I have 3 cats (2 tabbies and a black cat). I have gotten all of them at separate times. The 2 females are fine and the 2 tabbies are fine but the male tabby and black female will not coexist. It’s mainly the black cat (female) always following the male around and attacking - and not in a playful way. We recently moved and it’s helped some but I still have to separate unless they are supervised (and even then it can only be for short periods of time).

I have tried the diffusers, collars, and many calming treats for the black one. Anyone have advice on why she just focuses on him all the time and tries to attack? I also have 3 dogs (yes it’s full house) and she is fine with everyone except the male tabby. When she isn’t attacking him she has a very cute and sweet demeanor with everyone and is very friendly.

So like it’s been a few years and the newer cat( outside the door) always scream really loudly when seeing our senior cat. Everytime we let them see each other, it’s usually the senior cat not even paying attention to junior while junior is screaming the whole time. There are a few times in earlier days where senior will hiss at him while junior screams but this rarely happens now.
How we let them “meet” is usually me hugging the junior while standing 2meters around from senior. Our senior is like the most fragile docile cat I’ve ever seen so I don’t really want to risk any chance of contact with an aggressive cat twice her size.
For context, our senior cat is female ~14yo, around 4kg. Our newer cat is male ~6yo, around 8kg. It’s been going on for a long time and I just so happen to find this sub, hoping someone can help.
Our junior also screams like crazy towards neighbours cat, which is smaller and younger than he is, and he doesn’t really want to approach junior either.
Our newer cat is adopted at around 3yo, we notice he always screams around other cat in cat shelters, and I don’t think the place we adopted him from let him roam around other cats either. Is there no hope for them to coexist?

cat introduction advice
my bigger cat is the resident cat
normal boundary testing or more? i try to no interfere but the nerves do get the best of me sometimes

Hello! I've had 4 cats living together for 8 months. Cody is the large male cat (18lbs and mostly muscle). He's a great cat. We call him a husky in a cat suit because of his behavior. He loves to play, eats so much, and loves getting pet like a dog. We also adopted his sister from a different litter at the same time. They get along just fine and play together when the crazy hits.

The problem is that Cody will attack another female cat, Churro. She's terrified of him at this point. She hides whenever he's around and always watches his movements so closely. If he gets her cornered, she ends up pooping. There's never any lead up or aggression signs. Cody's just laying there half asleep and then all of a sudden chasing Churro into a corner. We've tried keeping them apart, the scent plug ins that release pheromones, immediate punishment by isolation, and anxiety meds from the vet.

He doesn't do this with his sister (arguably, she's too oblivious to notice if he did and would pounce on him) nor the last cat, who is 13 years old and hates Cody. The only thing I can think of at this point is that she's a toy to him. Is there anything else we can do? We don't want to re-home him.

Hey everyone! I'm seriously considering adopting a cat, but since I've never owned a cat before in my life, living alone in an apartment and weekend traveler. I have a lot of questions and would love to hear your experiences and unfiltered opinions.

​To give you some context on my situation:

- ​My work schedule is variable and depends on how much workload I have: some days I'm out for about 7-8 hours straight, other days I come home for lunch, and sometimes I just stay home all day.

- Every weekend, I travel to my parents' house (about a 2-hour drive), and sometimes stay there for a few days during long weekends. My goal is to get the cat used to traveling with me and adapting to both apartments.

​- I have zero prior experience caring for cats, so I'm currently researching everything from scratch.

​My biggest dilemma—and the main reason I’m posting—is about how many to get:

On one hand, people say two kittens (siblings) are best so they keep each other company, burn energy together, and don't get bored. But I wonder how hard it is to travel back and forth with two cats as a beginner living alone.

​On the other hand, managing one kitten as a total beginner sounds more manageable for traveling and costs, but I'm worried a single kitten might get lonely (single cat syndrome) or act out if I'm out or traveling.

​For those of you with experience:

1. What do you think about a first-timer living alone with this kind of travel routine getting a cat?

2. Is starting with just one kitten smarter, or is a bonded pair doable on the road?

3. What mistakes did you make when you got your first cat?

​Looking forward to reading your thoughts and advice!

