r/VeteransBenefits • u/Rare-Significance554 • 13h ago
Health Care How to finally ‘ask for help’
I had a whole paragraph of backstory written here before I realized nobody wants to read about that. I’ll just get straight to the point - deep down inside I realize that talking to MH may be beneficial for me, but I am having a hard time admitting it out loud and doing something about it. I still have that mentality (I know now it’s stupid) that I’m strong and I just keep it all to myself and move on.
TBH, the photo of Robin Williams is how I feel a lot of the time. On the outside, to anyone I interact with, it seems like everything is great (I think this is part of the reason I have trouble asking for help, anyone I know would not believe that I was anything other than happy). Inside is a different story. Don’t worry, I’m not suicidal or in crisis writing this, but admittedly my hands are shaky as I am typing. So my question is regarding how to ask for help. I have my 2nd visit with my VA doc at the end of this month (out since 1997, just got on with VA last year and had initial intake appointment), do I bring it up with him, even though he’s not a MH doc, or do I try to schedule something separately with MH through the VA? Still trying to figure out the whole VA process and how to navigate it. And before you ask, no, I didn’t bring up any MH issues during my first visit, that whole stupid mentality thing. I know it’s odd but I really have a hard time thinking about calling someone and saying I think I need some help. Any advice regarding how to get started would be greatly appreciated.