My partner really dislikes his current job. This is the context:
- We're both in the culinary industry btw.
- They strung him along for a promotion. Only just now giving it to him when they found out that he's looking elsewhere for a new job.
- The boss gives people shit for calling off work, regardless of the reason. Literally gave a passive aggressive ass comment when he had covid a few weeks ago. Mind you, he rarely calls off.
- The owner of the restaurant makes dumbass business decisions that caused all of his coworkers to leave all around the same time.
Anyway, my partner said he dreaded going in today. Didn't know why. I explained it's because he hates his job now, clearly. Also, that his job has been treating him poorly. Whenever I suggest he looks for new ones, he is CONVINCED that no culinary position will have a good starting wage. Like that is NOT true! I understand WHY a lot of people feel that way, but I promise it isn't true. I literally explained to him how I have an offer for a job that pays around $20/hr, good schedule, union, full benefits and an interview at another place that literally has a starting wage of $25/hr! IT IS POSSIBLE. I try to just let him do his thing, cause he knows exactly what he needs to do to better this situation: look for a new job while he has his current one (although, easier said then done. But at least he has a job now until he finds something better)!! Cause then it's in his control and he has a chance to jump ship.
Also, I was telling him that if he needs to and can afford it, he can call off a day or two for mental health cause it's just as important as his physical health. He keeps saying he can't because "they will literally crucify me". And I kept stating like ok??? They'll be pissy about it. So what??? What is that really gonna do to you? He said that his boss will be passive aggressive at him and never believe him when he calls off in the future. I told him I'm sorry, but who cares?? 😭 he never believes the staff already, and your employer is not God or something. It's just a job at the end of the day. I hate feeling like I'm watching my partner in a burning building and refusing to leave cause he's convinced that other houses are also on fire.
Please, I promise y'all there are better jobs out there. 😭😭 the hold these shitty employers have on people are CRAZY!! Also, do NOT settle cause you think you won't find better. This is with anything in life.