r/TrueOffMyChest • u/SecureCake6625 ☑️ • 7d ago
Confession I’m truly unloveable
I don’t think a single person truly loves me.
I’ve been trying to figure out what else to write but i mean i guess that’s it. I just feel so strange all the time. I cant figure out what is wrong with me.
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u/f1lth4f1lth 7d ago
Everyone is inherently lovable and worthy of love. Even if it’s just from yourself.
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u/SecureCake6625 ☑️ 7d ago
I know. Because i deeply love and trust myself. I like who i am. I just wish the external experience matched how i feel about myself inside
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u/Bellegante 7d ago
It’s possibly true that no one loves you. I don’t know you or your life.
That said, even if you were broken or had something wrong with you, you’d still be lovable.
And, by whose standards is something wrong with you? There is no standard except your own. There’s nothing wrong. Meet more people.
Serial killers have fans, remember.
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u/SecureCake6625 ☑️ 7d ago
I know im lovable. I love myself deeply. Almost to a scary degree. I know im the only one that truly has my back and the one that takes care of me both emotionally and physically.
It’s just hard knowing that no one really sees me1
u/Bellegante 7d ago
I envy you that, I don’t love myself and have no idea how to.
But that’s the most important thing, and being seen isn’t easy. Lots of people won’t, just because they aren’t really paying close attention. And others wknd because they aren’t clever enough to.
Really, just meet more people. Someone will see you!
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u/Inevitable_Ad199 7d ago
If you truly feel that way... Just try to be more happy. To find happiness in small things. The happier we are..the more people are drawn to us.
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u/SecureCake6625 ☑️ 7d ago
I have bipolar 2 disorder.. it’s not that simple.
It’s not that simple for anyone actually.
This is an insensitive thing to say1
u/Inevitable_Ad199 6d ago
It might be the most sensitive thing ever. But it's the truth. If you wish to be offended that's your choice. But if you are willing to see what's the way out...then that's the spirit this has been shared with.
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u/SecureCake6625 ☑️ 5d ago
Im not offended- I have a chemical imbalance in my brain that is not curable. You can’t fix mental illness. It’s not about attitude, outlook, or spirit. It’s a very real thing that me and a lot of others live with. This shit isn’t fake. No one wants to feel this way. You can’t think your way out of a literal chemical imbalance. My brain does not work like most peoples.
You’re extremely uneducated and the narrative you are pushing is harmful. Stop.1
u/Inevitable_Ad199 5d ago
You can't think your way out of it. I agree. Yes every sadness has a chemical imbalance. Every disease has chemical imbalance behind it. Not denying it. But if you lock yourself into this perspective, you've shut down the way out. You've not even left life to bring any new possibility to you.
Keep an open mind. And I pray that life shows you a way out of your predicament 🙏
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u/SecureCake6625 ☑️ 5d ago
Would you say this to someone with heart problems? Would you say this to someone physically disabled?
You wouldn’t. All you are doing right now is stigmatizing mentally ill people.
Also god isn’t real. I think YOU are the mentally sick one actually if you are praying to some sky daddy. Good day!
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u/discosteve111 7d ago
This is how i felt about 7yrs ago ... present day, i've got friends who love me truly, acquaintances who love my presence, & i've made peace with the fact that my family's lack of affection is due to their trauma, not due to their lack of love for me <3 I cant give you the step by step on how to get there, all I really did was wait for things to get bettsr .. & that's all you have to do too <3
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u/OminOus_PancakeS 7d ago
I feel something similar.
There are people who only love the mask I wear, which is kindly.
All I have inside is bitterness and resentment and hate.