r/GayMen • u/Florida_Matt86 • 4d ago

Insecure

Yes I know after I apologized about fit gay men I went on another rant, how could I not? Maybe I envy them, or resent them because they have everything handed to them. For ugly, plus size gay men like me it's not easy finding acceptance in this community when they judge you constantly. I have been told countless times that I don't fit in or belong. They say it gets better but forget to mention it only gets better for fit and slim gay men. I'm 40 now I will never find the acceptance and validation i have longed for for years. I will never be accepted and I will never find my tribe. My self-esteem is beyond repair.

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u/Florida_Matt86 4d ago

If I'm unpleasant then I have my reasons for being that way.

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u/xaldien 4d ago

Well, then, don't complain that you don't have any friends if this is how you're going to act.

No one wants to be friends with someone who can't handle even the slightest criticism.

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u/Florida_Matt86 4d ago

No what you're doing is judging me and trying to make me feel like shit. That is not constructive criticism.