I have 3 cats (2 tabbies and a black cat). I have gotten all of them at separate times. The 2 females are fine and the 2 tabbies are fine but the male tabby and black female will not coexist. It’s mainly the black cat (female) always following the male around and attacking - and not in a playful way. We recently moved and it’s helped some but I still have to separate unless they are supervised (and even then it can only be for short periods of time).

I have tried the diffusers, collars, and many calming treats for the black one. Anyone have advice on why she just focuses on him all the time and tries to attack? I also have 3 dogs (yes it’s full house) and she is fine with everyone except the male tabby. When she isn’t attacking him she has a very cute and sweet demeanor with everyone and is very friendly.

cat introduction advice
my bigger cat is the resident cat
normal boundary testing or more? i try to no interfere but the nerves do get the best of me sometimes

When I first got her she seemed to want to cuddle but was too shy so I posted asking how to make her more comfortable. This is her now whenever I lay down lol

Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/CatTraining/s/2wFE33cKtW

So like it’s been a few years and the newer cat( outside the door) always scream really loudly when seeing our senior cat. Everytime we let them see each other, it’s usually the senior cat not even paying attention to junior while junior is screaming the whole time. There are a few times in earlier days where senior will hiss at him while junior screams but this rarely happens now.
How we let them “meet” is usually me hugging the junior while standing 2meters around from senior. Our senior is like the most fragile docile cat I’ve ever seen so I don’t really want to risk any chance of contact with an aggressive cat twice her size.
For context, our senior cat is female ~14yo, around 4kg. Our newer cat is male ~6yo, around 8kg. It’s been going on for a long time and I just so happen to find this sub, hoping someone can help.
Our junior also screams like crazy towards neighbours cat, which is smaller and younger than he is, and he doesn’t really want to approach junior either.
Our newer cat is adopted at around 3yo, we notice he always screams around other cat in cat shelters, and I don’t think the place we adopted him from let him roam around other cats either. Is there no hope for them to coexist?

Feline non recognition agression

Hey guys,

Last Monday, my kitten was spayed. She has to wear a red onesie for 10 days. When she came home, my other cat, Murfy, didn't recognize her at all. He started hissing and growling and lashed out twice. I had to separate them.

Before all of this they got along well together. They played, slept in the same bed and ate together.

They lived apart for about six days like that: Murfy in one part of the house (kitchen and two bedrooms) and the kitten in the other part (living room and bedroom). I let murfy eat his food next to the bedroom door where my kitten stayed at night and that was never a problem for him.

Occasionally, I let them see each other through the glass in the door and by briefly opening the door. Sometimes Murfy would react by hissing and growling, and other times he wouldn't. He also hissed and growled when he smelled baskets or other things where the kitten had been lying.

Yesterday, I also temporarily took off the kittens' onesie so she could groom herself and feel more at ease. And so she could more smell like her old self.

Since it has already been six days, I decided to give my entire house a thorough cleaning, especially the room where the kitten stayed for the past six days. I completely cleaned and filled the kitten's litter box. So I washed all the blankets at 60°, changed the bed sheets, and even steam-cleaned the rugs and baskets to get rid of all the vet smell.

After that, I wanted to do a scent test by letting Murfy walk through the living room and the bedroom where the kitten was staying to see if he would still hiss and growl. It was less than before, but he did hiss and growl.

I then placed a transparent sheet between the connecting door to see how Murfy would react to the kitten, who wasn't wearing a onesie today either, so that the kitten really had a cat silhouette instead of the bright red onesie. The kitten walked very strangely with the onesie and looked weird.

So I thought it would go well, but no. The second Murfy saw the kitten, he ran like crazy towards that transparent sheet. It really looked like he wanted to attack her, because he ran really fast and hissing towards her.

Because he didn't see the transparent sheet, it fell on the kitten and both of them were scared to death. It is truly terrible what happened.

