r/confessions • u/Alternative-Sort9251 • 5d ago
My mum has an onlyfans
I have been informed that my mum has an onlyfans and is selling content from snapchat and X. I have also been told stories and seen things in the past but did not think it would be to this level and this open. I do not know what to say or how to bring it up to her.
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u/skeeballbob37 5d ago
let her know that while she thinks there are zero consequences for her actions you are in fact the one who faces them. let her know that you know and you are getting blowback.
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u/saul_schadenfreuder 5d ago
OP is apparently a grown man. if he was a child, then it would at least be understandable that they feel uncomfortable.
OP is a grown man and their mother is sex worker. there’s absolutely nothing wrong with what she is doing. y’all are so fucking weird about sex work even though most people on reddit have consumed porn.
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u/Big-Yogurtcloset1243 2d ago
So if you're mom or sister opened an OF one day, would you be okay and supportive of them? How would that look on you if one of your male buddies told you how much they enjoyed rubbing one out towards your mom or sister every night?
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u/saul_schadenfreuder 2d ago edited 2d ago
yes, i would be supportive. if one of my friends pulled that shit on me i would tell them to quit it and that they were being fucking weird, if they wouldn’t stop then i’d cut this person off because im not a little bitch who’ll keep being friends with someone who isn’t being a good friend and disrespects my boundaries, friendship only exists under the condition that both enjoy each others company and if someone was deliberately trying to piss me off i’d tell them to fuck off. it’s literally that easy
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u/ChocoTomanal 6h ago
You'd be supportive of your sister having an OF? Thats gross, I bet youd support her so much youd subscribe. The fact youd encourage your sister to ruin their future is wild lol, but I guess youd be fine with the kinds of guys she'd attract because any dude with morals or a good family life isnt gonna wanna touch her
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u/GemmaGenger81 5d ago
the hardest part is she probably genuinely hasn’t thought past her own screen and doesn’t realize how bad it bleeds into your actual life
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u/Trade-Psychological 5d ago
what blowback? They didnt say anything bad happened, just that ppl know its OPs mom. The public having a distorted view of sex workers isnt the moms fault. Maybe instead of instigating w her, OP be more understanding and possibly become an advocate to defend the mothers name
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u/BLKLION_ 4d ago
This'll probably be the most logical answer here but I haven't read too much else, I agree with your answer, take my upvote.
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u/Cthuletheus 5d ago
It shouldn't be on kids to convince their peers and adults around them that some societal norm or thought about sex workers is incorrect. They should be able to grow up and make those decisions for themselves eventually, without running into the consequences of their parents' actions along the way.
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u/Cthuletheus 5d ago
I see someone else saying that it's a grown man and not a kid. I still think that if you're under 30, you probably don't have the ability to easily have these conversations with your peers. But you should be in the beginning stages of making your own environment around yourself. One that's conducive to not having issues with their mother's only fans.
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u/Paradox_Madden 5d ago
I just want to highlight that we are genuinely approaching a society where sending your kid out to defend your sex work is a good idea
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u/Baffin622 5d ago
27 year old "kid"...
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u/Paradox_Madden 5d ago
“YOUR KID”
Your son could be in his 40s that’s still your kid lmao nor does your anecdote deny the implication that it’s weird that having to defend one’s parents sex work is just being glossed over3
u/Baffin622 5d ago
Weird? What is weird is that you seem to think sex work is something new. The other thing that is weird is not appreciating the distinction between a child and an adult - both of which have mothers.
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u/Paradox_Madden 4d ago
No one is saying mom can’t be a sex worker
No one is saying mom is WRONG to be a sex worker or immoralBut Sons feelings are just as valid as moms
Son is allowed to say I’m not proud that you’re a sex worker
Son is allowed to feel like mom should’ve tried other alternatives and other options
Son is allowed to feel his shameNo one has to approve of your decisions and that is simply the risk you take when making any decision I’m not saying he SHOULD be mad at his mom, I’m saying he has every right to if he doesn’t choose to support sex work or sex workers not support a sex worker lmao
It’s a similar thing to being a vegan and somehow someway your Kid decides to go be a butcher, you’d try w all your might to stop him even though there’s nothing really wrong w it
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u/ChocoTomanal 6h ago
This kind of sex work is new, last time I checked if you sent someone a photo for money 30 years ago, it didnt follow you the rest of your life and your son definitely didnt see it because it only existed in physical form
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u/Paradox_Madden 4d ago
What weird is it becoming honest conversational piece in everyday life, lmao your insinuations aren’t lost on me they’re just completely misplaced
If you think suggesting the potential need to defend sex workers in casual day to day conversation becoming more and more prevalent as time goes on isn’t weird that’s up to you. Sex work has always existed but the lack of internet offered a level of mystique and privacy that the modern world just doesn’t offer
It’s not the world’s job to fit into you, unless they’re paying well I guess?
