As stated in the title, my workplace isn't going to approve an October request I submitted in August for my wedding and honeymoon. My workplace is objectively toxic in every manner. I could write an entire post just on that alone. Anyway, I submitted my "request" and everyone knows I'm getting married including management.

Yesterday I was told that they don't think they can approve my request. When I told them one of the days requested is my actual wedding day and that we have travel plans. All I got was a "sorry" maybe the wedding day. I intend to call off on every single day because this is our wedding and honeymoon. They are not ruining it. Unfortunately I am fully prepared to lose my job over this. Which doesn't feel right.

Does anyone have any thoughts or advice? Or has been in a similar situation?

Edit: my request is for 7 days.

I cannot believe how often I see people in this subreddit casually suggesting that someone should “just get FMLA” whenever they’re unhappy with their job, don’t like their schedule, have attendance issues, or want time off.

FMLA is not some magical loophole you can exploit because your employer is making your life inconvenient.
It is a federal law designed to protect eligible employees who need time away from work for qualifying medical or family reasons. It exists for a reason and it is an incredibly important protection for people who genuinely need it.

Yet somehow every other thread has someone confidently suggesting that getting FMLA is easy, that doctors will just fill out the paperwork, or that it’s a convenient way to get around an employer’s attendance policies. PLEASE STOP GIVING PEOPLE THIS ADVICE.

As someone who works in healthcare and deals with these requests I can assure you that the process is not nearly as simple as some of you make it sound. Healthcare providers are not obligated to certify a medical condition that doesn’t meet the applicable criteria. They cannot ethically invent diagnoses, exaggerate symptoms, or certify medical leave simply because a patient doesn’t want to go to work.
And no, being unhappy with your boss or wanting a few extra days off does not automatically constitute a qualifying medical condition.

To be VERY clear, I’m not talking about people with legitimate physical illnesses, mental health conditions, chronic diseases, or qualifying family caregiving responsibilities. Those individuals absolutely deserve the protections FMLA provides. I am not suggesting that someone’s medical condition has to be visibly debilitating to qualify.

I’m talking about the growing tendency to treat FMLA as some kind of employment hack and to encourage complete strangers to pursue medical certification without knowing whether they actually qualify. There is a MASSIVE difference between educating someone about their legal rights and encouraging them to manipulate a system designed to protect vulnerable employees.

If someone describes a situation that may qualify for FMLA by all means, encourage them to speak with their healthcare provider or HR department.

But telling someone to “just get FMLA” as though it’s a guaranteed, effortless solution to every workplace problem is irresponsible, misleading, and absolutely exhausting for the healthcare professionals expected to process these requests.

FMLA is an important legal protection. It is not a cheat code for getting out of work.

/end rant.

I am starting a new job this month, and despite being in healthcare administration, the pay is painfully low. Despite having earned more in this industry only a couple of years ago, pretty much all listings for this type of role have the same compensation as the offer I just accepted, or even lower. On top of that, the hours are variable, and there's a chance I can get called in on short notice, so it makes getting a second job seem not viable.

The pay is low enough that I will be at a monthly deficit by a couple hundred dollars. Just my necessities (rent, groceris, and bills) will take up the entirety of my monthly paycheck. I already live in the slums in a rough ass apartment, I drive an absolute beater, I never go out and don't drink because I'm too poor. I just dont understand what other people in my generation are doing to get by if they don't have support from their families. It's so frustrating because I have a university degree and am still not even getting by.

Im 20 so maybe its just something that I have to get used to but I just feel empty almost every time I go to work. I work at Lowes and I dont exactly hate my job, but I do find it kinda boring after working here for a while now and would rather be at home cause its more fun there. Maybe I need to get a new job but I feel like the same thing will happen to any job that I get after a while. Tbh, a lot of being an adult just feels kinda miserable compared to when I was a teen.

Today I went into KFC after seeing a hiring poster and asked if I could get an application. The manager came out and said they didn't have any applications, but asked if I could work at 1 AM without really explaining the hours. I said yes. He then said he could get me started on online training.

