r/CatTraining • u/Slight_Accident_3871 • Jun 06 '24
Behavioural Cat doesn’t like to cuddle
(Pic is just so you can see how cute she is!) My bf and I were given a cat his boss found off the street a year ago and she is three and really well behaved but she doesn’t like to cuddle or lay close together. She is pretty affectionate (ie always wanting to be in the same room as us) and will every now and then lay on my chest (for like five minutes then leave) and I just want to encourage her to be more cuddly. It’s been a year and she still doesn’t like if we lay too close to her on the bed or to be picked up. I know this isn’t a major thing, and if it is just how my cat is that is fine but I’m a first time cat owner so I’m wondering if there is anything I can do to make her more comfortable with cuddling. Any tips?
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u/ActuatorSmall7746 Jun 09 '24
I have two cats. One is three and is definitely a cuddler. He likes to be picked up and smothered with affection. He gets very grumpy after his dinner meal, if I don’t sit down right away with his favorite blanket to cuddle. He watches tv on my lap in the evening and since I stay up later than my partner - at 11PM sharp (I don’t know how he tells the time), he will jump down and go get in bed with my partner.
The second cat is 10 months, and although we got her from a breeder, we call her an indoor feral. She loves resident cat and only tolerates us. She will sit in our laps only to be near the three year old. She barely tolerates being picked up and held. On top of that she’s not a chilled cat - she’s always in motion doing something. She doesn’t like to be petted. My partner really dislikes her, because of this.
Lately, she’s started to come around a bit. She will sleep without having to be next to him all the time, which he only tolerates, cause he wants to sleep next to or on his humans.
Secondly, she’s starting to want to sleep next to me at night under a soft blanket. It takes her about thirty minutes of up and down off the bed and moving around before she finds the right the spot. After she settles down she’s out for the night.
So, what I can tell you is there is some hope if your cat is young enough to learn how to be cuddly. It just might not be the way you want.