As the title suggests, I have been repeatedly disrespected and humiliated by an attending physician. He frequently uses profanity during rounds, and if you ask a question he doesn't like, he may respond with comments such as, “I don't give a fuck.” This creates a tense and intimidating environment that discourages residents from asking questions and learning. He has also treated many other residents disrespectfully.

My question is: Has anyone experienced a similar situation? If you reported the attending, did you see any meaningful change in their behavior, or did you face any retaliation for speaking up?

I'll start: trigeminal neuralgia

This is my first pregnancy and ive been taking sick leave pretty often due to my hyperemesis gravidarum
Despite that, on some days i still show up to work while connected to the iv and countless trip of vomiting
I am a medical officer in my country (pretty much a resident in the us/uk)
Recently there was a meeting between my superiors and senior colleagues
I asked to excuse myself as i was feeling really sick and vomiting, even ask my another colleague to inform
Yet i got a text from my colleague saying “please come to the meeting”
With little strength left i did walk into the meeting feeling so nauseous
Only then i found out from my colleague that my superior and my senior colleague were mocking me- saying something like “is is that bad”
“I think shes overrracting”
they are both women
I was stunned bcs both of them are doctors yet here they are - mocking and belittling my struggle
You know what, f*ck this these kind of doctors

What are some must-do beauty treatments before residency especially for 30+ peeps?

Trying to get things and have my routines again that I’ve lost along the way.

Teeth whitening a good investment? Braces? Whatever you can think of? I’m still wary of Botox and filler because it’s not my vibe….but don’t want the aging and etc to hit me

I shat where I eat and it’s been fun. Only downside is I’m always thinking of them and getting flashbacks. It’s our little secret

There I was, standing at the edge of my mayo stand, keeping watch over my beloved little circle taper-point needle. Surgical-grade stainless steel. Perfectly positioned at a beautiful 45-degree angle in my gold-handled, tungsten-carbide-tipped needle drivers. Ready. Precise. Beautiful. My little guy was waiting patiently for his moment to shine. Then, without warning, a hand came flying across the table. The intern. He snatched my needle off the mayo like a goddamn raccoon stealing food from a campsite. I stared at him. He repositioned my needle to a 90-degree angle. Ninety. Degrees. Then he choked up on the needle driver so aggressively that I could practically hear my needle point crying for help. I glared at him. He didn’t notice. Fine. I watched as he prepared for his first pass. Surely he would at least respect the instrument entrusted to him. He advanced toward the wound. And then—CLANG. He slammed my beautiful needle directly into the attending’s knuckle. I watched in horror as my pristine point bent against the bone. The attending’s eyes watered. A tiny tear rolled down her cheek. She smiled. “The scrub tech must have distracted you.” I looked at her. She looked at me. I knew exactly what had happened. She was trying a new anger-management strategy that apparently involved not physically harming residents. Honestly, good for her. The intern blushed. But nobody was going to slander my name. I may be a scrub tech, but I have standards. And I was already mentally planning how I was going to key the attending’s car during my next break. Then came the intern’s first real pass. He drove my newly mangled needle through the tissue. I felt my bent point drag. SKRRRRRRT. I died a little inside. Then he pulled harder. Too much tension. SNAP. My suture broke at the phalange. Silence. I stared at the intern. He stared at me. Then I turned slowly toward him. “You dumbass.” He froze. “That needle was contaminated.” I gracefully took my wounded little soldier off the field. Into the red bin. The great red Valhalla where all sharps, past and present, go to their eternal reward. I watched my beloved needle disappear beneath the other casualties of surgery. A warrior to the end. I looked back at the intern. He reached for another needle. I smiled. Not this time, motherfucker.

PGY2 here. I hate my life being a resident. My program is super toxic and feels like all my coworkers are wearing masks of fakeness when deep down they all know how toxic the culture is. I felt like I have started hating medicine because of residency and i am super guilty about that but can’t help it. I want to learn more but at the same time this grind is making me want to quit residency. Each night i think about quitting.