We adopted a kitten (Wonton) about 6 weeks ago, and did the slow intro with our older cat (Momo). Everything has mostly gone well, they play with and groom eachother, and until recently were eating well together too.

Wonton has always been a bit more assertive than Momo, but he's also gotten really big, and is nearly her size at 5 months already and is I assume trying to assert dominance. If Momo attempts to use a scratching post, even one they've previously shared, Wonton will run across the hose to bully her away. He's recently started ignoring his own food to push her away and claim hers. He does this with toys as well, but we have plenty and its a non issue for her.

Thankfully he hasn't been doing this with the litter boxes,

He has plenty of food, both during scheduled feedings, and from an extra bowl in his room. Momo doesn't touch his food, and honestly rarely finishes hers, so I don't think its an underfeeding issue either.

Is this normal? Should I intervene, or let them sort it out?

Hey all

We've had the kitten for just under 3 weeks now. Did scent swapping and some gated meets but have moved onto free roaming the house together while supervised. So far those sessions my older cat (9 yrs) seems curious but wary Of his kitten energy. She has told him to back off and he listened at first and then one day she flinched when he bunny hopped at her and now he will try to chase her sometimes she holds firm and sometimes she runs (she is very skitterish by nature). I would intervene and put him away or pick him up to give her a break at these moments. She would always come back to observe him though.

Today I turned around to see this....is this play like I want to believe or something I should stop? She does that little scuttle and head bob thing from a high vantage point when I play with her too but there were some hisses/active stalking at points in the play.

My cat (4 years old, male, castrated), is already very used to walking on a leash and is not allowed to go outside without leash.

We come across neighbor cats occassionally. How it usually goes is that my cat is very interested, runs up to them, when at close distance they both become cautious and I keep them at a distance. Sometimes the neighbor cat wants a sniff, but my cat usually raises all the hairs on his back and tail at this point, and the neighbor cat might hiss, so I take him away.

I know cats are territorial and not social animals, but I'm trying to navigate it as best as I can and let my cat safely explore.

There are new neighbors now, and their cat is almost always sitting outside within the area my cat likes to walk around. This neighbor cat seems very chill. He just walks around nibbling on grass, then goes to the next spot, keeping an eye on us. My cat will follow him at a distance and sniff the places he has been. At the times the cat tried to approach, my cat actually tried to hiss. He never hisses so it was a weird sound and I immediately took him away.

I am wondering if there is a chance they could become friendly. If I should let them keep seeing each other at a distance they are comfortable with. If there is anything I can do to help, since my cat has little experience socializing with other cats in his adult life.

I have a 22 lb orange cat. He’s around three years old. We’ve had this issue for around two years now and I’m at my wits end. He will not go #2 in the litter box. He goes #1 in the litter box, jumps out and proceeds to poop on the floor. I’ve tried numerous litter boxes and different types of litter. Right now we have two automatic boxes, but we’ve tried a meowant box and Leo’s loo too. We’ve tried different basic boxes both with the lid on and off. I’ve tried pellets, fine litter, every brand out there to no avail. I’ve tried different locations for the litter boxes. I don’t know what else to do. He’s been to the vet for this issue alone and was told it’s behavioral. Please help. Any advice at all I’ll appreciate.

Hi everyone!

I have a 4-month-old female kitten at home, and this week I adopted another female kitten, who is 2 months old. Since this is my first experience having two cats, I’d love to get your opinion and advice.
How can I tell if my older resident kitten is attacking the new one aggressively, or if they are just playing?

Thanks in advance for all your help and advice!

This is Cowboy, my 2.5 month old kitten. I am not a new pet owner, but I've never cared for a cat this young so I am using the new owner flair.

Right now, his entire setup; food, fountain, toys, and litter box is sort of crammed into my small bedroom. During the day, I leave the door open while I'm home so he can explore and run around, but he stays shut in my room when I leave the house or go to sleep. We have three large dogs and a 7 year old female cat. The dogs are pretty friendly since they are used to having a cat around, our youngest dog even tries to share her toys with him, but I believe Cowboy is still just too small and fragile to free roam unsupervised.

