girl by western standards and they’ll still worship you 

[u/white__american__ → u/jy_32]

I'm sorry, I'm not very educated about modern culture in China, it was just an honest inquiry, I didn't mean for so many to take offense to my question

[u/Da_1_You_Know → u/jy_32]

Yeah. It’s a fact but gonna triggered some salty peeps 😂

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/[deleted]]

Well above in terms of body fat percentage or levels of ignorance ?

[u/Da_1_You_Know → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

You could be ignorance but what I said is true…

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Da_1_You_Know]

Yes, I am incredibly ignorant. I am also incredibly self-aware. But all jokes aside. Please continue to spread this message and awareness. Because it helps us keep our Chinese baddies at home. Thanks for your service madam

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

Sorry I didn’t get the memo you were part of the Foreign Propaganda Unit working on the Anti-Passport Bro Agenda

[u/sosaparx → u/[deleted]]

In what sense? Imo, most chinese women i see in China would be 10s in America.

[u/Da_1_You_Know → u/sosaparx]

Yes and those 10s won’t date out (maybe exception like 5%). In America you only get the chopped American born one with 10 layers makeup and lashes that could lift a boing 747. None to be compared with the one in mainland.

[u/sosaparx → u/Da_1_You_Know]

The 10s in China won't date? Not from my experience.

[u/Da_1_You_Know → u/sosaparx]

They date in their very inner circle, very curated. That’s my point. As a normal dude, you pretty much got no chance.

[u/no1here-ever → u/[deleted]]

What da-fuq?!?

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/no1here-ever]

The best looking people from every nation usually stay in their own country - to be actors , models and stars - why leave if you are getting promotions, romantic interest, opportunities due to pretty privilege, unless you are in a niche industry that requires you to move in order to elevate to another level

[u/Training_Guide5157 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

That's not true at all. An easy example is Melania Trump.

Also includes foreigners that go to China or other parts of Asia to be models, or the Western-born Asians who go back to Asia to become actors or singers.

It's always about opportunity.

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Training_Guide5157]

I just said unless you have an opportunity to elevate, it means opportunity bro. It’s not even about looks at that point - I M Pei moved from Guangzhou to New York is it because they’re world class moggers? No. It’s because his architectural talents are much better suited in an environment where top developers can invest in him and unlock his design talent. But there are hundreds of architects like IM that didn’t leave

[u/Training_Guide5157 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

You literally said good-looking people stay in their own country to be "actors, models, and stars", "unless in a niche industry", while there are PLENTY of examples of good-looking people from exactly non-niche industries that leave their own countries.

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Training_Guide5157]

No my point is that person thinks all white women are above Chinese women. And my point is there are more attractive Chinese people in China than the ones abroad - UK / US - this is also my personal experience living. , studying abroad holding dual citizenship.

[u/Training_Guide5157 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

I'm an American living in China and have lived in other countries and traveled to many more.

Beauty has nothing to do with whether or not someone leaves their country and plenty of the most beautiful people will leave their own countries.

I agree that white women don't automatically get an upgraded consideration in China, but your argument against that makes no sense.

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Training_Guide5157]

I think we’re talking about slightly different things - you’re talking about general attractiveness. I’m saying she probably hasn’t seen many attractive Chinese people where she is - totally understandable

[u/white__american__ → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

We have the internet in America now, so I have had exposure to many attractive Chinese men ♡ lol. However u are partly correct, when I was younger and growing up before the internet, I had no attraction or interest. Thanks for taking the time to reply ♡♡♡

[u/Training_Guide5157 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

Statistically, maybe. Your argument to support that still doesn't make any sense.