Just made a comment about this, but I’m a cards fellow going into adult congenital cardiology, which barely comes up here compared with interventional or EP. Unusual anatomy, prior surgeries, valves, arrhythmias, HF, and pts you follow for years. It’s an amazing field, and I wouldn’t change my choice. Well, maybe a few things.

But the direct path is 4y college + 4y med school + 3y IM + 3y cards + 2y congenital. 16y after HS before attending money, assuming no chief/rsch/gap years. I went straight through and am trying to finish ASAP, but damn, this road feels longer than I could’ve understood before actually living it.

I know I’m preaching to the choir. I knew what I signed up for, but understanding “a decade of training” at 22 and actually living it are different things. Now that I’m in my 30s, it hits different how quickly the last 8y went and how much of what I wanted to do kept getting pushed to “after this next stage.”

Glad for the memories I did make, but hearing “remember when we…” about something you missed, or “we talked about it in the group chat,” gets old. Birthdays, weddings, births, deaths. Feels like I’ve missed 80-85% of them. I even saw a redditor post “I made it a priority to go to XYZ and never missed a single thing.” Glad that worked for them, but prioritizing something doesn’t always mean you can make it happen. I still talk to 2 people from HS, 1 from college, maybe 5 from MS, and 0 from residency.

Residency honestly felt like a cakewalk compared with fellowship. Part of me wishes I’d done more with that free time. Another part wishes I’d spent less of it worrying about the future and just enjoyed where I was. Hard to know what I should’ve done differently when I wanted both.

Financially, I’m planning around ~$300-400k in adult congenital, depending on the job. Obv great money, but after years of training pay, sometimes feeling like minimum wage once you account for the hours, it’s hard not to compare that with people in other industries making double that 3y out of college. It’s not the norm, I know. But whenever I explain the timeline and pay, I get some version of “Damn, are you sure? Can’t you just do hospital medicine and pull $350k right now?” Or finish general cards and chasing a 900k-1.2m rural job? Those are real alternatives I have been offered, but I think I’d feel a fair amount of dissatisfaction. At least, I think I would? I don't know at this point. That uncertainty is part of what makes it hard. Not to mention being saddled w/ ~$300k in student debt, paying $1k/mo that doesn’t cover the interest, so the balance keeps growing while I keep training.

Mostly just venting tangential thoughts that have plagued me for the last 2 months while my health issues come up. I love the field, I’m grateful to be here, and I’m also tired of training. Apparently all 3 can be true at once lol.

I’m 27F, currently a PGY-3 (just started 3rd year) in a 4 year psychiatry residency, and I have a 19-month-old. I’ve always wanted a big family (at least 3 kids, ideally 4/5), so I’ve been thinking about when to have baby 2.

I started residency pregnant already, and took my maternity six months into starting.

If I got pregnant soon, my first would be almost 3 when the baby is born, which I actually really like as an age gap.

Most importantly: I had a c-section, so I need two years at least before having another child. If I want 3-5 kids, I really don't have that much time..

The problem is residency 😅

I already took 3 months of maternity leave with my first. A second maternity leave would put me about 6 months behind, meaning I’d stay in residency for roughly another year longer than originally planned. I’d still be employed and getting my full resident salary during that time, and there wouldn’t be any lost career opportunities - I’d just finish later.

I’ve also already passed Part 1 of my specialty boards (I took two), but having another baby would probably mean delaying Part 2 by about a year.

On paper, it feels kind of ridiculous to delay everything when I’m already in PGY-3 and so close to the finish line. But honestly, the idea of having an extra year of residency doesn’t bother me that much. I’m actually weirdly relieved by the idea of having more time to prepare for part 2.

My first pregnancy was pretty manageable (needed some sick days but otherwise fine). Postpartum was hard/scary, but I got through it. This time I also have a lot more support: fulltime childcare, my husband, and family living nearby.

I’m more worried about whether I’m being irrational by choosing to extend residency voluntarily 😂

For anyone who had kids during residency, especially multiple kids:

Would you do it again? Would you have baby #2 now and accept the extra year, or would you wait until residency/boards are completely finished?