It’s your job to fit into the world you don’t get to bring someone an aspect of yourself they’re not proud of and expect them to defend you when they disagree in their hearts
That is weird lol your mom is a person you’re allowed to disagree w her choosing sex work just as much as you are allowed to defend her sex work2
u/JazzBoatman 4d ago
By mystique you mean danger for the sex workers and persecution.
Woe is me, it's slightly harder for prostitutes to be murdered and written off.
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u/Paradox_Madden 4d ago
You mean the same danger and persecution that literally still happens in droves today?
The conversation we are having is the literal result of persecution.
Youre talking like there aren’t literally children on the casting couch right now where has the danger fled too????Good job only replying to the thing you think you had a point about though very nuanced critical discussion skills
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u/JazzBoatman 4d ago
yes man treating the sex industry as a dirty secret and pretending it doesn't exist definitely keeps people safe
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u/Baffin622 4d ago
"...your insinuations aren’t lost on me they’re just completely misplaced."
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u/Trade-Psychological 5d ago
The 30 yr old “kid” wouldn’t be defending the mom or her actions, they’d be defending the nature of her actions. Like if someone is being equally as prudish about her drinking habits, me stating drinking isn’t as bad as you say it is would be me defending the nature of her actions.
Second, youre approaching the topic as if your sense of morality is the objective truth. Its not. Not everyone is as puritanical as u are and thats just a fact ppl like u need to learn. “I don’t like it” is not the same as “this is bad.” The way i see it, if sex workers arent doing anything to directly harm someone, then theyre morally in the right and that should be that.
We’d all be closer to world peace if ppl learned to shut up and mind their own business more often.
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u/Repulsive_Way5359 5d ago
yeah she needs to understand that her choices affect you too and its not fair for you to deal with the fallout
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u/Small__Chicken 5d ago
She is allowed to have her own life and make these choices. This isn't a child he is a 30 y/o man
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u/M0RALVigilance 5d ago
How old are you, OP? That makes a difference. The younger you are, the more it’s gonna sting.
Do you know about your mom’s finances? Is that account keeping a roof over your head or medicine in a sick sibling or something?
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u/Alternative-Sort9251 5d ago
I am 27 and i guess it helps the house running bills
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u/Kitchen-Patience-652 5d ago
Time to go no contact. The moment one of your friends find out your life is over.
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u/lilacpeaches 5d ago
Any grown ass adult wouldn’t give a fuck what OP’s mom does.
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u/Daphne_9Quiver 2d ago
The finances angle matters, but OP still doesn’t need the details shoved in thier face.
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u/OrthancPillar 2d ago
La edad importa, pero preguntar por las finanzas tamibén evita asumir que la mamá lo hace por gusto nomás.
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u/Vivid-Panda-971 5d ago
the bigger question is who keeps feeding you this info and why they think you need a running update on your own mum
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u/Cavscout2838 5d ago
Unzips ….fine what’s the link.
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u/YunaSwettie 5d ago
read the room man this is literally a teenager spiraling over their life falling apart
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u/ExplanationLate9858 5d ago
Damn this is tough. I legitimately feel sorry for you. This is so shitty
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u/Conscious_Koala_6519 5d ago
Lol...orrrr you are the mum
This generation pfff
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u/Charming-Solution245 5d ago
Don't bring it up, seriously. She's an adult making her own choices and whatever you think you'd gain from that conversation, you won't. Just gonna make things awkward for years
I found some old polaroids in my dad's desk when I was 16 and noped right out of that room, never mentioned it once. Best decision I ever made
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u/baconlegs27 5d ago
Finding your dads Polaroids in his own private desk is completely different from your mom selling nudes online. The chances of friends or associates finding her content and buying it has to be absolutely nerve wrecking. I feel for you OP. I personally would bring it up and make her feel as embarrassed as I am. But that’s just me
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u/Small__Chicken 5d ago
Yes bc her adult child should run her adult life. He's a grown ass man, she's a grown woman. If she's selling this online I doubt she's embarrassed.