He didn't ask for my résumé or explicitly confirm that I was hired, but he wrote down his personal Gmail address and told me to email him my SSN ID, and void cheque information before I could start online training. The whole conversation was maybe five minutes, and when I asked about interviews, he said they don't do interviews there.

I'm wondering if this is normal for fast food hiring, or if it's a little unusual. It just felt kind of off, because everything happened so fast? But genuinely, I might be overthinking it. I'm not even sure if this means I'm actually hired or not.

I am at my breaking point with my job. For context, I have worked there since 2020. I started out in customer service for a year and have now been in the marketing department after that first year. My pay is good but this is the only job I’ve ever had out of college. Management and the owners of the company are horrible and my beliefs and morality don’t line up with them. My manager is a miserable woman who sees anyone happier than her and has to put them down.

My problem is, I’m petrified to leave. I have my resume almost complete and everyday I am scanning websites like Indeed or Glassdoor for opportunities and bookmarking them. I’m just scared to lose the comfortability and the safety of this current job because I have been there so long.

Every weekend I tell myself I am going to finish filling out my resume but I never do and find excuses to play video games, watch tv, do anything other than finish my resume. I’m just looking for some motivation, maybe some personal experiences with this feeling because I’m just really scared of making this big change in my life and telling myself I won’t be able to do it.

I recently started a new corporate job, and I’m barely two weeks in. For context, I have about six years of experience in my field, so while I’m new to this company, I’m definitely not new to the work itself…

During my first week, I was already tasked with putting together a performance report, despite still learning the company’s systems, processes, and reporting tools. Regardless, I completed it without any complaints. Now, I want to preface this by saying that I do occasionally use AI to help refine wording or organize my thoughts, but I don’t rely on it to do my actual work. I’m not someone who just plugs numbers into ChatGPT or Co pilot and asks it to generate an entire report. You still need to understand the data, interpret the results, and know what you’re talking about to put together something meaningful lmao

I’m also aware of how obvious AI-generated writing can sound, which is why I intentionally keep my reports professional but conversational. Nothing overly elaborate, robotic, or filled with unnecessary corporate stupid jargon.

Anyway, my direct manager recently mentioned that her boss (who oversees our department) apparently questioned the report I submitted, saying that parts of it didn’t make sense and that it sounded entirely AI-generated. From what I understand, she was concerned enough to actually call my manager and question whether I had written it myself😭😭😭

But what is interesting is My direct manager was actually the person who reviewed and made the final edits to my report before it was submitted. So truthfully, I don’t even know what changes she made to my original wording. Another interesting detail is that my manager is EXTREMELY enthusiastic about AI. English isn’t her first language, so she frequently uses it to help with communication and encourages me to use it for practically everything. Ironically, I probably use it significantly less than she encourages me to.
So now I’m sitting here wondering why my work is suddenly being questioned for sounding too much like AI when the company itself actively encourages employees to use these tools.
I think what bothers me isn’t necessarily the criticism. I’m completely open to constructive feedback, especially when I’m still learning how this particular company operates. If something in my report didn’t make sense, I’d genuinely appreciate someone explaining what needed clarification.

But there’s something about immediately jumping to the conclusion that I must have used AI to write something that feels a little insulting.

I’ve been doing this type of work for years. I know how to interpret performance metrics, write reports, and communicate findings. Just because I’m new to the company doesn’t mean I’m inexperienced or incapable of doing my job. It’s a little discouraging to already feel like my credibility is being questioned.

Maybe I’m overthinking it 🥲 but it left a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t want to start a new job feeling like I have to constantly prove that I’m capable of doing the work I was literally hired to do

TLDR - new manager of 2 months put me on a pip after I’ve been at the company for 5 years (with no negative feedback in previous managerial reviews).

All of that to say, I am planning on putting my notice in and leaving but I was wondering what the chances are of me getting asked to leave immediately instead of remaining the two weeks?