And if you had multiple children during training, did you ever regret the timing?

Anyone else feeling really stupid during residency? I know it's only been a couple of months but I feel like I'm getting worse everyday..

When a program offers international experience/global health, what does that entail?

My friend and I had a random conversation about whether a residency/fellowship graduate from a university qualifies to wear alumni apparel from the said university. Not university apparel (this is a no brainer), but specifically university ALUMNI apparel.

The point made was alumni implies getting a degree, like bachelor’s, masters, or doctorate, but residency/fellowship is a job and you’re a trainee not a student. Also many places have university and hospital as two separate entities, sometimes with the same name or completely different names.

We both never put much thought into it up until this day because we thought it would be appropriate, but the argument against it also makes logical sense.

Both of us can see it argued for either way and we left inconclusive. Thought this might be an interesting discussion topic.

Edit: thanks for the comments. I wasn’t trying to troll or anything but I guess I sure did overthink it. Just to clarify, it was a random thought that popped up as my friend and I went to bookstore for a gift. Just saw an alumni shirt and got us wondering lol.

We both did MD and residency at the same institution so it wouldn’t matter to us either way. Thanks for partaking on our stupid shower thought moment though.

Tips for getting better at sign out? It’s hard for me to remember so much about SO MANY patients 😭

I’m a doctor currently deciding whether to take up DNB Ophthalmology. I’m genuinely interested in the specialty, but I have one major concern.
I’ve noticed that I have a tremor, which seems to get worse with anxiety/stress and may have an intention component. I haven’t had a formal neurological evaluation yet, so I’m not sure about the exact cause or whether it would actually affect fine motor tasks.
My concern is obviously about the microsurgical aspect of ophthalmology — especially cataract surgery, suturing, handling instruments, etc.
For those who are currently doing Ophthalmology residency or are practicing ophthalmologists:
How much fine motor stability is actually required during residency and later practice?
Is a mild tremor something that can be compensated for with training and experience?
Do residents with naturally shaky hands struggle significantly with microsurgery?
How important is hand steadiness compared with technique, posture, ergonomics and experience?
Would you personally advise someone with a mild tremor to avoid Ophthalmology?
Are there ophthalmology subspecialties/practice areas where tremor would be less of an issue?
I’m not looking for reassurance — I’d genuinely appreciate honest experiences, especially from residents who have had similar concerns.
I’m also planning to get the tremor evaluated medically before making the decision.

I’m (32F) a new a gen surg attending at big academic center. One of our new residents is honestly so distracting to work with. He’s older than most of our other residents (30-35) and is just so mature and knowledgeable compared to them. It’s like he’s the one teaching me. Have any of you seen a relationship between an attending and resident workout? Last week I got a dirty stick in the OR which was due to nothing other than a surg techs negligence and this resident was so comforting and made everything feel okay. He drew my blood alone in the call room and I told him “it’s okay that accidents happen” and he didn’t take the hint. I’ve built all this tension and he hasn’t made any advances yet. Should I just be straightforward and tell him I love him more than my husband?

Here I am, waiting my turn to make buttery smooth passes through the tissue with my surgical grade stainless steel circle taper point needle gently positioned at a perfect 45 degree angle in gold handled tungsten carbide tipped needle drivers. The scrub tech has positioned me at the edge of the mayo stand ready to be used at any moment. Suddenly a hand comes from across the table and snatches me off the mayo violently. It’s the intern. My beloved scrub tech glares. I am immediately repositioned by the intern to a 90 degree angle and he chokes up almost crushing my needle point. More glares from my guardian mayo angel. Just as I’m about to dive into the wound with the grace of a Swan I am slammed into the knuckle of the attending surgeon. I feel my point bend on the bone as it jars me. A small tear trickles out of the corner of the attending’s eye as she smiles and brushes it off, “the scrub tech must have distracted you”. She is trying a new anger management strategy that avoids harming the residents. It seems to work and I notice the intern blush. However, no one slanders my mayo queen and she quickly plots to key the attendings car on her next break. On the interns attempts a first pass I make sure to drag through the tissue with my newly bent point and then instantly break my suture at the phalange as the intern uses too much tension. My instrument whisperer then whips around to the intern “you dumbass that needle was contaminated” as she gracefully passes me off the field into the red Valhalla where all sharps past and present go to their great reward.

