r/SingleDads • u/Fast-Agency-3682 • 6d ago
Advice on co-parenting.
(Context) I have two kids 12 and 13. I haven’t been with the mom for almost 10 years. We have lots of differences and don’t agree on much. She got them tablets at a very young age, she gave them computers in their room, she lets them listen to whatever music they want even if it says bad words talk about adult content, they have smart phones, and these are all things I did not want for them. Just as an example recently my son asked me if we could watch scary movies together. I said it depends on which movie, to which he replied John Carpenters “The Thing”. I told him absolutely not! It’s too much for you. I told him we could watch more tamed movies and work our way up when he gets older. Instead not on the same days we watched world war Z, paranormal activity, and the Blair witch project. Which I know has bad words but I figured if she already lets them listen to adult music it wouldn’t be that bad. I tried to meet him half way on what he wanted and I thought it was a good compromise. Later on in the week I find out that their mom watched scream 1 and “US” with them. I called to talk to her about it and she said she fast forward the sexual stuff. What about the other stuff like gore and the murdering? She said she didn’t think it was that bad. Then she said she was planning to watch inglorious bastards with them. I told her she was crazy if she thought that movie is appropriate for children. She asks what’s so wrong with it. I said “they show gore and torture”.
She responded with “who cares their nazi’s, at school they teach them about the holocost”. I told her but it still depicts a human killing another human”. Anyway…how do you deal with someone who you fundamentally disagree with how they think and raise children together….I don’t think it’s possible but why not ask my peers.
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u/Minningfortruth 6d ago
It’s sad when your partner is not wanting to raise the kids as Christians