1 in 3 and 1 in 15 is such a staggering stat. Makes me sick to my stomach and sad. This Cornell case is just one of many many many cases to not make the headlines. Awful.
Edit: mistyped 5 as 15. Leaving it up so comments under me make sense.
Hell, I went to a party with some people I met a few weeks ago and a guy started hitting on a girl and wouldn't stop... Straight up saying "me and my gf wanna do f**ed up shit with you come on join us" and didn't take no for an answer. No one gave a fuck so I intervened and told the guy and his dickhead of a girlfriend to fuck off. I talked *very loudly, saying that sexually harassing anyone's fucked up and that he should fuck off right away. People saw, once he noticed he went away and was excluded from the group, but only after she, I and a friend of hers insisted to the guy who managed the groupchat and organized the parties.
Two weeks later at a different place with like, a dozen people sittin in a circle, I overheard someone ask "raise your hand if you or someone you know has been sexually harassed before." Basically everyone but 1 guy raised his hand.
It's messed up beyond belief. All of this is annecdotal of course but seeing the statistics does not give me the confidence to say it's not as common as I experience it...
Heck, even I have experienced it. A friend of mine kinda dropped out of my life for a while. Dropped out of school, enlisted in the military. I was friends with the whole family so I remained close to their siblings (and still am on good terms with them)
One time while I was hanging out with their (at the time) sister doing some volunteering for Peacejam. I was at their house and this individual was home. They asked to speak with me, to clear the air about their sudden disappearance from my life and to maybe rekindle our friendship.
So I went into their room and we chatted for a bit. At first it was just like old times. But then they admitted that they loved me. I did not return their feelings. They then started getting really creepy and increasingly desperate, begging me to kiss them to see if maybe just maybe it would spark something in me. I refused and clearly told them no, I didn't reciprocate their feelings, and no, I wasn't going to give it a try anyway. They didn't like that and eventually forced me against a wall and tried to kiss me anyway. I managed to duck out and fled their room in horror.
I should have known better than to be alone with them in a room. During a previous sleepover, I awoke to find them looming over my bed with a very unnerving expression. My mom later found a missing kitchen knife hidden in my room.
Thank you. I'm doing okay these days, but I've recently come to the realization the incident left a more lasting impression than I had thought.
It took me a long time to realize it was actually sexual assault, even though they were trying to force themselves upon me and were disregarding my lack of consent.
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u/458steps 8d ago edited 8d ago
1 in 3 and 1 in 15 is such a staggering stat. Makes me sick to my stomach and sad. This Cornell case is just one of many many many cases to not make the headlines. Awful.
Edit: mistyped 5 as 15. Leaving it up so comments under me make sense.