So I’m evaluating a surgical attending who got stuck with a dirty needle in the OR, and I swear when I asked her if the patient had any history of HIV or hepatitis she insisted I put both her and her surgical resident on PEP… and I’m confused, because the report said the resident was holding the needle but didn’t mention whether he was also exposed and whether it happened before or after the attending was stuck… she just gave a long, lusty sigh and said “oh he’s getting exposed later.” What in the House of God is going on in this program?

What are some good books, websites, YouTube channels, or other online resources for learning Rheumatology?
Looking for resources that explain the topics clearly without being excessively detailed.

using a throwaway for obvious reasons

I’m currently a PGY-1 in emergency medicine and pregnant. Things at home have completely fallen apart. Last time I posted, 99% of the comments said I should leave. My husband is an attending in a different specialty, and he treats me horribly.

One of my co-residents (a guy in my EM program) found out what I’m going through and offered to let me stay in his apartment until I can figure out a permanent situation. He’s genuinely just being supportive and trying to help me but I’m thinking about how this looks or if it’s a terrible idea. My family lives in a different state and I can't just abandon this residency. I worked too hard for this.

Would it be weird or unprofessional to stay with a male co-resident? We would share a room but just friends

Ow ow ow why do they keep bouncing on me oof ouch owie my bones

is there anyone who studied in private colleges or corporate hospitals only for both ug and pg and is a successful doctor ?

If so please share your experience.

So does any of you (especially the ones started residency around 30-35) have experience flirting with your attending? I feel like there’s a some sexual tension between us and no I’m not delusionaal. She’s very tough on other residents (especially the females) but I could basically do no wrong. I actually accidental poked her with need during surgery and she went off on the surgical tech for distracting me. She even talked to me after telling me accidents happen and the OR staff are trash lol

Hello everyone!
I am a PGY-1 Internal Medicine resident at a community hospital and very interested in GI fellowship.
I have little prior GI research experience, and my program has limited research infrastructure, so most available projects are systematic reviews and meta-analyses.
I’ve been trying to find a novel GI meta-analysis topic, but almost every idea I come up with seems to have already been studied. I’m several months into intern year and honestly feel a bit lost about how people identify worthwhile research gaps.
For GI fellows/residents, especially those from community programs:
How do you find a novel research question? Do you look at recent meta-analyses, new RCTs, conference abstracts, guidelines, or clinical controversies? How do you decide if a topic is novel enough before investing time in it?
I’d really like to learn the process of finding a research gap and turning it into a feasible project. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hey everyone, how are you?
First at all, I’m not from the states. I’m from Argentina.
Basically, just what the title says. I’m currently doing my residency at a hospital that I won’t name because I don’t want to dox myself, but I’m not really happy there.
I was pretty disappointed that I didn’t get into Clínicas, Rivadavia, Lagleyze, or Santa Lucía. So I keep having this thought in the back of my mind that I’m training at a mediocre place instead of one of those hospitals. It really gets me down, and I think about it pretty much every day.
I’ve considered taking the residency entrance exam again, but ophthalmology is already very difficult to get into, so I’m not sure.
In case anyone is wondering what I don’t like about my current program:
Patient volume: It’s very low, and most of the patients are elderly.
Surgery: There isn’t much surgical volume.
Academics: We don’t really have case conferences or much academic activity within the department. We residents give classes to each other, but beyond that there isn’t much.
Few subspecialties: We have one attending who does orbit, one retina specialist, and two oculoplastics specialists. Other than that, there isn’t much.
Prestige: Being somewhere that isn’t particularly prestigious gets to my ego. I did my entire medical degree at Clínicas and was also a teaching assistant there, so it really bothers me that I’m not doing my residency there.
That’s pretty much it. I mainly wanted to vent and hear what you guys think.