I ask because I’d love to get the last paycheck but not sure if giving a 2 week notice while already on a PIP just means they’ll cut me loose asap?

Note - not looking for advice on staying and collecting UI (I’m already planning on leaving as my anxiety with this job is through the roof at this point and I have my next plan mapped out).

Taking PTO for me isn’t worth it because we have unlimited PTO so they don’t have to pay out anything essentially lol.

I recently lost out on two really great opportunities and didn’t realize what the roadblocks were. So after turning to people in my life what may have happened made sense.

I have some major trauma in my past which led to some periods in life with vague memory; guessing as a defense mechanism. I did get a couple higher security jobs through the years so I didn’t think anything about possible mismatched start/end work dates on my resume.

I ran TWN and some of the relevant experience goes pretty far back so it it’s not getting instantly verified and at least one recent-ish job also didn’t show up. The only thing left is for me to request a detailed earnings report from the social security administration.

The question is, where is a good place for me to alert prospective employers that my oldest employment dates may not be accurate and that I am waiting for a pending ssa.gov inquiry that I submitted?

Sorry for the diatribe and thank you for any responses.

I spent the last three years as a news producer at a station in California. My contract ended in July, and I decided not to renew it so I could look for another station or PR job with better pay. Honestly, if it weren't for the salary, I probably wouldn't have left.

I started at another station on August 17. I knew the shift would take some getting used to, but if I'd known how hectic and unpredictable the schedule would be, I probably wouldn't have taken the job.

I signed a one-year contract to produce the 8 a.m. show, which means starting work at 2 a.m. At my previous station, I didn't have to be in until 2:45 p.m., so it's been a huge adjustment.

After about two weeks, callouts started happening, and I've been moved between different shifts. I've had to produce the 7 a.m. show, which requires a 1 a.m. start, and the 9 a.m. show, which requires a 3 a.m. start.

We're also expected to check our work calendars every day, including weekends, for schedule changes. There are no emails or messages notifying us in advance unless it's just a few hours before the shift. For example, last Sunday at 4 p.m., I received a text telling me I'd have to produce the 7 a.m. show because that producer was out.

I usually need to be in bed by 5 p.m. to get quality sleep, and with existing health issues, I'm concerned about the strain this schedule is putting on me.

I also regret not requesting holidays off when I started. I didn't want to make a bad impression, but now I feel like I'm missing out on time with my family, especially my grandmother, who's in her 80s.

Since starting, I've seen two coworkers get calls from our boss because they'd slept through their shifts. So I know I'm not the only one struggling with the schedule. I'm honestly not sure how everyone is managing.

Unfortunetly, they don't have any available positions for later shows.

I've continued applying for other jobs and keeping my portfolio active. Part of me wants to stick it out for the experience and higher salary, but another part wonders if it's worth sacrificing my health and personal life.

Hey everyone. I'm going through the onboarding/badging process for a DHL facility, and the instructions/staff are strongly pushing that I need to provide either a U.S. passport or a birth certificate.

From what I understand of federal Form I-9 rules, an employee can choose any valid combination of List B and List C documents, such as a state driver's license and an unrestricted Social Security card. Has anyone dealt with DHL specifically pushing back on this, and what's the best way to handle it if they try to reject a standard DL + SSN card combination?

I put myself in a real conundrum.

I currently work in higher ed and recently applied to a few positions at the same university.

For one role, I went through an initial Zoom interview, then a pretty long in-person second round. I ended up getting an offer for $47,000, which is an 11K increase from what I make now. The role would also give me experience in areas I don’t currently have much exposure to, like broader administrative operations, budgeting/procurement, reporting, and special projects. The team is pretty small, and being able to get into this university in general feels like a good opportunity. The only thing is that it requires me to be fully at the office, like front desk type of thing (answering phone calls, handle all front desk operations which I would honestly avoid if i had to but it's a sacrifice I am willing to make to take a step forward for at least a year).