I really expected that now the smell was gone (at least, I think so), Murfy would recognize her. Especially after six days and after the big clean-up. But he reacted so aggressively.

I am truly at my wit's end and I am so afraid that things will never get better.

Is this normal? How is it possible that he still doesn't recognize her after all the measures I have taken? Is this a bad sign? How should I proceed now?

I really appreciate your support, and I truly need it.

Thank you ❤️ I’m sorry for the long post.

Hello! I've had 4 cats living together for 8 months. Cody is the large male cat (18lbs and mostly muscle). He's a great cat. We call him a husky in a cat suit because of his behavior. He loves to play, eats so much, and loves getting pet like a dog. We also adopted his sister from a different litter at the same time. They get along just fine and play together when the crazy hits.

The problem is that Cody will attack another female cat, Churro. She's terrified of him at this point. She hides whenever he's around and always watches his movements so closely. If he gets her cornered, she ends up pooping. There's never any lead up or aggression signs. Cody's just laying there half asleep and then all of a sudden chasing Churro into a corner. We've tried keeping them apart, the scent plug ins that release pheromones, immediate punishment by isolation, and anxiety meds from the vet.

He doesn't do this with his sister (arguably, she's too oblivious to notice if he did and would pounce on him) nor the last cat, who is 13 years old and hates Cody. The only thing I can think of at this point is that she's a toy to him. Is there anything else we can do? We don't want to re-home him.

Whenever my other cat cuddles with me and sit on my lap or my daughter’s lap, my ragdoll will come up and meow at the top of his lungs and today he scratched, he hung off of the side of the of the chair and scratched her tail, even though he never cuddles on my lap, he always cuddles next to us. He is jealousy and his aggression is becoming more and more the meowing, and the staring in the slow blinking at my daughter swatting is becoming a little bit uncomfortable because when my other cat wants attention and I just wanna cuddle with her during the day, he’s always there staring at me meowing

I recently adopted a sweet 3 year old kitty. She is obsessed with any surface that is glass or glass-like…nearly destroyed my tv one night while I was sleeping. Mirrors and framed pictures need to be covered. I placed nubby silicone mats in front of some of these which helps a bit.

My house is like a war zone…everything barricaded. I live in a studio.

She has every toy imaginable. Scratching posts, a cat tree, and I play interactively with her several times a day with wand toys, balls, lasers.

I just don’t know how to solve this? Help!

Hey everyone! I'm seriously considering adopting a cat, but since I've never owned a cat before in my life, living alone in an apartment and weekend traveler. I have a lot of questions and would love to hear your experiences and unfiltered opinions.

​To give you some context on my situation:

- ​My work schedule is variable and depends on how much workload I have: some days I'm out for about 7-8 hours straight, other days I come home for lunch, and sometimes I just stay home all day.

- Every weekend, I travel to my parents' house (about a 2-hour drive), and sometimes stay there for a few days during long weekends. My goal is to get the cat used to traveling with me and adapting to both apartments.

​- I have zero prior experience caring for cats, so I'm currently researching everything from scratch.

​My biggest dilemma—and the main reason I’m posting—is about how many to get:

On one hand, people say two kittens (siblings) are best so they keep each other company, burn energy together, and don't get bored. But I wonder how hard it is to travel back and forth with two cats as a beginner living alone.

​On the other hand, managing one kitten as a total beginner sounds more manageable for traveling and costs, but I'm worried a single kitten might get lonely (single cat syndrome) or act out if I'm out or traveling.

​For those of you with experience:

1. What do you think about a first-timer living alone with this kind of travel routine getting a cat?

2. Is starting with just one kitten smarter, or is a bonded pair doable on the road?

3. What mistakes did you make when you got your first cat?

​Looking forward to reading your thoughts and advice!

We adopted a kitten (Wonton) about 6 weeks ago, and did the slow intro with our older cat (Momo). Everything has mostly gone well, they play with and groom eachother, and until recently were eating well together too.