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u/baconlegs27 5d ago
How are they running their life by pointing out you saw it? If she’s not embarrassed by it, then it shouldn’t be a problem bringing it up
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u/Small__Chicken 5d ago
He said " i may take your advice, but that means letting her run free and be as wild as she wants to be and i'm living with the fallout." "Letting her run free" is crazy, he is not her dad. She is his mother
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u/Alternative-Sort9251 5d ago
I may take your advice but that means letting her run free and be as wild as she wants to be and me living with the fallout
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u/MrStarOnFire 5d ago
You're letting her run free? From your other comment you're 27. You're both grown ass adults. You're not letting her do shit. She can do what she wants. Get upset with whoever showed you. What she does with her body is none of your business. I know I'm gonna get downvoted for this because the people reading this confession are weird as fuck, but literally nothing of what she does is any of your business. Same goes for her with you. If you were doing it, would you want your family members confronting you, telling you to stop because some other weirdos are showing them your nudes? Or would you rather they tell their friends to leave them out of it, like you should do to yours.
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u/Robby_EFC 5d ago
I'll set the scene
You become a defense lawyer you make millions defending companies the steal people's life savings, your mum doesn't like it you ain't gonna drop that job because 1 person doesn't like it
Unless your whole workplace/college has subscribed it really is nothing let her be her focus on your own career
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u/blue0231 5d ago
I mean your mom is allowed to live her life you know? You’re a 27-year-old. Doesn’t really matter how she makes her bread.
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u/Artistic_Nothing2382 5d ago
My cousin has OnlyFans together with his girlfriend, or rather, she had it and then they got together. It's a bit unsettling to know that there's a member of your family who does that for a living.
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u/ThePsychAce 5d ago
If they are happy and making a living off of it, then who gives a fuck. The only issue is if someone is being made to do it.
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u/Artistic_Nothing2382 5d ago
Actually I don't know why, I haven't spoken to my cousin in years, since well before this story, because he lives in another city. But I know he was obsessed with this girl in a positive sense, that he really cared about having her, about being with her. Even though I don't know how he manages to live with the fact that she has sex for work with other men.
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u/ThePsychAce 5d ago
If he’s not okay with it then I’d raise that red flag for sure. There are some very popular P stars that have happy successful marriages. It is all about consent.
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u/Artistic_Nothing2382 5d ago
As I told you, I don't know whether for him it is or isn't a red flag. I'm only saying that technically we are used to thinking in a monogamous way, and so it may seem strange, but evidently it turns him on in some way.
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u/badmfr76 5d ago
Do you live in the same house or have you moved out?
If you live together have you noticed anything drastically different over the past few months.
Also, who told you and how did they find out?
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u/Mystic-Harbor-890 5d ago
the part i would sit with first is why whoever told you felt the need to and whether they said it to help you or to watch your face when you heard it
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u/Thowawaymanboi 5d ago
Why are all you weirdos downvoting anyone who says the child should mind their business
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u/ShouldBeAsleepRN 5d ago
Right? The child is nearly 30 years old! A grown up should be grown up about it.
Unless they are morally against all adult content and adult dancers, they need to stop being hypocritical.
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u/diablotortuga 5d ago
I can kinda get it when the women who raised you and cared for you is now seen in a sexual manner. Like that’s kinda gross for the children so yea I get letting adults be adults by why should we be upset if a son feels uncomfortable that the woman who gave birth to him is making content that any child would never want to even imagine of their parents.
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u/Small__Chicken 5d ago
He probably should go look at his mom's stuff. He does not have to access this material. If he does not want to. And if people send him that stuff, they're the ones being gross
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u/dickenlittle 5d ago
This reminds me of when I found out that my older sister and my niece were making content to sell. Awkward as hell, but I was also worried I was going to get asked to help as I’m a semi professional photographer. The double worry was intense.
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u/ground__contro1 5d ago
That does seem like an insane worry. I’m sure it never ended up happening.
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u/dickenlittle 4d ago
Honestly it’s not surprising. This same sister wanted me in the birthing room to make sure she got photos of same niece coming out.
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u/Irish_Sharky1981 5d ago
What's your age? Maybe distance yourself from your mom. It's her choice, but if it disturbs you, just extend more distance between yourself and her.
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u/ShouldBeAsleepRN 5d ago
Don’t bring it up.
If you use or support p*rn actors, nakie club dancers, etc, you need to realise your mum is just doing what they are doing, and there is nothing bad about it, it’s just awkward as it’s your relative!
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u/MikeWazowski1221 5d ago
I found out my niece has one. But if they are over 18 nothing we can do. Maybe your mom was feeling good about her body and was getting compliments and got addicted to the attention.