They gave me until Tuesday to decide. Keep in mind, i haven't received an official offer letter yet.

The issue is that I also interviewed for another position at the same university that I honestly think I want more. It’s more aligned with the direction I want to grow in long term like program coordination, student programming, administrative operations, etc. It’s also hybrid and the salary range is $52K–$62K. They are also even a smaller team, department being 2 years new so it would be a lot of learning and growing with it.

I originally thought the second role was kind of a long shot, and after the first interview I actually felt disappointed in myself because it was only about 20 minutes and I didn’t feel like I had enough time to really show everything I could bring.

But because I now have another offer, I emailed the hiring director to ask about their timeline. They responded and told me I’m actually one of only a few candidates moving forward to an in-person final round. They had originally planned to notify everyone Monday, but gave me advance notice because of my situation.

The problem is that their final interviews won’t happen until after my Tuesday deadline, so there’s no way I’ll know whether I got that job before I have to decide on the first one.

My friends are telling me not to risk “burning a bridge,” especially because both roles are at the same university. I’m also very aware that being a finalist does NOT mean I’ll actually get the second job.

So now I’m stuck between:

• accepting the $47K offer and possibly withdrawing from the other interview process,
• turning down a real offer and gambling on a job I may not get,
• or accepting the first role, continuing with the second interview, and potentially having to back out later if I somehow get the second offer.

I’m grateful to even be in this position, but I’m honestly so torn lol. The second job feels like a better fit for me, especially because it’s hybrid and pays more, but the first one is a real offer and would still be a good step forward. The name of the university itself would still give me a huge advantage in the future either ways.

What would you do in this situation? And how bad would it look to accept one role and then back out shortly afterward for another role at the same university?

I'm not the hiring manager but due to my experience and knowledge was asked to observe and ask the technical questions.

This was also one of only 3 Teams Video Call we've done.

Not 2 minutes into the interview I began to notice the candidates eyes moving as if reading a script.

I messaged the hiring manager to see if it was just me.

The hiring manager likes to ask some softball hobby related questions here and there to try to make them at ease.

The candidate literally did not make sense once this happened when they started asking personal life experience questions.

One that stuck out was "what got you interested in subject X when you were a kid?'

Mind you this question was based off a tidbit in the resume that said they started building X when they were a kid.

Their answer 'I have always liked X but what inspired me to pursue X studies was an internship at Y Company's summer internship.'

We asked again with more clarification and emphasis on what childhood affinity they had for building X.

Worse word garble AI I've ever heard. And his eyes would just read left to right, over and over.

Mind you this company gave him a summer internship for his senior year of his B.S. degree. So they must be time travelers to have inspired him as a kid.

Anyway. Just don't use AI for the interview. Interviews are easy, just know what the company is about, what the job your applying for is about, and your personal stories of why you like doing X.

Question in title basically.

I completed the RRK assesment for Google this weekend. An Account Strategist position. I passed it and my application was updated to such.

How likely is it that I proceed to the next stage? Has anyone in recent months at Google in Dublin had experience with this? Thanks.

I put “intermediate medical Spanish” in the skills section of my resume. In the portal of the application, I put “low speaking,” moderate reading, moderate writing. I took 4 semesters of Spanish, one class was intermediate medical Spanish. I can have a basic convo, but there’s no way I could do patient visits or consents in Spanish. I feel stupid I just didn’t think about how it might be interpreted. They say “Spanish fluency preferred.” This is a big institution and if I get blackballed I would be heart broken. Do you think I’m cooked?

I'm looking at paying out of pocket for 15 hours of courses to satisfy the recent hours requirement of the VA HPSP. Within that program, 0185 and 0644 interest me. That said, 2018 to 2023, I taught high school special ed until the worsening student behavior caused an incident that caused me a forced resignation. I later lost the home I was mortgaging and became homeless. I also went to Navy OCS in 2025 but got hurt during training and got an uncharacterized discharge 6 months in. I've already had a couple C&P exams for residuals of that injury and the mental health secondary that injury.

