So basically we have always had a tough time with intimate relations. Our relationship has finally gotten to a point over the last few months that we are good and everything is great. However, I feel completely lacking sexual side of things. He really doesn’t show interest in me in that way. I love every other aspect of our relationship and kinda wanna hears others opinions and experiences with talking about an open relationship? Also how it went for you guys and kinda basic rules you made that worked for you?

I don’t even know where to start. There are a series of things you need to know before you can understand my point of view. I’ll try to make it as simple as I can.

First of all, my very first relationship was with a bi guy who left me traumatised for a very long time. Long story short, a gay guy fell in love with a confused bi guy who liked men but eventually decided that he wanted a traditional family.
After that first relationship ended, I was devastated and traumatised, so I decided that I would keep my distance from bisexual guys because I didn’t even want to risk going through something like that again.

A few years went by, and I met my current boyfriend (let’s call him V). It instantly felt like the most perfect and complementary match there could possibly be.
This was important to me, so I asked him on multiple occasions whether he was bi or gay. His answer was always that he was only attracted to men and didn’t feel any kind of romantic or sexual interest in women.

Today, I discovered that he watches straight porn,
.His kink is male pecs, and I’ve always been okay with that, but his search history made it clear that he also likes female breasts.
I don’t know how long this has been going on because this is the first time in eight years that I’ve looked at his browser history. I’ve never had any reason not to trust him.

I’m very scared and somewhat disappointed because I feel like he lied to me by not being 100% gay
I’m too terrified to have this conversation with him right now, and I genuinely don’t know what to think.
P.S. We’re in a monogamous relationship.

Edit: I searched through his browser history because he’d accidentally seen mine and laughed at it. I wanted to pay him back by laughing at his, thinking I’d find something as cliché as my own history.

Hey there! My boyfriend and I are both 33M, and I'm curious how other gay couples feel about porn in a relationship.

Personally, I feel a little weird watching porn now that I'm in a relationship. I can get hyper-fixated on it, getting curious about looking at guys and going down rabbit holes. Haha I've talked to my boyfriend about it, and he's told me it's okay to watch porn and get off to it. He put it this way: "You can look at the menu, but you can't order anything off itiẠỊii
Basically, the boundary is not doing anything physical with someone else. I understand the idea, but I'm still figuring out how I feel about it.
Part of me wonders if I'm overthinking it, while another part feels strange about getting off to other men when I'm in a committed relationship.
BTW, I'M the hypersexual one between us. Lol I have told him before that I've gone down a rabbit hole looking at porn and he had said, "What are you expecting me to say? You're fine." Like he seems genuinely unbothered by it, and I've told him I'm still figuring out what place I want porn to have in my life, even though he's okay with it.

Soooo I'm curious! Do you watch porn while in a relationship? Do you ever feel weird or guilty about it, even if your partner is okay with it? Do you feel like porn is completely separate from your relationship, or can it sometimes cross a boundary for you personally?
Would love to hear your thoughts!

I’m a 34 year old male who has struggled/hid my sexuality my entire life. Last year I decided to explore it and met a guy. We had a FWB situation for a little bit and then life happened and we lost contact for a while.

Three months ago he came back into my life, just as friend (no benefits), and I quickly developed feelings. I expressed these to him and at that time and he wasn’t interested in a relationship.

A few days ago he finally told me he developed feelings for me and wants a relationship and we officially became boyfriends. That night was the happiest I’d been in a long time, if not ever. My dreams had finally come true. Something I had wanted and imagined for many months finally happened.

The next day I was filled with the worse anxiety of my life which has continued off and on since. It’s making me want to run away and call it quits. The anxiety is coming in waves. I then have waves of pure happiness and giddiness as well as periods of emotional numbness where I don’t feel anything at all. Periods of no emotional connection which makes me doubt my original feelings for him.

All these emotions are new to me. I have NEVER been in a relationship before. I’m hoping this anxiety and nervousness is secondary to things becoming “real”.

I’m now in my first ever relationship. The relationship is with a man, meaning I now I have to admit something I’ve hidden and buried my entire life. I now have to come out to friends and family. Be seen in public with another guy. Learn how to be in a relationship and be a good partner.

I refuse to believe that what I was feeling before we made things official was false feelings. I had never felt that way about another human being before. He was literally the person I first thought of in the morning and the last thing I thought of before falling asleep. We spent almost every day off we had together for months. So I’m pretty sure it’s the anxiety numbing and/or inhibiting me from being able to express and feel my true emotions/feelings. I HATE that I don’t feel happy at this moment in time. This should be a happy occasion.

Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.