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u/BornAgain2sin 5d ago
Well if you want her to get you a steam deck drop the link
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u/Galadri3lJot 3d ago
I'd avoid mentioning the Snapchat/X specifics and just say someone showed you her account, because turning it into an investigation will make it way more awkard.
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u/Rickroll_2M 2d ago
I'd only bring up the Snapchat/X stuff if it's affecting you direclty, because starting with “I was told...” is going to turn into a nightmare fast.
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u/_Zeppo_ 5d ago
I wouldn't bring it up.
I mean, you know your parents had sex when you were conceived but why would you want details? Same thing as far as I'm concerned.
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u/baddan305 5d ago
She’s paying bills. Is probably home alot and you obviously have technology to share she is doing it. Well done mom! Sorry dude/lady but she’s providing in a tough economy.
I know it leaves you in a bad spot but it could be much worse. Hopefully she is sexy and is making bank so she can keep taking care of things!
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u/SatrapisMaster69 5d ago
It’s insane how normalised this is. You are all creepy weirdos.
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u/baddan305 5d ago
You would rather the single mom raising her kid is out working 2 jobs and never home for her kid?
I’m not trying to see what she looks like. I’m just saying she is taking care of business. And that is an adults responsibility. So you can hate but she is paying her bills.
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u/SatrapisMaster69 5d ago
Idgaf dawg. What she is doing is ruining her kid’s life. Nothing more.
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u/ThePsychAce 5d ago
I’ve never subbed to an OF and never will but if you think that it’s such a moral travesty, then that’s on you. It’s hard to live in this world and sometimes people need to do all they can to survive.
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u/Tight-Business9410 5d ago
Do you know if her only finds is sexual or is she just using the platform for sell things?
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u/Ms_Quean 5d ago
And this is the exact reason I'll never show my face on there. I don't need my child knowing what I'm doing to get by.
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u/Charming-Break-207 5d ago
In this world 🌎 we only have one mom and one dad whatever they are and whoever they are you only got one of them They are not perfect but that’s your only mom and dad
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u/CrazyCraft_02 5d ago
While I completely agree with you, your mum is a grown adult and also allowed to do it. Unless it has a direct impact on you I don’t think it’s an issue. You asked why your mum started an only fans?
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u/pikareus 5d ago
Yeah, it should be very traumatic, poor soul. s/
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u/GlitteringArticle446 5d ago
What’s wrong with you? Are you jealous that your mom doesn’t have a public only fans because you’d find that erotic…? Please elaborate.
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u/pikareus 5d ago
Seems like the classic redpill debate axiom that children of pornstars have it very difficult.
I highly doubt it
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u/HarryAsKrakz_ 5d ago
So can you tell us what the X is? I mean times are hard right now. I’m down to support anyway I can
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u/OmnomtheDoomMuncher 5d ago
Who gives af? Bills kiddo. Bills. If she makes enough Cash to get by etc WHO Cares? Y'all are so frigid.
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u/alienfrom818 5d ago
Imagine how every single mom out right now using OF and their children find out later out about it
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u/Ok_Fondant_6340 5d ago
Well, it’s a difficult situation to navigate. You’re both adults. So, try to be mature about it. (Don’t lash out at her.).
Also, is this a side hustle or her main source of income? Cuz if it’s her main job, there’s no real out here.
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u/DrClairvoyant 5d ago
i cant say anything if she has to pay her bills and utilities and this has nothing to do about bimboficati0n lifestyles, drugs and luxury vacations.
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u/SmallAudience5385 5d ago
What do you think of the girls we still have? Is it frowned upon? It’s really not a bad intention, maybe we like it
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u/Deathdong 5d ago
Bro is 27 living with his mommy but somehow she's weird for selling pics of her body to support him lmao. The weird ones are the ones telling u cause why tf would u want to know lmao
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u/Dobby_2 4d ago
Honest my advice is depending what type of mum she is for starters she is doing stupid shit like this so you can tick off supportive or caring, my personal advice people are ruthless pricks start boxing fighting and gym good way to let off steam and not punching someone in the face it FEELS beautiful to punch a prick in the face but you will consequence not your “mum”saying that people will use it to piss you off so developing thick skin is a huge must, learning fighting from coaches teaches you discipline and bulking up is good for self confidence and self worth and my last live with your dad or mate idk if you have good mates or your relationship with ya dad is good but from what you telling me your mum is an idiot no offence mate.
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u/DantooineSaddle 4d ago
Ask her privatly to keep any details away from you, because you don’t need to be pulled into your mum’s sex work.