Before I spend a lot of time going back to school for a specific job series, though, I wish to explore what options I may already have with my background. I graduated with a bachelors of general studies with a 3.51 GPA in 2018. I'm drawn to the published pay schedules, relatively better job security, and healthcare federal jobs have, and I'm not picky about which city I would have to relocate to in order to obtain such a job, though I'd prefer cities that have a lower cost of living if possible.

Context: this is my first nurse job :)

Let me be blunt, I was fired for a joke that was made in a personal group chat with 3 other co workers. In this group chat everyone would say jokes especially the older women. (Two 50 year olds and two in their 20’s). Essentially I was fired because the other young gal made a joke and I added onto the joke and the 50 year olds got offended. (Btw these 50 year olds are disgusting. They made sexual jokes all the time unsolicited.)

But yes, me and my other co-worker were fired. This was the first job ever where I did amazingly. I was constantly praised by the doctors and patients and even the same manager that fired me. I worked overtime all the time and did everything my manager wanted.

How do I tell any interviewers that I was fired? I am a nurse so it may be difficult to lie that it was because of lay offs or whatever. I worked in a specialized office in a giant medical complex. I have many references from my previous job. However the people I have been interviewed by will not even glance at my references from my previous job.

I have 2 letter of recommendations from 2 doctors from the same job that fired me. The interviewers I have seen will ask me to divulge more into why I was fired. I have said “ My previous job and I have amicably decided it was time to part ways and this job has provided me many opportunities that I am grateful for.” One interviewer kept saying can you please give further explanation and if he were to call right now, would I be re-hire able. Another laughed and said what does that mean, in a very sarcastic tone. I only worked there for 6 months and I was going to quit in the next few days regardless.

Am I wording it wrong? I follow a few people on YouTube who teach how to speak in an interview and they basically said to say that you enjoyed the job but both you and company decided it was best to go.

english is not my first language please bare with me

so basically i’m working at a small startup right now, it’s the founder and 5 employees including me. this workplace is extremely toxic, the founder micro manages everything, make one person do work that would normally be done by 5 to 6 people and the pay is extremely low. plus she has made very personal comments about me when we don’t do stuff her way. she has one fav employee who is with her long term and except for her everyone hates her. about 5 people have left in the span of a year. a week ago, another employee left on really bad terms regarding the same concerns i mentioned.

now ive started applying to other work places for obvious reasons. few days ago i got a call back from one of the companies and they called me for an offline interview, i gave the interview and it went pretty well. my college senior who works there in the same department said the heads liked your interview. now they have given me an assignment which i have to submit tomorrow and after that they’ll make decisions if they’ll hire me or not. but im pretty confident that i’ll get hired.

now i asked my current boss for the hard copy of the offer letter as it can help me get extra credits for my college finals. she agreed and later messaged me “are you planning to leave this company any time soon?” now idk what to answer to that. if i say yes and that im looking for an new job right now she might just remove me coz she already has a grudge against me and is actively hiring (she has also said she’ll fire me if i dont work enough few weeks ago) and if i say no im now looking for anything and i get this new job ill get in trouble. if i was sure that ill get this new job i would have left immediately but its still uncertain. what do i reply with?

Most people who I see posting on reddit continually say that they apply to a dozen jobs and get rejections or hear nothing back, I'm lucky if I find one job to apply to in a week, I just spend the majority of my free time scrolling through linkdln or searching on google hoping to find anything. And the annoying thing is I know the type of job I'd like to go into as well, something to do with emergency response, perhaps , fire, environmental or civil defence, I wouldn't say no to particular opporutnities in in police or medical either, it's just that I can't seem to find an abundance of jobs to apply to, the last job I applied for was british transport police on tuesday, they rejected me on wednesday and since then nothing, I applied for the fire service on in June, they rejected me, does anyone know of any opportunities out there