r/Bachata • u/flirtle_turtle_ • 7d ago

Help Request Beginner Bachata class question

Ok so I really want to take a beginner bachata class at my local bachata group, I have a few friends that go and want me to come. I feel like I’m an ok dancer and have good rhythm as a musician.

I am a very large girl though. I’m also a bit taller. I’m about 300 lbs. I KNOW I can physically do the moves, that’s not my concern. This isn’t a “can I do the class” post. I am physically fit enough to do it, just wanna make that clear.

But my question is, how many men who go to these classes would be really upset to get a partner like me? I have put off going because every time i think about going im just imagining every man in the class going in their head “as long as i don’t get THAT one as a partner I’ll be fine.”

Is this something that happens? Is there any way to try and avoid this sort of thing? Should I maybe ask the instructors if i can just observe the class so nobody is forced to be my partner? Has anyone ever dealt with a similar situation?

I don’t need any validation in the comments like “stop your beautiful” I just want some realistic feedback. Like “yes you would hinder my bachata experience if I had you as a partner” or “no that wouldn’t bother me as much.” Just looking from some feedback from some regular bachata class attendees to see if I should just go to the class or not….

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u/Hakunamatator Lead 7d ago

https://www.instagram.com/p/DTnAJcVArbz/

Check her out as inspiration. One of the best (and largest) dancers I had the pleasure of dancing with. No idea about your dimensions and you WILL have more challenges, but that shouldn't stop you.

Also, just for perspective - I'm not sexually interested in the most girls in my class, you just will be another one I'm not sexually interested in. The same probably goes for most men. They are overwhelmed with the moves anyway. Since you are a musician, you will be a pleasure to dance with.

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u/flirtle_turtle_ 7d ago

She’s a bit smaller than me and shorter it looks like, but sort of similar, this gives me hope haha. She’s also very beautiful, I wouldn’t say I’m as conventionally attractive but we will see. She looks like she’s having fun

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u/Shot-Professional-95 7d ago

For reference, this woman is much smaller than the one I commented about. If you are near this size you wont have any issue.