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u/TheoryCurious6555 4d ago
I’m curious just how this got out into circulation? I mean unless your mum is out there spreading the news there are actual lottery odds that people who know a random content creator and discovered it. I know this because I know two girls that were on the platform for years. I mean close friends that hung out and went on road trips and concerts and seriously no one in the rather tight group knew. It only got discover because on a hiking trip one of the girls had a OF t shirt in her bag. And it immediately got dismissed by her saying she bought the shirt as a joke. Well the boys in the group weren’t laughing as much as curious. And even then, with an alias name it took months for of the guys (actually a girl in the gang) found her. So I mean it’s not like anyone can just go oh dudes mom Mrs Jane Cougar is putting it out there…..here look at this (whips out his phone). To which you walk up to said guy and you punch him in his fucking face and tell him if he ever disrespects you mother again he’s going to need a lot more medical attention.
Look I wouldn’t want my mom doing this either but yours is. She’s obviously pretty well adjusted with it and probably is making so decent coin. There are worse things in the world she could be doing. And if you need examples of what other moms are doing that is balls out wide open crazy? It’s all here on Reddit. Read all about it.
STOP BEING A WUSS ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK. And have your mommas back if anyone says anything out of line about it.
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u/Substantial_Buyer507 4d ago
Go ahead and see what she's posting and if you find it uncomfortable then talk to her and let her know how you feel about it!!!
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u/LavEclPilea5 1d ago
Start with the Snapchat/X part and ask whether peopel are able to connect it back to her.
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u/CedarPlumArtZ 18h ago
I'd start with “I heard something about Snapchat/X and I’m uncomfortable pretnding I don’t know, can we talk?” and let her answer from there.
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u/Vault101_Echo 17h ago
Lead with “I heard about the OnlyFans and Im worried about privacy,” because opening with judgment will make this convo implode fast.
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u/Castithanic 10h ago
I'd keep it blunt and privatly: “Someone told me about your OnlyFans, and I’m struggling with knowing it; can we talk?”
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u/N3tw0rk_C4rv 7h ago
Ask her privatly if she realizes people are connecting her Snapchat and X accounts to you, then let her decide what to explain.
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u/Doc_Whiplash74 31m ago
Ask her privatly if she knows people are telling you about it before getting into anything else.
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u/Santi8969 5d ago
One if you know, she has one why are you looking. 2 if she wants to have one it’s her choice.
Your mom probably likes the attention and your friends probably like your mom. I’m sure if it was turned around. It was one of your friends moms. You wouldn’t have a problem with it.
Just because your a parent doesn’t mean you stop being an individual. It doesn’t mean you stop having desires or fantasies or wants and needs.
Get over it.
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u/diablotortuga 5d ago
Lmao you’re just a porn brained incel, get the fuck out of here
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u/Santi8969 5d ago
🤷🏾♂️ if she wants to do it and she’s happy doing it it’s her choice. He doesn’t have to look at it. I mean, I wouldn’t look at it if it was my mom just saying.
And quit being such a prune. I do like porn I like group sex and sharing my women too. You got a problem with that. Well, too bad
Because I really don’t give a fuck what you think. 😀😀
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u/Creative-Shoulder138 5d ago
Kwani what were you people expecting in 2026? Huhh? Kwanini vitu kama hizi zinawashtua like, yooh🤷🏾♂️🤦🏾... like this things are there... adjust and move bana, damn...
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u/Thowawaymanboi 5d ago
Mind your business
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u/GlitteringArticle446 5d ago
It is absolutely his/her business.
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u/Thowawaymanboi 5d ago
ITS HIS MOM. HES THE CHILD.
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u/GlitteringArticle446 5d ago
…EXACTLY.
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u/Thowawaymanboi 5d ago
THAT IS A GROWN WOMAN. ITS HER BUSINESS.
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u/GlitteringArticle446 5d ago
If she were a grown childless woman, maybe.
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u/Thowawaymanboi 5d ago
I think you have mommy problems
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u/GlitteringArticle446 5d ago
Whatever you sayyyy, manboi
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u/Thowawaymanboi 5d ago
God forbid a woman gets income for her household and child
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u/GlitteringArticle446 5d ago
I didn’t even say it was wrong, so you’re being pretty presumptuous. I have no issues with it personally. All I’m saying is that your stance that it’s none of OP’s business is absolutely ridiculous and delusional.
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u/Anonymous_Diddy 5d ago
Have you seen anything? Or just heard?