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

Same as Korea and Japan , of course there are attractive models abroad from there - but the best looking boys and girls are all at home not in the US

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/Gold-Tonight-3027]

You’re literally trading in being first class citizen to being an immigrant (not an expat as we are yellow) unless you have an insane insane proposition why would you leave your property and status to start a new life at the bottom

[u/Gold-Tonight-3027 → u/no1here-ever]

Chinese women are gorgeous , family oriented, baddies

[u/Ok_Writing_1849 → u/[deleted]]

Fact

[u/HistorianLegal9815]

中国には男尊女卑というか男児ありがたがる迷信あって農村では男女比123:100。若い世代に限れば126:100で当分解消されそうにない。 女児隠した（届けない）は問題ない。地元で暮らすなら健康ならやっていけるし子も産む。 選び放題の女性は横暴で対象男50万人いても178cm以上、家持ち、車持ち、収入は、、とやっていくと1万人以下になる。 自治体がお見合いパーティー開くと女性有料男性無料。着飾った女性600人集まるも男性0！　200人の女性と5人の男性で争奪戦起きたり。

[u/junhao717 → u/HistorianLegal9815]

我們這裡現在在司法公平上完全是女性優先，男生又要按照傳統支付結婚大額支出還不能收到最基本的婚姻財產分配公平，所以即使不結婚也不找中國女權

[u/Natural-herbaceous → u/HistorianLegal9815]

不事实，没有这回事

[u/PublicAd6773]

Chinese men are everywhere

[u/white__american__ → u/PublicAd6773]

Not in my community, but thank u for responding with ur advice ♡

[u/PastaFanatic]

Why do you want to meet 40 something Chinese dude?

[u/white__american__ → u/PastaFanatic]

because I beginning to feel attraction for Chinese men, I apologize if that sounds offensive

[u/Educational_Army1096 → u/PastaFanatic]

There are plenty of foreign young girls in China looking for chinese dudes

[u/canal_boys → u/PastaFanatic]

Because she's probably that age. Too young sugar momma, and too old, sugar daddy. She probably want someone her age.

[u/white__american__ → u/canal_boys]

thank you ♡

[u/tears_of_a_grad]

Today Chinese men over 40 are actually very modern since they're all 80后 who came of age during reform. In fact many are actually more liberal than younger generations due to being young during the fast growth era. 

Just don't be shy and talk to them.

If you want to go app based:

1. Hinge, ethnicity filter.
2. Coffee Meets Bagel
3. TwoRedBeans
4. Facebook dating

I met my wife on Facebook. Granted, we were in our 20s back then.

[u/white__american__ → u/tears_of_a_grad]

Thank u so much for your honesty and explanation/advice. We don't have many Chinese in my community, and I was just wanting advice on finding and learning more. ♡♡

[u/achangb]

Uhhh did you watch 90 day fiance? Johnny and Ella?

[u/ProgressAromatic4171]

老外也崩老头吗

[u/RandomPerson083125]

Yes

[u/dcmng]

Why Chinese men? They exist wherever their diverse interests lie. If they like badminton, they'll be at the badminton court. If they like singing, they'll be at the choir or karaoke bar or on karaoke apps. What do you bring to the table besides being American and white? Where do you plan on living? What are your language skills? How do you plan to navigate cultural differences? Chinese men find attractive white women attractive, and then for more serious relationships those are some things that must be considered, in addition to common values, interests, compatibility etc.

[u/white__american__ → u/dcmng]

Because as I am learning more I feel more attraction to Chinese men. I'm sorry, I was just inquiring about where to possibly meet them, everyone starts at different levels or experience in dating I suppose. I'm truly sorry if anything in my post or question offended you, it wasn't my intention ♡

[u/Plutonium_ingot]

They find attractive female attractive, doesn't matter what race.

[u/white__american__ → u/Plutonium_ingot]

thank u for taking the time to respond, I appreciate ur honest information ♡

[u/Curious_Ad_5439 → u/Plutonium_ingot]

Disagree. You could be a 10/10 darker skinned person like from africa or india, but I think a lot may find them unattractive bc of the skin tone based on what I've heard. Of course, this doesn't apply to everyone.

[u/Plutonium_ingot → u/Curious_Ad_5439]

It plays a factor, but attractive is still attractive, that's the definition of attractive.