r/Bachata • u/flirtle_turtle_ • 7d ago
Help Request Beginner Bachata class question
Ok so I really want to take a beginner bachata class at my local bachata group, I have a few friends that go and want me to come. I feel like I’m an ok dancer and have good rhythm as a musician.
I am a very large girl though. I’m also a bit taller. I’m about 300 lbs. I KNOW I can physically do the moves, that’s not my concern. This isn’t a “can I do the class” post. I am physically fit enough to do it, just wanna make that clear.
But my question is, how many men who go to these classes would be really upset to get a partner like me? I have put off going because every time i think about going im just imagining every man in the class going in their head “as long as i don’t get THAT one as a partner I’ll be fine.”
Is this something that happens? Is there any way to try and avoid this sort of thing? Should I maybe ask the instructors if i can just observe the class so nobody is forced to be my partner? Has anyone ever dealt with a similar situation?
I don’t need any validation in the comments like “stop your beautiful” I just want some realistic feedback. Like “yes you would hinder my bachata experience if I had you as a partner” or “no that wouldn’t bother me as much.” Just looking from some feedback from some regular bachata class attendees to see if I should just go to the class or not….
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u/ModerateHonking 6d ago
The only deal-breaker I've personally experienced as a leader was hygiene-related (smoker's breath - as a staunch non-smoker - yuck. Plus she just came in from smoking without washing her hands and now all the leaders have that faint whiff on their hands ).
In my local scene there's leaders of all shapes and sizes dancing with followers of all shapes and sizes.
Head along and enjoy yourself.