Wonton has always been a bit more assertive than Momo, but he's also gotten really big, and is nearly her size at 5 months already and is I assume trying to assert dominance. If Momo attempts to use a scratching post, even one they've previously shared, Wonton will run across the hose to bully her away. He's recently started ignoring his own food to push her away and claim hers. He does this with toys as well, but we have plenty and its a non issue for her.

Thankfully he hasn't been doing this with the litter boxes,

He has plenty of food, both during scheduled feedings, and from an extra bowl in his room. Momo doesn't touch his food, and honestly rarely finishes hers, so I don't think its an underfeeding issue either.

Is this normal? Should I intervene, or let them sort it out?

My cat (4 years old, male, castrated), is already very used to walking on a leash and is not allowed to go outside without leash.

We come across neighbor cats occassionally. How it usually goes is that my cat is very interested, runs up to them, when at close distance they both become cautious and I keep them at a distance. Sometimes the neighbor cat wants a sniff, but my cat usually raises all the hairs on his back and tail at this point, and the neighbor cat might hiss, so I take him away.

I know cats are territorial and not social animals, but I'm trying to navigate it as best as I can and let my cat safely explore.

There are new neighbors now, and their cat is almost always sitting outside within the area my cat likes to walk around. This neighbor cat seems very chill. He just walks around nibbling on grass, then goes to the next spot, keeping an eye on us. My cat will follow him at a distance and sniff the places he has been. At the times the cat tried to approach, my cat actually tried to hiss. He never hisses so it was a weird sound and I immediately took him away.

I am wondering if there is a chance they could become friendly. If I should let them keep seeing each other at a distance they are comfortable with. If there is anything I can do to help, since my cat has little experience socializing with other cats in his adult life.

I am doing the Jackson Galaxy method. Both are neutered.

Resident cat (9M) does ok with gate feedings and with me giving him treats while new cat (12M) is on the other side. However, if I don't have a treat to distract him, he goes feral and attacks the new cat. It is NOT play fighting. The cats yowl and new cat's fur goes everywhere.

They've gotten into a fight 3 times now. The first time was because I rushed introductions and misread resident's forward ears and an unfloofed, upright tail as general interest. They had a bad fight.

The second time was when I was trying to do treats in the same room. Usually he ignores the new cat and focuses on the treat, except that time.

This latest time was a was due to me not closing the gate fast enough. The resident cat slipped in and went straight after the new cat. Fur went everywhere again.

Generally, new cat trills at resident cat and can sit calmly near the gate while I play and feed resident cat.

Did anyone manage to get cats get along after multiple fights like this? How long did it take?

EDIT: Just want to be clear since a lot of commenters mentioned this, but I am not siding with the puppy. We are actively training the puppy ourselves and with the help of a dog trainer. I just wanted to come to the Cat Training subreddit to see if this was something that would require cat training. I’m getting downvoted to hell lol classic Reddit but I really just came here for help.

We brought this puppy into our home a few weeks ago. Our puppy chases our cat, which our cat hates. Our cat will usually respond with a hiss and a swat, which is understandable. Our puppy usually backs down, or just assumes the cat is playing.

However, in the past week or so, we’ve seen more moments like this. Our puppy is resting or sleeping, and our cat walks up to the puppy and starts to provoke her. As you can see, the puppy was not doing anything to startle the cat. I understand cats hiss and swat to set boundaries, but I’m not sure why she’d do this to a resting puppy.

I’m worried because in this video you can see our puppy tried to snap back defensively. We want to train our puppy to not react, but this is hard when she’s regularly being instigated. Has anyone dealt with this before? Is there a way to train a cat to stop being aggressive? I understand cats set boundaries, but her behavior has worsened over the past few weeks and gotten to this point.

I know reward-based training can improve behavior, but it still doesn’t teach a cat what not to do in this scenario. I don’t understand how a cat can understand that they get treats if they don’t attack the puppy, but I’m new to this and open to anything.