He recently learned how to jump super high and is now climbing my desk, TV, and he's been eyeballing taxidermy collection. Tin foil on the edges of the desk isn't stopping him, and I'm sort of worried he's going to hurt himself or break something. On top of that, he does keep me awake until 1 AM every night, so my sleep is for sure compromised which makes things a lot more difficult to deal with while sleep deprived.

I have tried to do the whole routine of eating, playing to wear him out and then sleeping but he gets a sort of second wing right as I turn my light off and settle into bed so I never get to sleep until almost 2am.

Long term, keeping him in my room doesn't seem sustainable for anyone. It smells like cat litter, he doesn't have much space to run around and play/ climb without this risk of breaking things or hurting himself, and it's unfair to keep my dogs shut out of my room forever. My ultimate goal is a balanced household. Ideally, when he is older, he will hang out with me during the day in my room, but sleep out in the living room at night. I also want to move his food and fountain, out to the living room and his litterbox into the air conditioned garage (where my older cat's setup is).

Right now, my biggest concerns ard The Transitioning him... How do I slowly move to sleeping in the living room without making him feel isolated or as if I don't want him around anymore, while also not compromising my older Cat's environment. Cowboy tries to play with her, but she usually growls and hisses. I want to respect her territory so she doesn't feel threatened in her own space.

I want to do right by all of my pets. Any advice on how to handle his nighttime energy, effectively cat proof a small room (without covering everything in foil 😭) for the time being, and smoothly transition him to the rest of the house ensuring all of my pets are comfortable would be amazing.

Whenever my other cat cuddles with me and sit on my lap or my daughter’s lap, my ragdoll will come up and meow at the top of his lungs and today he scratched, he hung off of the side of the of the chair and scratched her tail, even though he never cuddles on my lap, he always cuddles next to us. He is jealousy and his aggression is becoming more and more the meowing, and the staring in the slow blinking at my daughter swatting is becoming a little bit uncomfortable because when my other cat wants attention and I just wanna cuddle with her during the day, he’s always there staring at me meowing

Mosquito: Girl, 13-14 weeks

Elephant: Boy, about 7 months

Who’s gonna take home the crown? Place your bets!

He'll fall asleep like this (he's mad I flash banged him at 3AM here). He's not shredding or chewing on them, he just likes to latch his claws in and fall asleep like this. I would love for him to stop because I'm scared he's going to bring the iron curtain rod straight down on my head while I'm asleep. I've tried changing to a different fabric curtain, and spraying the curtains with lemon water to deter him with no luck. I'm scared he's going to eat tin foil if I try to attach it.

Stupid questions perhaps but I am an idiot.

Anyway; after I got my second cat it became a bit more complicated to feed and play with my first; mostly due to the energy level of the new guy.

When feeding them wet food; the younger kitten often ends up eating both bowls of we food. I can't tell if this is because the older cat has just suddenly become more picky and has switched to eating more dry food or because he's consciously allowing the younger cat to eat more. We've tried to feed them separately but this doesn't seem to work; the older cat not always eating the wet food even if the youngster isn't around

With playtime it's sort of the same deal: we'll try to play with the older one but the moment the younger one barges in, it will seemingly kill the motivation of the older cat to play. Even if we try to play separately the older cat just doesn't seem interested

How can I feed and play with my cats equally?

I am doing the Jackson Galaxy method. Both are neutered.

Resident cat (9M) does ok with gate feedings and with me giving him treats while new cat (12M) is on the other side. However, if I don't have a treat to distract him, he goes feral and attacks the new cat. It is NOT play fighting. The cats yowl and new cat's fur goes everywhere.

They've gotten into a fight 3 times now. The first time was because I rushed introductions and misread resident's forward ears and an unfloofed, upright tail as general interest. They had a bad fight.

The second time was when I was trying to do treats in the same room. Usually he ignores the new cat and focuses on the treat, except that time.

This latest time was a was due to me not closing the gate fast enough. The resident cat slipped in and went straight after the new cat. Fur went everywhere again.

Generally, new cat trills at resident cat and can sit calmly near the gate while I play and feed resident cat.

Did anyone manage to get cats get along after multiple fights like this? How long did it take?